5 Weird Things That Turn Me Off About Guys

[Anonymous]

Inspired by this post about 10 weird things that turn the poster on.

1) Awkwardness

I know some people find a guys awkwardness cute, but it can get pretty uncomfortable and mutual comfort is just attractive to me.

2) Over Confidence

If you walk around thinking you're a God I'll automatically find you incredible unattractive.

3) Over Estimation Of Intelligence

Guys who walk around thinking they're so smart and shoving all of their opinions on religion, politics, and life down peoples throats because they feel their opinions are the only right ones are not only unattractive but really annoying.

4) Invading My Personal Space

Some guys will literally be aware of the fact that you are cringing away in disgust and yet continue to try and give you hugs and touch you. It's unappealing and it makes me like you even less.

Don't touch me. I shouldn't need to tell you that.

5) Over Masculinity

Giving our genders each specific roles is agitating. As in, thinking I shouldn't be the one driving or I should be the one cooking or any general sexism whatsoever. I don't want to be treated like you think I'm weak or less competent than you at certain things, I want to be treated like your equal and respected like a woman.

So there you have it, things that turn me off.

*prepares for the hoard of angry internet men*

[Anonymous]

*prepares for the hoard of angry internet men*

i think it's shit like that which makes men hate you, honestly. i know what you're thinking. you think you're just "being real" or whatever, but its girls like you that are contributing to this ever-growing dislike of women across the board that men are having.

im not saying you can't have preferences, but who do you think you're helping making egotistical thought-pieces like this? no one, really. you're just pissing people off. and you'll most likely point at the men who DO get pissed off at you and say "look! see! this is what they get like!" only cementing further dislike.

c'mon, just learn what humility is.

[OlderAndWiser]

So what is it that you do want in a guy?

[E-Nigma]

Why the dislikes? o_0 it seems like an honest question to me?

[OlderAndWiser]

@E-Nigma Yes, it is a sincere question. If I say, "I don't like A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, or J in a girl," it might leave you wondering 'hasn't he eliminated 99% of the girls out there?' You might also wonder if I have a rather negative attitude about girls since I am focusing on so many negatives.

So. . . I asked the question to try to get a better understanding of the motivations here. Why someone would read that and perceive a negative is beyond me!

[OPBinYYC]

MHO to this is to respond to each one of your so called turn offs with the male perspective:

1) Awkwardness: We're awkward because we realize you don't have two brain cells to rub together and are so self absorbed with yourself that we are like an animal caged and wanting to escape. We can only be your emotional tampon for so long and then we get annoyed and antsy and want to leave, instead we're awkward to make it more comfortable for you (actually I just end the date now, not going to waste my time on the 'all about me' women.
2) Over Confidence: We're overly confident because otherwise we're awkward, sorry we don't have time for grey area, men are straight forward in general and we don't want to waste time with mental gymnastics. Either we are left to have women say we are awkward, so we become confident so we can approach, by the way women 99.99 percent don't approach men do, so that sh*t takes balls so give it up for confident even overly confident men or else you'd be buying your own dinner, flowers, etc. and all the other (everything pretty much) things in life (besides shopping we hate shopping for girl stuff ).
3) Over Estimation Of Intelligence: So you'd rather have a man who sits there awkward? Conversation that is intelligent is that too much of a threat to your emotional dumping on the guy? Cutting into your 'all about me time' ? Honestly, if the were unintelligent then you'd complain, if he's average you say he's boring, if he's too intelligent you shame him. Get a grip on yourself!
4) Invading My Personal Space: If you didn't want to be on a date with him or spending time with him why bother, mens intent is to be with women that includes physically. If you wanted a male girlfriend get a gay guy please, or one of your girlfriends, please do so, us regular guys have things to do, like build everything women have in this world around them and keep society running as we've been doing for millennia before women's liberation.
5) Over Masculinity: Ummm that would be hypermasculinity. Not over masculinity, wait... I'm now over intelligent lol. FML seriously anything seems overly intelligent when simple grammar eludes you.

In summation here is my take on your closing statements.

Given our gender 'differences' (correct grammar usage) you feel the expectations placed upon each sex respectfully are aggravating (agitating is a physical action or verb upon a noun/object).

to be continued...

[OPBinYYC]

continued...

Additionally, you want to be treated equally but respected like a woman (equality + all the benefits of a woman = hypocrisy/benefit seeking feminist).

Great! I agree with you, you get your equality so guys, let her pick you up, pay for dinner, drinks, movie or whatever. You can do it next time you go on a date, just to show her you 'respect her as a woman - an EQUAL woman' ! Sorry can't have your cake and eat it too. Guys are catching on, if not they are a simp/mangina and need to grow a set.

Also, no anger here, I agree totally, let's all be equal. As men we shouldn't answer your calls or return your texts. Instead we will use you for everything (money, gifts, rides, time, emotions, sex, etc.) & when were simply bored of you we will dump you for the next woman that wants us regardless how much you put into the relationship.

That's true equality! Not one woman I know comes even close to men I know in terms of skills & versatility. We men are the trophy good luck girl

[OPBinYYC]

By the way, please understand you wanted to rock the boat, so there's a honest male perspective.

Also, I hope I'm not 'OVER' confident (high level or overbearingly confident);
OVER estimating my intelligence (no, I'm not over estimating (inaccurate estimation of my level of intelligence - I truly am a genius & I have MENSA scores to prove that shit, not that it matters, pearls before swine).
Over masculine (How can you be overly masculine, I am male be default, if you meant machismo or having exaggerated tendencies to portray male traits in a overly exaggerated manner then that may be annoying but it's no different than women putting on way too much makeup and dressing up like a hooker).

Cheers! (I. Q. 172 averaged over 5 different assessments) what value does that have? It means I have the sense to realize I've given far too much to this topic, but it's for the sake of the men, my fellow brothers, not to you. As I am assured that much if not all of my comments will elude/baffle you

[VomitV]

Well, shit. That pretty well destroyed the OP. Thanks for taking the time to write a long-ass post so I didn't have to, lol.

[Mscocobutter]

Bitter burned man #3

[OPBinYYC]

@Mscocobutter No one here is burned, the a male collective is just tired of women's bullshit, including yours. Pick up a shovel and hammer and build something and stop expecting men to do it all for you as ours and previous generations are tired of creating a world for women to live in such as yourself and then having this bs complaining about men in general. What do you contribute (don't include social media photos or consumerism because that's the downfall of society you as a female contribute to). Additionally, men don't have to put fakeup on, tell themselves they are plus size fabulous or 'few extra pounds' as we realistic not idealistic about the world. Hence how this world & civilization you live in was built on the backs of MEN. Everything every man & WOMEN enjoy was built on the blood, sweat, tears and lives of men, not women. Have some damn appreciation. We don't have fake boobs, fake asses, women are a walking billboard of deception. Men are just real, deal with it.

[OPBinYYC]

Oh and by the way, unless you contribute you came from a test tube your father, grandfathers, brothers, uncles, cousins and all the others that make your life tolerable or else you'd be living in a cave and a leaf to cover your private parts. Men go out there since the beginning of time and hunt, build, create and created the dominant species in the world. Women, they had babies, that's it. So take your head out of your butt and realize and APPRECIATE that men are sick of being judged when all women have to offer is their reproductive capabilities. So what if we're awkward, etc. We are all those things above because we can't understand a gender that solely relies on us as males but has no idea the importance of how the female gender survives because of males. If every man went on strike for a day the world would be in chaos. If women took a strike well the malls would be empty & things would get done efficiently by men (as it's been for millennia). Cheers!!!

[BigPunny]

Okay, so most of the things in there are relatively normal things that people would find unattractive, so okay. . . great.

But then I get to the end and I see this: "Giving our genders each specific roles is agitating. As in, thinking I shouldn't be the one driving or I should be the one cooking or any general sexism whatsoever. I don't want to be treated like you think I'm weak or less competent than you at certain things, I want to be treated like your equal and respected like a woman."

1) You can't be respected "like a woman" if you aren't playing YOURSELF into some kind of "woman role," which you had just stated you didn't want to be in a "specific role." So that doesn't make much sense and begs the question:

a) What the hell does being "respected like a woman" even mean if not being respected as a woman.

b) If you expect to be treated as an equal to the man, then don't you also have to rid yourself of any social norms associated with pre-women's rights, such as: a man being expected to open your door, a man being expected to pay for dates, a man being expected to come up to you first, a man being expected to bring home all the money, or a man being the one expected to die protecting you and the children?

It feels like you click-baited everyone into reading your MyTake so that you could end with some crap about men not treating you equally.

It is a biological fact that women and men are different -- you cannot factually assume/expect otherwise, because that's life. We're different. Men have been protecting women and children since we realized men were born to be protectors and women, nurturers and child-bearers (for the most part).

In fact, you brought up "don't be sexist" while saying some very sexist things. If you want to be considered 'equal' to men, then maybe some day you'll get exactly what you want, and I can tell you right now -- you aren't going to like it one bit.

So, the majority of the stuff you brought up is all preferential based on what you like/want, but then you went off the deep-end and had to turn it into some sexist rant.

Sorry, but that kinda' stuff annoys both men and women. Someone's always trying to get their cake and eat it too. If you don't want to be in a "woman role" then stop placing yourself in one by saying and believing the crap you said here, because it makes you a hypocrite.

Maybe you should start holding doors open for men and workin 60 hours a week and working dangerous jobs or risking your life.

[Belleza2]

I am sorry but are you a lesbian! Like what the hell? These are the traits you actually find in a guy/man! Want to know why men are assholes nowadays because little feminists like you and the other annoying ones on my campus and everywhere I go practically tell every guy he is an idiot and does not know what he is talking about yet, you all want a man to still pay for you or hold the door for you or fight for you! How does this make any sense in your head I do not understand!

I want a man who is intelligent and can talk about politics and religion and science and whatever else there is even if he is smarter than me I will learn something new and will never be bored!

I want a man who has confidence or is over confident because he knows what he wants and he can get it and if he cannot then he will brush it off and go "oh well, your loss"

I want my man to touch me and hug me and squeeze - ever notice how in public women initiate the first touch and kiss in everything because men do not actually do that!

Awkwardness - mmh it is in our genes, we all awkward!

Seriously, I really hope you reevaluate on how you think because sweetie you are giving all of us a bad name!

[myTake Owner]

Honey, the only awkward person here is you, and every other woman disagrees. So please, go gently glide your nonsense opinion up your wide ass. :)

[Belleza2]

aw, honey you are so not old enough to call me honey and thank you my ass is wide because I actually work out but anyway, how about stop cursing and actually speak intelligently because you are not doing that at all! If every other woman disagrees its probably because she is not a foreigner like me like ok oh and good luck with guys, that is if you are interested in guys!

[DandelionGirl]

Lmaoo she must be a lesbian, 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂I LOVE these traits in a man!

[AriesLove]

Right? I read this thinking so she wants a man that isn't too smart, too masculine, too touchy or too awkward.. well damn no wonder men now a days say they can't figure women out! Lol I am not perfect by no means why the hell would i search for a perfect man with zero flaws. I happen to think some flaws are cute. Be awkward, be witty, be masculine and sexy! That's the guy I would be interested in! ;)

[burlen]

@ Belleza2. She's probably a lesbo, asexual, or trolling bigot. Why hide behind an annoymous mask if she thinks she's qualified to speak on behalf of females? What is more, she cannot stand the scrutiny of her opinion without aiming insult at you. It's good you've shown your class by rising above that. Well-done. 👍🏽

[WillowTree]

I completely agree!

I don't find awkward guys cute. I see it as a lack of confidence. If I'm the only one making plans and pulling the strings, be it in a relationship or a simple friendship, I get turned off and can never think of the guy romantically.

AND THE TOUCHY ONES OMG! There's a mailman that comes by sometimes always wants to hug female residents. He'll be like "heeeey haven't seen you in a while" and we don't even know each other. At least I don't know him like that but obviously he knows my name. And a few other women on the block constantly dodge him whenever possible because he's always trying to hug. Just hand me my mail and be on your way.

The rest are all full of themselves in different areas. It's impossible to have conversations with #3s. My tolerance level wears out quick and I get bored and blunt. I don't mind a little bit of the #2s, especially if they can admit areas where they're weak or if someone else is better than them. If they're fair enough to give credit to other people, I don't mind if they have a bit of an ego as long as they can back it up. #5s are just assholes who are going to be alone forever and never truly happy and blame all their problems on women no matter what. I'd never give the time of day. Let them die alone.

[HotDogg]

Woah, that mailman is creepy...

[WillowTree]

@HotDogg I hate when he catches me in my garage. I pick things up or put stuff between us so I can just reach over and take my mail. I hardly run into him so it's not life interrupting, more like an occasional annoyance.

[HotDogg]

I'm thinking he's had success before seducing women that way, and that's why he keeps trying it.

[amarahorrorstory]

I can handle awkwardness to a degree, I wouldn't say I'm quiet awkward, but chatty awkward. Not everyone understands my personality so they take a while. If he's too quiet, I feel like I'm talking too much. I like confident men, I don't like cockiness, or guys who think their shitty personality will get them girls, like relax, be yourself. I agree, know it alls are gross, I don't mind a dopey guy if I'm honest, you don't have to be a walking encyclopedia but I do like someone with depth, you don't have to be book smart I guess. I have a few weird places that if you touch me I will get upset. I hate when people rest their hands on my shoulders, instant cringe. Overall, most guys I know respect my personal space but I'm not a cuddler. Over masculinity, yeah please don't think you're better than me just because you've got a dick. I think a primal type of man is hot, one that thinks I'm less valuable than him? Don't let the door hit you on the way out. I know girls who date guys who talk about how gross vaginas are and how bitchy girls are and I couldn't "love" a guy who thinks so little of women. I'd never trash men that way so I can't tolerate it.

[oldanddecrepid]

Why would anyone be angry with you. These are things that turn you off... not things that turn every woman off.

Hey if it doesn't work for you, then such as life!

You did the negative side, how about the positive now... perhaps a mytake on what turns you on now?

[fuqthegovt]

Probably nothing because she's a lesbian but doesn't realize it yet.

[myTake Owner]

@fuqthegovt I'm a lesbian because I don't like males with big egos?

[oldanddecrepid]

Hey your just being honest about what turns you off of guys... I am sure other lesbians likely feel the same way.

[fuqthegovt]

Maybe. Generally if they can't think of anything about a guy that turns them on but can think of a long list of turn-offs it's a dead giveaway.

[myTake Owner]

Just because you can get laid doesn't mean all women are lesbians, you're just repulsive is all :)

[YourFutureEx]

Just because it is YOUR take, it doesn't mean that I cannot opine here. This is my space too and I am confident about it because I AM a MAN. No, this is not over-confidence, this is just your perception and I know because I am intelligent. Okay this is awkward :|

[LunaLawliet]

😂😂

[dangerDoge]

Hahaha at first I was trying to figure what angle you could disagree with, but now I see what ya did 😏

[YourFutureEx]

@dangerDoge ;)
I hope the take owner doesn't take offence lol.

[Bubbles123X]

I agree with you! I can't stand any of those you've listed and I can't stand over-masculinity! This one I've wondered about. I thought something was wrong with me. I also hate them (or anyone) telling me what to do. Giving advice I don't need. I don't like being dominated. I also can't stand men who can't make a phone call but who text all the time without getting to the point. Maybe this comes under 'awkwardness'... because it doesn't express confidence in themselves. Or if it means they're not really into me or have no money for a date... move on! By the way, a date doesn't need to be expensive... which leads me to another thing I hate. That is, how they think they have to have money and that they have to be rich to get a girl or to be worthwhile... hell! I make my own money... which leads me to another thing... when they are threatened because you make your own money... I want a guy for hugs, kisses, friendship and sex... not his money!

[LittleSally]

Oh! I agree on all of these!
I mean awkwardness can be alright, if it's cute, more than just awkward and you can't go around it. But yeah, all of these - pretty spot on!

[myTake Owner]

Thank you!

[GoodBoy24]

Wow you are one superficial girl that's so unattractive even if you have good looks you still would have difficult time finding a long term relationship we guys when we mature after high school we want a girl with personality she always wins our heart but a girl with hot looks and superficiality ugh!!! Disgusting!!! Your standards are too high no guy is going to climb to the top of the tree to get the supposedly best apple but you still have to prove yourself to a guy... just your looks is not gonna do it!!!

[Anonymous]

Yesss. I also won't even go near a guy who is arrogant. It's such a turn off to have to listen to how beautiful they think they are. Can't stand people like that. It's feels like they're constantly performing in a play and you're just there to watch it, no thanks. If I wanted to give someone else that much constant attention then I would just have children.

I actually like a little awkwardness though, I think it's attractive when it's just shyness/nerves. Not the cringe worthy awkward that some people are.

[Cccgala]

Relatable myTake!

#2 is pretense, and I am with you for that. Not only it would put me off but also I would find myself harboring speculations whether he knows what he's blabbering or not.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you! :)

[Cccgala]

Oh sorry, I meant #3
You're welcome :)

[myTake Owner]

Haha I thought so :P

[XXMIKEXX]

I think they are all valid turn offs.

On top of your 5 I would agree with in the reverse with women.

Here's some other turn offs I don't like in women.

6) materialistic designer label types, the type who only go to the trendy bars when half price drinks are in a similar bar

7) women who belittle men's pass times "footballs only a game" "your a child for playing video games/geek stuff (equally men who belittle some of women's passions fashion, animals whatever it may be.

8) women who don't initate or communicate about sex

9) appearance obsessed high maintenance

10) girls who can't have a laugh, can't be made fun of (banter)

11) girls with no mates or pass times. Seriously go out and have fun without your SO from time to time

12) girls who don't give blowjobs. I'm not licking your pussy either which Is a shame as I love doing it but it has to be 50/50.

[Fathoms77]

All girls under the age of 20 have a big problem with ego these days (quite the opposite of the '50s).

As they age, they start to waver... they start to realize that confidence is typically extremely sexy, while overly confident still isn't, and they actually start to prefer touchy-feely guys for some reason.

[SovereignessofVamps]

the confidence can be a turn off because it's not real...

[Fathoms77]

@SovereignessofVamps Again, all young girls seem to think all forms of male confidence are fake. Either it's an act of blustery bravado or they're doing it to cover up insecurities... it's as if females can't conceive of a man who's just plain confident. :P

[SovereignessofVamps]

I've nvr seen any. confident guys wouldn't need to show off right?

[Fathoms77]

@SovereignessofVamps Correct. Confident guys don't "show off." They just are who they are. They don't pretend they're someone they're not, they don't put on a false act for other people (regardless of gender or age or whatever), and they're comfortable in their own skin.

You've really never met ANY man like this?

Well... that might be true. I remember being 20. I guess none of my friends knew how to be confident at that age (and I probably didn't, either). :P

[SovereignessofVamps]

Nope. All the confident guys were huge show offs.

[Fathoms77]

@SovereignessofVamps Yeah, well, like you said, that's not even real confidence. Let 'em grow up a bit. :D

[bobbyxx]

Oh dear look at all the women upset.

[martyfellow]

Greatest user name ever! And a smart comment also.. a lot of the 'cofidnce'. Is just 'hustle.'

[LexieUnicornz]

Why ALL young girls? I happen to think self-confidence is very attractive in a man. There is difference between 'confidence' and 'macho'. Confidence is believing in yourself, knowing where you stand, and not putting yourself down. Macho is often the 'compensation' for what many boys lack, and that is true confidence.

[CancerianMan81]

@LexieUnicornz being picky don't get you anywhere

[CancerianMan81]

because that's a negative trait cause your always finding faults with the other person and if you find faults with the other you're going to find faults with yourself and that's sends out to me that that you're not happy enough to just be yourself that's not healthy at all and nobody wants to put up with someone like that

[Nothanks700]

Literally all girls? That's a stretch

[Jayson101]

@SovereignessofVamps Oh it's real. When you go through some trauma and struggle you become self actualized and don't care what teacher or mummy thinks. An older person has been around longer and is more likely to have gone through that. (in fact they often become teacher and mummy).

[EnglishArtsteacher]

@Fathoms77 It's not just girls under 30 years old. It's Millennial women in general. Confidence is seen as a bad thing.

[CancerianMan81]

@EnglishArtsteacher how one fixes it is beyond me because women don't give a shit anymore

[EnglishArtsteacher]

@CancerianMan81 I love women in your age-range (Let's say 33-45ish). Women that age appreciate being approached (Since they're not approached as much as they used to be). It's the young generation of women who has an issue with this the most.

[CancerianMan81]

and the more us men care the more the women become more spiteful

[CancerianMan81]

I've tried everything

[CancerianMan81]

and here I am all handsome and can get girls and here I've been single for 10 years or longer

[CancerianMan81]

and here the women tell me I'm the problem why i'm single and the women saying you don't treat the women with respect which is bullshit cause I treat every woman that I have had and will have like a goddamn queen and shit

[CancerianMan81]

I don't know if the women are fucking mentally disturbed or what the fuck the deal is

[CancerianMan81]

dogs get treated better than what we do for what us men have been going through

[CancerianMan81]

these damn women act like asking a woman out and having her is the worse thing you could ever do like it's a fucking sin or something

[CancerianMan81]

the women sure in the hell don't make it easy for us men that's for damn sure

[CancerianMan81]

their actions are the way us men are for the way we are and want to bitch and gripe because they make us for the way we are and i'm getting sick of it and what really pisses me off is that they don't take no responsibility for their own actions this bullshit is reaching a boiling point with me

[1derweye]

@SovereignessofVamps What's even worse... is when it is!

How far is your reign, my Highness?

[SovereignessofVamps]

@1derweye what?

[1derweye]

@SovereignessofVamps Is your username not a claim of consummate Rule over the aforementioned faction of "Vamps", my Exalted Liege?

[SovereignessofVamps]

@1derweye totally...

[1derweye]

@SovereignessofVamps Articulate! Perhaps even... eloquent.
You must command an Army of hematophage minions! I'm sooo envious.
Bats? Lamprey's? ... Mosquito's?

[SovereignessofVamps]

@1derweye are you asking to message me?

[MeepisMeep]

Lol, if that were true, girls my age wouldn't have as many boyfriends/girlfriends. Plus, I'm not really all that confident in who I am, considering I'm always being called a show-off. I can't even enjoy doing what I love without people constantly knagging me. It's not like I ever say "Hey, look at me!" or "I'm way better at this than you are!" This just turned into a full on rant, but thanks anyway. I needed to get that out.

[Nobodycares]

Look at dem downvotes, girl.

[SovereignessofVamps]

I nvr left an opinion whoa! I saw this Q on a dude's question thing on his profile. Yeah... I agree, that confidence isn't real like I said in my old comments... confident guys are calm, and sexy, and even borderline indifferent sometimes. They don't need to overdo anything. Or they can be emotional, but only about personal issues! Not trying to prove anything. If he shows off, he's trying to impress, so that's not confident anyway. But I think show off guys are childish, and calm or even nerdy guys can be sexy... and I love big and tall guys by the way. I like skinny too, but I <3 big ones.

[danishnaseem05]

Lmao!! I just read through most of the comments. It's like a wild fire that just keeps on spreading and spreading. Guys and some girls, chill! everyone has their own preferences.
And honestly, I might be the only guy saying this but I believe all those are true. Except maybe in 3, you might be talking about 2. If a guy is intelligent, he'll know when to stop boring the shit out of someone. But only a overly confident person would keep on talking, which is not bad unless if he's being too cocky.

[Pac-Man]

I am an awkward over confident masculine genius who loves hugs, and I find this offensive.

[Girly1710]

You actually are though, aren't you?

[Pac-Man]

@Girly1710 naaaaaaaaah xD I am not awkward! Much.

[Kkaos]

I agree for the most part. Driving, if it's her car.. She drives, if it's my car.. I drive. Cooking.. I suck at cooking but I'll still try and it's flattering if she's down to eat my failed lasagna attempts. Although I wouldn't consider her equal to me in every area, that's unrealistic. She has her interests and I have mine.. Now it just happens that most girls that I'm attracted to are feminine and therefore aren't weightlifters, race car drivers etc.. Not saying there aren't girls out there that dominate in those things, but the girls I'm attracted to typically won't be equal to me when in comes to the more masculine things and I won't have the first clue about things that she's interested in.

[lightbulb27]

Those are good things, you want someone emotionally available, treats you normally or like a valuable person who is a female. sounds healthy to me.

the #4 can be a challenge in some cases because we have to break through your space barrier, but yes, some guys are clueless (on serious drugs caused by your amazing beauty and feminine presence) and you have to put up a fuss for them to get it.

[Mscocobutter]

Bitter burned old man comment #2

[lightbulb27]

@Mscocobutter not understanding your comment. are you suggesting I'm a bitter burned old man and why?

[PrincessofNohr]

Personal space stands out as the big one for me, particularly when you've already given a clear message by pulling away from contact. Staring would have to be another one for me. I don't mean being checked out for a bit (I love that), but when someone is sitting at a distance and looking as if they're trying to see straight into your soul. It's quite off putting...