We broke up about 2 months ago and haven’t talked since. I’m not going to make any excuses or paint it out like I’m innocent because I’m not. It was my fault that we broke up by being drunk and saying stupid things to her while in an argument. I’ve felt horrible ever since it occurred and I’ve just wanted to make things right ever since.
She blocked me on Snapchat a few weeks after the argument and we haven’t had one conversation about what happened which genuinely does hurt but I completely understand that she gets to decide whether or not I get a chance to speak to her again and I respect that she doesn’t want to, despite it killing me inside. The no closure thing is really the main issue, I don’t expect things to get back to how they were with her, it’s just the fact we haven’t spoken about it at all and it’s ended like this.
I’m just struggling to move on and can’t stop thinking about her and how badly I screwed up everything. I want to move on because I’m tired of feeling like this, while constantly living in the past. It’s also painful to see that she has moved on relatively easily and I just wish I could do the same.
It’s been the worst 2 months I can remember and it’s affecting me in all aspects of my life. I’m just looking for some advice on how to stop thinking about her and the situation because I just want to move on and for it to be over. Before I spiral completely out of control.
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Unfortunately it’s not really a situation that you can just not think about.. it’s the sort of thing that you have to go through in order to move on with life. That grief and regret is essential for getting over the relationship. No one’s said it’s easy. If you’re truly struggling and it’s crippling many aspects of your life, and you’re getting yourself into a mental dark hole, I’d recommend seeking a counsellor or therapist to temporarily help you while you work through these feelings. Sometimes we need some extra help with tough life changes and there’s nothing wrong with that.
I wish that I could say “Here, this is an easy fix! You’ll be good as new by tomorrow!” But that won’t happen. Try to take care of yourself and you’ll make it through this when it’s time. Don’t feel ashamed or be scared to reach out for help if you start spiralling.
Go out and find yourself a rebound.