Polls: Break Up & Divorce

Would you rather break your lover's heart or have your heart broken by your lover? Why?

So, we broke up. I blocked him off of my Facebook because he hurt me so much. This all happened in April.

Its now November and we've only recently started talking a little again. I decided to unblock him on Facebook. I never friend requested him or anything. When I looked on his page, all of his posts and informations were private.

One week later (I'm guessing he realised I unblocked him) he made all of his posts public. So I could see literally everything.

There's suddenly all these posts about him going out and having a great time with new friends. Posts about actresses on to that he finds attractive. Posts about new projects he wants to get up and running.

I can see the lot. It just makes me wonder what his intentions are? We are talking now and then and he's a little flirty at times but standoffish at other times. I can also see other girls who are liking his posts.

Whats your take?

So i just entered the no contact phase after a 4 year relationship.

I've heard all the stories about how it can either fix your relationship or prepare you for the next one, but i'm simply hoping to come out stronger from this, and for both of us to be certain of what we both want.

I was curious about how those who have gone through this, and how it affected their relationship and whether it was worth it or not. Or do you think you were dragging things out?

So a few weeks ago my ex's best friend texted me saying he wanted someone to talk to. I asked him how he got my number and he said off my ex's phone. I want nothing to do with my ex as we had a messy break up and he's a major jerk. Anyway I deleted my ex's number long ago should I ask him to do the same I don't really like him having mine. Also he told me he hates me and im annoying so why in the world would he not block me/delete me I easily did.

In your opinion why do you think an ex wouldn't bring your stuff when they said they will?
Does it depend on situation? What is your experience?

My ex broke up with me. He broke my trust and said I was too nice and he couldn't be bothered and didn't know how to fix it. He didn't really want to break up with me he wasn't 100% sure. He could see how hurt I was and just ended it.

He said he would bag my stuff up and contact me in a few days for me to have it. True to his word he text and said he would drop it the following morning. He didn't. After 2 days I asked if he had in case it was on the doorstep and had been stolen or mistaken for rubbish. Nope. He said he would bring it one morning the following week. He hasn't. I haven't bothered asking again. Besides asking last week if he did drop the things I haven't contacted him even once. It's been over 2 weeks since we broke up. He did this last year, then brung my stuff to me and wnated to talk. I didn't want to. Then 2 weeks later he 'found' more stuff and bought it. Then a week later 'found' something else and bought it. Sunsequently then we had a chat about things. Started talking again and ended up getting back together.

A friend says it gives him control over me still (our relationship story is too long to tell)
I think it is either so he or I have an excuse to intiate contact or actually he doesn't really care much at the moment and letting me have it is of no value to him. ( I would let it go if it were not for an expensive bracelet that my brother got for me)

What is your experience from this situation?

So we broke up 2 months ago we hooked up a couple times but we haven't seen each other in almost a month. I really care about him and miss him like crazy. It's been 8 days of no contact and before tab he kinda would ignore me. I'm lost and stuck it was a4 year relationship and I think he's hooking up with other people as well. How can I get him back? Should I keep the no contact up?

I've been dating my boyfriend for one year.
He's the longest relationship I've ever had & the only person I've actually only dated besides dating someone in the past that was overly controlling and manipulative, I ended the relationship.

My current boyfriend is very rude.
he's constently on the computer watching netflix, playing video games & his best friend is over every day from 8am - 1am!
I love video games, but my life is becoming very repetitive and boring because he is lazy & he admits it.

I've became very depressed and loosing interest in life, I've also gained weight.

When I first met my boyfriend he was the sweetest guy I've ever met & now he's the rudest guy I've ever met.

He yells at me anytime I ask a simple question about anything.

He yells at me if I'm trying to give him affection when he's busy playing video games (which is all day.)

We rarely have sex & once he said "you would open your legs to anyone! you are only using me for sex, fucking whore." after planning a romantic night for us.

He calls me stupid, idiot & retard whenever I tell him that I'm afraid he will hurt me someday.

He calls me a bitch everytime he's mad at me.

I've tried leaving & he says "please don't leave me, lets work on our relationship, I love you very much. etc ."

I want to break up with my current boyfriend.. but I feel trapped.

I could care less about him keeping my furniture, TV's, etc .

I don't want to leave behind my cats.
My mother wouldn't allow me to bring cats into her home.

I want to move back with my mother, because I was happier.

I don't want to move back because I'm 22 years old and I would feel childish. :(

My boyfriend is 21.

I am afraid.. He swings at me, punches doors, throws things. :(

He's punched the bed right next to my face while laying down and it scared me very much.

He's only a nice guy when we have extra money or my birthday.

Please help.

One day I saw an emoji next to this girl's name on y boyfriends snaphat. I'm not the type to just search through his phonebut I saw it because it was blatant. I asked him about the situation and he said he hasn't message her since January andhe didn't know how the emoji got by her name. So I kept asking him did he messaged her and he kept denying it then finally he sarcastically said yeah I messaged her since that's what you want to hear and he kept this "lie" up for 10 minutes and he finally said he was just telling me what I wanted to hear. we discussed it in let it go he promised me that he was not talking to another girl. 3 days later he's on snap chat and I look at his phone and I was curious so I grab his phone is white and looked at his messages with herjust to be sure. All of a sudden I scrolled up and found all of these messages between him and the girl he supposedly did not message since January. He asked her if she wanted it (Sex) and meeting up so he could spend the night with her. He was telling her his hours at work and she even said herself that if you have a good girl don't mess it up with her you seem like a good guy. He completely disregarded what she said & was still trying to meet up. This occurred during a time when we were not having sex regularly because I recently got saved. He said it was a weak moment for him because he wasn't sure why we weren't having sex and he was not happy about it. He was very remorseful, crying, praying, and really trying to earn my trust back but I'm not sure because I have zero trust for him now and I don't want to put us through hell trying to regain my trust for him. I really love him but I'm just heartbroken about it. What should I do?

Me an my ex split at he start of the year, saying we wanted to remain friends as we had a great time together. We agreed to give space for a couple of months which we did and after that time I got in touch and he was a bit off with me. We had a bit of a spat due to the no contact thing, and I hurt him as I wrongly assumed he didn't want to go on something I had pre booked for us both.

I apologised for the mistake and tried to fix it but he still seems to not want to talk to me. I have as far as I can tell been blocked on whatsapp and yesterday I tried to follow him on Instagram and got blocked.

I do miss his friendship so this isn't about getting back with him, any ideas how to get in touch? We are still Facebook friends or leave him be?

Well, we were really happy and he later ignored me because of his job and later when he quit his job(for his personal reasons) he was free and wanted to be with me all the time. But, that's when i got busy. I had a busy schedule and i honestly didn't have any room for all the "love" stuff. So, He couldn't understand why i was ignoring him... I tried explaining him and yes, he was okay with it but i somehow sensed that he was not okay with the decisions i've been making about everything,lately. So, coming to the point... We had a heated argument last night and i said stuff to him in anger that i did not really mean, I've never felt so bad in my entire life. there's something inside me is telling that i made a huge mistake by letting him slip through my hands like that. I can't stop crying from last night, every song or anything i do is reminding me of him. What do i do? Should i go back and fix the stuff?
By the way the reason we broke up was that i needed some space and he couldn't give me that space. So, i screwed things up with him...

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. Two nights ago, I was really stressed out and we had a nigh fight over nothing and I told him that I wanted to end it. He asked if I was serious, I told him "yes" and that was it.

I called him the yesterday to apologize and he said that we should meet and talk. Last night we met and we said we still loved each other and wanted to stay together. Then he told me that the night before, he was heartbroken and hurting so he went to a bar. He got really drunk and then slept with another girl.

I don't know what to do. How could he do that to me? Should I take him back?

We dated for a year and had the most amazing, loving relationship, all our friends and families agreed. We hardly fought, were absolute best friends, understood each other more than we thought possible and said we were each other's dream bf/gf. He was diagnosed with depression 3 months into the relationship and it's fluctuated ever since then, sometimes getting really bad where he's very distant but he always snapped out of it. He sees a therapist but only every other week. We normally see each other every weekend but haven't seen each other in a few weeks because he was grounded for a while and a few days ago he had a breakdown because he was more depressed than ever and we went on a break to clear his head. He's been even more distant with his friends too. Today he broke up with me because he said he hasn't felt in love with me the last few weeks (same time he was extremely depressed and hadn't seen each other) but he said I was the most special person, he cares about me more than anyone, doesn't know what he's going to do without me. He said he hasn't been happy with us even though he said there aren't any problems and he hasn't been happy with anything lately. He said hed want to try again of he gets better because he wants me in his life and still sees me in his future. People said that since he's so depressed he isn't able to feel his love and that he'll come back when he straightens out. Just days before all this mess he'd say how he's never leaving and loves me so much and I'm his best friend.

Me and my husband were arguing it turned physical I slapped him in the face first and he came back with an even harder slap. It stunned me, the first time he's ever slapped me in a fight no matter how angry he gets. I don't know what to do. Why now when I'm so close to having our 3rd child. We'll be married one year next month

My first ex boyfriend broke up with me nearly two months ago. We were long distance and he decided after nearly 2 years together to end it with me over the phone. I did the crying and anger and even began a fling with someone else and I feel like I've moved on. But now our (my ex's and mine) friendship group has planned a trip to where I live for the weekend as it is the same distance for everyone. I want to see my friends but I've been trying to figure out if I could handle seeing him again but I feel numb. I don't seem to have any feelings or emotions about it and I have no idea what I'm feeling. I have been trying to work out how I feel and I just can't. I've looked it up and all I keep finding are articles aimed at men and not women. Am I completely alone in this? Am I completely broken? Is this normal?

I know it depends but what do you think? What's your experience? Our relationship really ended for no reason. Everything was great so it's only a matter of time before he realizes he lost something worth keeping..

How long do guys keep nudes after they end a relationship? Does it depend how much they were into their ex? Does it depend if they get into a new relationship? Does it depend if the new girlfriend finds out? A lifetime?
How long are nudes saved for? And why would you keep them after you break up?
So many questions lol sorry. .

I reached out to my ex via Facebook not text and we talked for hours and then he suddenly said" here's my number just text me if you want"?
*does He actually want me to text him or could he had said that to not sound mean? We did end in bad terms when we broke up and he said he never wanted to see me and each of us to go our separate ways. Months after he started liking on instagram everything would post. Then he even followed me in my car once to see where i was headed when i was in his neighborhood. About 3 weeks ago he put up a song on Facebook and i 'liked it" and 2 weeks after i put up the following lyrics up and he also "liked" it. We have a long history together.
He has me confused.

Say a guy was trying to pursue a girl that was overweight who was otherwise minding her own business. He likes everything else about her except her weight. But when she decides to pay attention and end up liking the guy he proceeds agree to anything else but date her unless she lose the weight. He rejects her especially since he had falsely assumed overweight or obese people are easy sex and she didn't put out yet he's still interested but afraid of what it will do to his image if he dates an overweight person. She loses the weight and now he's more interested than before. Is she obligated to give him the time of day especially after she was humiliated for nothing?