No kids just you two!
Some of my friends more coworkers are sale addicts and I wonder how Thier husbands feel about it.
Only answer is that they won't mind cause it makes her happy! She wants me happy!
No kids just you two!
Some of my friends more coworkers are sale addicts and I wonder how Thier husbands feel about it.
Only answer is that they won't mind cause it makes her happy! She wants me happy!
Hell yes my ex was like this he'd buy stupid stuff and spend all his money on junk food and war hammer it was a massive red flag for me but he had plenty of them not just to do with money.
Stability is very attractive to me I want a man I know will look after me and is good with his money and works hard. Its also a big sign of having no self control that can lead to other bad things
So true we often ignore the red flags or feel they are not that bad!
Little self control spins out of control fast!
I don't date people with credit scores below 750. Chances are if they got at least that high they have realistic spending practices already assimilated. I also would never merge bank accounts. You don't need my money if you have a job. If you didn't have a job and I gave you money every week, you still don't need access to the rest of my assets, so do as you see fit with your money, so long as you can pay your portion of the bills and whatever expenses you rack up, have at it.
I would not marry in the first place...
I don't go into relationships first to later find out these things about them... lol
a lot of people do!
recipe for disaster...
for divorce, that is
My brother is having trouble with his wife. She is spending all of his retirement money that he worked very hard for. He opened his card statement and it was $6200!! He had no idea she was spending so much money. I think she would buy thing and hide them from him. 🤷🏼♀️
Really wow! Some women jump men like that when older.
But how do you hide that much?
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How would we get to the point of being married without knowing this about her?
To control spending is today an euphemism of being too broke to afford a normal living. Lots of people think about skipping lunch to make it through the month (as it was the case with me).
Yups I think
Something I wanted to bring up is when McDonalds first opened in the... i don't know when exactly it was but around the 1950s a meal consisting of burger, fries and coke was priced at 35 cents.
In 2009 a McMenu has costed 6 EUR.
Today in 2024 a McMenu costs 10 EUR.
The prices keep going up. The wages stay the same.
Better find and make your own money making source. Fulltime jobs these days can barely shelter us. I don't get to eat as often as I want to.
I’d be afraid to even marry them. Already am
Already nervous?
he's a bit impulsive when it comes to buying tools and upgrading his vehicles
I wouldn’t marry someone with either a shopping addiction or gambling addiction.
Smart but a lot of people still do!
No I don't mind if she spend my money if she is happy her happiness matters more then anything ma'am.
See some just choose that and others are like why lol such different opinions
Yes ma'am it's understandable everyone have different opinion but for me if my money make her happy then i will use my money to make her smile everyday.
i think it depends on how much and what they are spending it on.
it gets to a point spending a lot more money the person makes in a month, I would get a divorce. my friend had a big spending problem. one day he went to walmart he bought every console gaming they had available. one xbox 360, one ps3 etc. he had build up $5000 on credit card, he was only playing $10 each month. his parents had to help him out to pay all the money.
I have a lot of money. One of the key things I look for when I date someone is that she is not a gold digger or materialistic. If I married someone I would keep our money separate and probably give her a generous allowance for her to spend on whatever makes her happy in addition to paying our living expenses. She can spend that as a gift from me but if she wants more she will have to discuss it with me first.
I would not marry someone bad with money. My mother is horrible with money and it made my life hard. So I would never be with someone who doesn't know how to spend within their means.
that would be stupid she would get money in the divorce anyway... but instead i would start buying luxuries so then she would feel the minus.
if that did not work i would cut my job hours cause her pay for everything.
Too many choices there.
People like this dont change ( or can't change ) , its a vital part of life , financial , and of course , its going to destroy the marriage , just as gambling would.
His money. As long as he knows where to support me in terms of share responsibilities, I don’t mind where he places his money. I would if our mortgage is due and he blew a portion.
I feel like that we'd find out about this... habit before we married here unless she's just really good at hiding the fact that she loves to spend money.
Depends. If it's just hoarding crap, then she probably has a mental illness and the spending is a part of it.
That is a very serious problem. First I would not have joint finances. Our accounts would be separate and she wouldn't have access to mine.
You forgot, “no” as an option. Anyway, I don’t believe in sharing money in relationships. Their budgeting is their responsibility.
The last one is a no!
But yes I did forget just a No option
I broke up with my ex over her spending.
Lol that girl was shocked.
if it began to put us in financial hell, I would probably start thinking about it.
We have definitely worked through some spending issues. It takes time and trust
Marriage is too dangerous for men in the west. All risk, no benefit.
That's none of my business. Her money is her money. As long as she pays her bills that's all that matters.
A prenup is significantly restrained by the law, and many legal rights cannot be changed by a prenup. One of those is that, DURING your marriage, you have shared responsibility for your collective finances. While the exact rules can vary from state to state, most or all are similar on this point.
Marriage, in the eyes of the government, is a business contract, and yet most people do not know or understand the terms of that contract when they sign it - nor are you encouraged to. If the laws were read out to people before they were signed, marriage rates would plummet from their already low numbers until those laws were changed.
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