Should I send message to my girlfriend because she and I are on a break and I miss her?

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We have been together for a long time, and we were actually thinking about getting married. She wanted to take a break from the relationship because of her recent health problems. I actually wanted to support her during this process, but she preferred to be alone. Do you think this is an excuse for a break up?

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

I don’t like when people do the whole “is this a good excuse”, because the thing is it doesn’t have to be. Like you never have to agree with why someone wants to break up or wants space, it’s their choice and it doesn’t have to be cleared by you or live up to what you feel are adequate grounds for a split. She asked for space, so my advice is to respect that. She specifically doesn’t want your support, and if that is her way of leading to a breakup then that is her choice. You options are to either be on standby and wait to see if what happens or go live your life and put that on the back burner.

BK2482047329 · Accepted Answer

yes bro you need to talk to her about how she is doing and if she is dating or talking to another guy.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

Give her the space she asked for. It's okay to send a short message to her, something like "Thinking of you" to let her know you still care without putting pressure on her.

Some people are saying move on, which you may eventually do. But she may be asking for space because she feels not good enough for you because of her medical issues. Since you don't know why she feels she needs space, let her know you're still around.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Move on. I don’t see the point of taking a break. To me taking a break means you’re rethinking your relationships. You’d think someone was going through some health issues they’d want someone by their side. Is it something like cancer? Sounds like she’s being selfish. I’ve been w my girl for 16 years, we’ve never taken a break. Women usually initiate a majority of breakups. Don’t be surprised if she wants to breakup.

Finchie40 · Answer

Nope, move on my man , couples that love each other , do not take breaks from each other , only selfish people have that selfish mindset , Kick her ass to the curb and move on and find yourself a girl that doesn’t need a break from you period

Miristheiss · Answer

Break?

There are no breaks. Only break ups. If your mate says "let's take a break" it is over. Just ghost them and start dating others.

She's most likely wanting a break to go fuck another man and to find your replacement. She'd only come back if the man screwing her doesn't want a relationship and she has to settle for you until someone else better comes along.

You commit to those who passionately and excitedly want you in their lives. If they are taking a break from you (excuse to have sex with someone else) and acts like they have to figure out if they want you in their lives then just leave. What type of weak, pushover settles for that luke warm, melba toast interest level.

It wouldn't surprise me at all if some OTHER GUY is "helping" her right now.

chiquita · Answer

Honestly, if you’re on a break, it’s probably better to give her the space she asked for. Reaching out too soon might push her away or make things more complicated. Let her miss you too if she wants to talk, she’ll reach out when she’s ready.

Emmytexrex · Answer

Hmmm she suppose to need you more in this time that she have health problems now she said she wants a break don't you think it's somehow I am not saying you should suspect her or anything but dude it's some how

chick · Answer

If you miss her, it’s okay to reach out, but keep it simple and considerate. Send a light, casual message that shows you care without adding pressure. Something like, "I’ve been thinking about you and hope you’re doing okay.” This keeps it warm but respects the space of the break.

Wraith_Cemetery · Answer

Some chick pulled that excuse on me before. She said she needed space while she was dealing with health issues. Found out later it was because she was cheating on me.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Give her space. Check in with her to ask about her health and leave it at that.

eclipse · Answer

Of course you should send a message, tell him how much you love and miss him. If more time passes, you will probably end up breaking up. If you don't want to break up, send him a message right away.

In_Trance · Answer

Consider yourself single and go your separate ways

Sunlight4 · Answer

It would be nice and might make her happy

slatyb · Answer

Yes, you should.

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