Ex boyfriend contact after 30 years?

[veronique]

i dated someone for 2 months 30 years ago an now he wrote me a letter apologizing for not treating me too great. and to see how I was doing w e then talked briefly on phone he's married so he told me he would call me from his work phone next day. he never did. what is the purpose of all this. if he's happily married why say all this to me. ?

[pj411985]

I can relate to that. My ex that I dated for few months eons ago contacted me because he feels guilty for saying things about me to a mutual friend. We've been texting/talking (less) for 6 mos now. Yes, he's married with fam and all. We talk about almost everything from sports, his family/wife, jobs, etc but nothing serious.

I don't know what your ex is up too. Maybe:
1. he's hitting his prime and wants to make amend of past wrong deeds he'd done before he hits the grave?
2. he's getting lonely from his "stale" relationship with wife
3. he still has feelings for you. even you two dated for a couple months.
4. he just wants to be friend with you; you're part of his past...
5. he's thinking to cheat on wife, thinking he can hook-up with you thinking you were easy back then?
6. I don't understand the part asking you to send him pics for what? as a souvenir?
7. I hope if you do have any feeling(s) for him, hopefully those feelings are not anything that lead(s) you both to hurtville...
8. Please whatever you decide to do DONT jeopardize their marriage. The way he acts and plan to act it's slowly lead it there--- destruction and heartache. Don't get involve in these process though.
9. Good luck, hon

[Anonymous]

He probably contacted you after 30 years just out of curiousity. With all the social media going on its just so easy to look up people from our past and be curious. He didn't call you the next day from work probably because he does not want to continue anything further with you. He said he was happily married so, he probably is. He just seems like he wanted to say hello, how have you been? and goodbye. Any further contact could jeapordize his marriage. So, just get over it... just because an ex contacts you to say hello after 30 years does not mean that he wants you back. And, obviously he doesn't if he didn't call you! he's happily married, that's why.

[Flexy]

Maybe you don't know the full extent of what he did behind your back, eitherway the guilt he's feeling compelled him to write to you, that's amazing! But 30 years is such a long time, I am very suspiscious that he's contacting you despite being 'happily married'. I think stay away but hear him out..

Maybe he just wants forgiveness, he could be very religious. If you two had sex maybe he wants to break the bond ties he had with you.. I dunnooooo

[Anonymous]

may be somehow he never got closure with you and one day mustered the courage to contact you. He might have had hard time in his marriage and it triggered past feelings and need to resolve those. Life is bizarre. I got contacted by an ex like 5 years after we had split, and she called me. I could sense she had broken up with her last boyfriend to date and was looking for some comfort and she always had some strong feelings for me. I gave her a bit of kindness and she went back to her life. I knew that was going to be the case and I wasn't interested by anything more than giving her someone to lay on fpr a couple of days. Sometimes it's just nice to be nice.

[veronique]

but I talked to him briefly on phone and he told me he would call me from work next day. he never did. the letter sounded platonic but if he's happily married why do all this?

[Opinion Owner]

I just told you why

[veronique]

but he's notlooking for comfort he's happily married it doesn't make sense to contact me for what?

[martyfellow]

You know guys never forget a crush, and there must have been something special about you taht made him always remember. He may nonetheless be happily married, this mayhave been a whim, a desire to revisit his youth, even if just for a few minutes.

He may be satisfied that he made contact. You WILL hear from him again, even if he has no intention of ever coming to see you.

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[riceboy287]

He probably is looking back what he has done in this lifetime and probably feels sorry for what he did or whatever he did. He probably didn't call cause of many reasons we won't know like because his wife heard him talking to you and scolded him or he just plain forgot or felt embarassed to. Just take his word for it.

[Fightingspirit]

A relationship, happily married, whether man or woman or whatever, you are still a person a human being with qualities and maybe without any sexual intent or any other hidden agenda he wants contact with you because he likes you.

This is just one of possibly many others...

[CatholicVirginia]

Maybe he's trying to spark an affair, or maybe he did legitimately feel bad for the way he treated you, and decided to set things straight. Maybe he's getting nostalgic. The question is, why do you really care? Isn't it enough that he apologized?

[brittanie]

probably just wants to know how you are. how life has treated you. what you are up to at this point in your life.

[veronique]

but he's married and its been 30 years. why would he wonder if he's happily married> he also told me he would call me from work next day but never did. what kind of person would do this?

[heyitsdan]

He's married but not happy... , maybe spark an affair !

[veronique]

he told me he's happy plus he lives in new york and I live in florida it doesn't make sense

[ivarei]

probably out of curiosity, wants to see how your life has turned out.

[veronique]

but I talked to him briefly on phone and then he told me he would call me next day from work .he never did I don't understand why he did this also

[ivarei]

it's not really important then, don't worry about.

[sephora]

he wanted to see how your doing? but took a long time to do so.

[veronique]

but he's married. if your married you don't contact ex girlfriends after 30 years. he's been marrie 24 years

[sephora]

my bad?

[Anonymous]

i wouldn't trust him he sounds shady...dont fall for him! he's married that means he's off limits. he's probably not happy in his marriage and is reflecting on his past to get the women he can.