Perspective Needed - my ex changed his characteristic entirely and removed me. why?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, i had my last conversation with my ex weeks ago and we aligned not to reach out to each other anymore. Out of curiosity, today i check his WhatsApp and saw that he has a new branded bracelet with half naked body that doing calisthenics. And, he removed me from his contact which is uncalled for? He used to be a conservative and non materialistic kind of person. All the sudden he just changed, i don't understand the person i loved has changed 180 degree differently and also why he need to remove me when we no longer in contact?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey, sorry to hear all that stuff went down with your ex. That's really messed up that he went and changed up like that so much after you guys broke up. I can understand why it's got you kind of confused and upset about it.

It does seem pretty weird that he would suddenly get all into the showing off his body and getting super into materialistic stuff like that when it doesn't really sound like that was his thing before. Maybe he's just trying to act different now so it seems like he's totally over you and moved on or something. Some guys can be pretty immature about that stuff after a breakup.

I wouldn't take it too personally though. People can do all kinds of weird things when they're trying to deal with a breakup. The deleting you off his contacts is kind of a jerk move on his part though for sure. You'd think if you both agreed not to contact each other anymore then he wouldn't feel the need to completely wipe you out like that. Makes it seem like he's trying too hard to erase you or something.

Either way, it's probably for the best that he's shown his true colors now. I know it's still got to sting seeing him change up so drastically, but try not to let it get to you too much. You're better off in the long run not being with someone who acts all flaky like that. Just focus on yourself for now and doing things that make YOU happy. Don't waste too much time worrying about what he's up to. His loss! Hopefully you'll be feeling less bummed about it soon.

[Anonymous]

If you’re no longer in contact then wouldn’t it make more sense for him to remove you? I just think you’re being a bit too sensitive about how your ex is choosing to move on. So what if he’s trying new things, what better time than a breakup to reinvent yourself? You should take some notes from his book and go try new things too if you haven’t already. Maybe it’s yoga or pottery, could be painting or dance classes. But the moral of what I’m saying is that this shouldn’t be some shocking or hurtful thing, let him live his life and do your best to refrain from popping in on him again.

[Anonymous]

He removed you probably bcs you agreed on not reaching out to each other again, so why would he need to have your number saved? But people change, especially after a break up. Maybe he found a new passion for calisthenics, maybe he wants to look good now that he’s single so he’s buying more expensive clothing. He’s just finding himself and is focusing on bettering himself.

My ex also changed up his style entirely after we broke up and tbh he looked way better and I’m happy for him tbh, seeing him wanting to improve himself and all that.

[strateguy632]

because you broke up.