My husband divorced me after being married for 5 years. Together for 10. We have a 2 year old little boy. I am still madly in love with him and never wanted the divorce. We had major trust issues and he was disrespectful. So much resentment built up that it was taking a toll. I didn’t trust him so never let him hang out with friends or I would fight. He would still do it at times and go to the clubs, get on tinder and lie to me about it. I was in a place where he made me feel insecure and like he was always looking for someone better: anyway, I know deep down he’s a kind, caring and good man. He has SO much potential to be amazing and when he was madly in love with me he was amazing, and never did anything to hurt me. The resentment over the years built that wedge between us. But now the thought of him with someone else is killings me because I know he would’ve changed over time but he doesn’t want me. The thought of all our hard work and lessons he learned he is just going to treat the best woman like a queen. I feel like I pushed him away even though he fucked up at times to. How do I get over this?
How do I get over my ex husband back that I love so much?
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Ah man, that's really rough. Going through a divorce and breakup with kids involved makes it like 10 times harder. I can tell how much you still care about your ex too, that's gotta be so tough.
A few things that might help:
- Let yourself grieve and be sad for a bit. Breakups suck, don't rush through the emotions. Crying, venting to friends, whatever you need.
- Try remembering both the good and bad parts of your relationship. Yeah he had potential, but go back to why all the resentment and trust issues started too. Maybe not everything was meant to be.
- Stay busy! Hit the gym, take a class, hang with friends - anything to take your mind off him. Helps the time pass faster too.
- Remember you still gotta coparent together, so try keeping contact polite but limited if possible. No good dwells on what could've been.
- Focus on YOU. Maybe now you'll meet someone even better who doesn't hurt your trust like that. You deserve to feel secure!
It'll take time for sure, but you'll get through it. Just be kind to yourself in the process. Your kid needs happy parents - you'll both move on eventually. And who knows, maybe one day you guys can even be friends. But for now, trust it's for the best even if it doesn't feel like it. You got this!
He was doing things that come close to actively cheating on u but think he is a good man damn u are damaged