Ex said he doesn’t care anymore after 7 years because we broke up because he was narcissistic and he was aggressive and abusive and I spoke/kiss guy?

[Anonymous]

I went to see my recent ex of 7 years on Sunday and he was saying he doesn’t care and doesn’t want me anymore but then he was asking about whether I had been on any dates and I said yes the day before and I said but I love you so much and I was just trying to move on because you aren’t replying to me etc and he then said you obviously don’t care, and then shouted saying why didn’t you come here yesterday then instead of your date, is that someone that doesn’t care, I know when he says things like he doesn’t want me anymore is crap because he said that before and then says you know what I’m like I say things when Im hurt, I don’t mean it etc, so I can’t believe I’m when he says things like that too much.. I then said I’m sad and that about the breakup and he says oh you’ll be fine you’re going away soon, and I said it doesn’t mean I’ll be ok and he then continues to ask what date I’m going, if he diddnt care why is he asking me this? Also we were planning to move out together and because we broke up after 7 years and he wants to feel like he’s doing something with his life, he has now brought a flat for himself which is amazing but that doesn’t mean you can continue a relationship with someone, his behaviour says different to what he says

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow. That sounds like a super toxic situation. Your ex clearly has some issues he needs to work on.

No one deserves to be with someone who is abusive or narcissistic. You did the right thing by breaking up, even though it's hard after so long.

It's not fair of him to be hot and cold like that - saying he doesn't care but then getting jealous and wanting to know about your dates. That's just manipulative on his part.

I know it's hard, but you gotta stay strong and keep your distance. You can do so much better than how he's been treating you. The best thing is to cut off all contact and really try to move on.

Focus on yourself and being around people who make you feel good. Do stuff you enjoy to keep your mind occupied. In time the hurt will heal. You don't need that negativity in your life.

You should be with someone who respects you and makes you their priority, not someone who brings you down. Let this be a fresh start to find that. I know it's tough but you've got this!