My boyfriend keeps saying "maybe we should just break up" when we get into arguments?

[Anonymous]

For the last two months any time we get into an argument it always seems like he freaks out over the littlest things when I try talking calmly about it, and in some point in the argument he says "well maybe we should just break up". Should I just take this as a sign he wants to but just doesn't have the balls to do it and is hoping I will? He still seems to want me, but other than in the bedroom seems like I'm raising our child on my own. He is always working overtime or playing video games, I can't remember the last time we spent time alone together, which I get is hard to do with a baby but I'm tired of hearing we should break up every time we have a slight disagreement. What should I do?

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Should clarrify we've been together for two years, and before he never said anything bout breaking up, that is why I wonder if he wants to and just won't do it.

[Anonymous]

My wife and I dated for three years before we got married (been married for six) and pretty regularly after the first couple months of dating, every 3-6 weeks, she's said this to me (only obviously in regards to divorce since we've been married) ... and so a few weeks ago, I finally decided I was tired of fighting to keep it together and told her that yes, we should probably end. And now she's having all these revelations, and this change of heart ... but it feels too late to my heart.

If you want to be with him, sit him down and tell him that if he keeps saying that you will wind up ending it with him, because you can't be in a relationship in which you're not wanted or it's taken so lightly. Maybe after you've already figured out the details of such an arrangement -- who would live where, how to pay bills, etc. -- and hold fast unless you see too much evidence of a real change in his attitude toward your relationship to ignore.

I still don't know what will happen with my wife and I, but I know a long-term relationship cannot be sustained permanently when every disagreement ends with one party threatening to leave.

[Anonymous]

You should take it as a sign that he's an emotionally manipulative little bitch.

The next time he thinks he's being smart by threatening to break up, call his bluff.

He's the one with more to lose, since you're putting way more into the relationship than he is.

[GGGGGG_unit]

Man, my beau says the same thing with me every time we have a huge arguement. he says he's not happy with me anymore and that we should just break up. it hurts my feelings because he throws it like its nothing :( but he doesn't do anything about it. why does he say things like this?

[imagezofyou]

Would you seriously give up this early when you guys have a kid together? Think about the kid. I don't know how long you guys been together, but its not fair for the kid to not have a father figure. I know some dads abuse their children and doesn't treat them right. At least he is working to take care of the family. Working over time may cause a lot of stress. Playing video games might be his way to relieve stress.

[Opalivian]

He's an overly sensitive and indecisive guy it seems. Either put up with his (get used to) his behavior or just end it. Wish you the best!