Ex boyfriend contact after 30 years

[veronique]

im still searching for a good answer here. my ex contacted me with a 4 page letter, then we talked on phone. he wanted to apologize of how he treated me when we dated 30 years ago. he's married, lives in new york . I live in florida. doesn't mention unhappy marriage. he even wanted me to send him a picture. id ont get it. in his letter he said his motive was just to apologize for the past and now he wants me to send a picture .what for? who cares what I look like if your happily married. we were intimate but never had sex. I always liked him but we were immature back then. so he has a life now . I'm single. why even contact someone if your happy in your life?

[TrinaV]

Okay so I just went through this myself. My ex just contacted me after 27 years. We were very young. I thought he really just wasn't that into me. We broke up and I know I never really had closure. He is divorced and I'm married now. He knew that when he contacted me. He claims he just wanted to say hi and check on me and has no intentions on jeopardizing my marriage. He wanted me to know things like I'm the most genuine, honest, real person he can remember looking back on. Personally I think that there is something with midlife that makes us want to reach out to people that mean something to them and for some reason you touched him. Now for him not calling you back? My opinion is, I'm the married on in this scenario, and my experience we did talk and text and we connected too well probably... it's not that my ex said any thing wrong... He was saying everything just right!!! I'm not supposed to develop feelings for him now, I'm married! Follow me? We both backed off by the way. Your guy may have caught himself too. I don't want you to feel you did anything wrong. Just because I'm married doesn't mean I don't care about him. At least my ex made sure this go round that I didn't do anything wrong to cease our communication we just know as mature adults this is how it has to be...
Try to embrace it as a positive that he remembers you enough to reach out. I think that speaks volumes about who you are.

[Anonymous]

we don't have an answer. he was wondering how your life turned out. what do you want us to say? what would be satisfactory?

[dakraziest]

Ppl like to be free of guilt bfre they die so maybe he's just getting the load off his chest

[Lumberman53]

That's really odd he wants to contact you after so long