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I'm going to be honest. If I'm not attracted to someone the attraction won't develop over time as I get to know the person. I'll just see them as a friend. I feel bad about it, and I've dated someone who I wasn't attracted to, but the relationship was a complete fail. I wasn't able to form a connection with him because there was no physical attraction for me.
Exactly my point. Thank You!
Well they said first impression plays a role for a reason BUT!! Still you can't just stereotype people like there's tons of girls who overlooked looks i mean cmon there's plenty of hot girls with not so hot guys and vice versa.. just because you happen to stumble upon these kind of girls who ONLY go for looks doesn't mean there isn't any girls who dont mind looks.. I don't know personally i like guys who are not too good looking cuz i'd have to think about all the other girls and shit so it's just complicated.. But one thing that commonly happens is that (no offence to anyone imma gonna use "we") we who know that we're not that good looking always go for girls/guys who is obv out of our league.. end of the story play it safe go for someone average unless you dont mind challenges then ok
It is a fact that women look for looks first then personality. No one wants to "play it safe" because if we play it safe, we will never be happy with ourselves. The human life is meant to be full of challenges.
I agree with you 100% on this one. I don't want to date because of this. I was ugly as a teenager and I still feel like that. Maturing into adulthood has been good for me especially the past year. More and more each day, I get women staring at me. And it's not because of my personality. I've even had my ass grabbed before on the bus. Girls and even women in their 30s and 40s get nervous or try to impress me. Girls are so nice to me now. It's all about looks.
mhm exactly my point.
This is true for both genders. And yes, looks is commonly what matters the most when building a relationship.
So if you want a quick girlfriend, then start to look and act like "alpha", get a look like Christian Grey/Brad Pitt, behave like Chad Thundercock and make money like Steve Jobs. I wouldn't advise this however.
Yes, more common in women however.
Thumb down your own article. Looks get their attention, personality is what reels them in, then the REAL work begins. Attraction->S*** test barrage->Love (real battelfield)
You're welcome. Quit dwelling on your ugly mother f***ing face and better yourself. Women want men of action, not whiny s*** like this. Show of hands how many girls reading this are dryer than the Sahara right now. You seem to forget you judge them too.
Uhh... You're statement proved my point. That looks are first then personality second. I'm not whining I'm just stating the truth.
Whining. It's preference, so quit b****ing. I went completely opposite of what you cried about. Once again, stfu better yourself. Your whole message is "I don't have balls, oh woe is me.". THAT'S your point. If they want to screen out in that order, that's their business, and it could blow up in their face. Just like YOU have every right to do the same. Again, you judge them too, so stfu.
lol someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning, this is also coming from a guy who is censoring his own cuss words... Anyway, my whole message is that looks comes before personality not this "I don't have balls" bullshit.
Boy, stick to whining about apps and playing video games your mom bought you. That's your job right now. Those girls you are complaining about are ahead of you developmentally. Take your first step to becoming a man and focus on bettering yourself. Shut your trap and take notes, yoi'll be better off.
username lol
*sigh* Another guy that thinks he knows what he's talking about when it comes to women.
The majority, yes.
Nah bruh. People shouldn't talk if they don't know what they are talking about.
So if an ugly guy walks up to you would you let him say his peace and see if his personality is worth it or not?
No no no let me ask you... would YOU give an unhygienic obese acne ridden woman a chance at sex or love?
Don't be a hypocrite. Everybody wants to be with somebody that is attractive. That is how the whole mating process goes. If I were you I would read up on some biology a bit. If men can reject and be cruel to woman who are average and below then women also have their rights to be picky about looks and personality. I want an attractive man... but if he doesn't have a good personality then I want nothing to have to do with him PERIOD.
I've said in my take that it can go both ways, however women do it more often. Men tend to be more open about ugly girls, but women are more sneaky with it and do it more often. So yes, you have proved my point. Looks always come first and that speaks for both genders, but more commonly with women.
Lol. I've lived with women the majority of my life. I will never fully understand women. No man will xD
No sweetie pie. No.
@akadatank44 I don't get what's so hard to understand about women haha.
Yep. You just said it so you've proved my point.
I don't think so. You never answered my question child.. hmmmmmmm...
The answer is no I wouldn't. I've also said that looks over personality happens in both genders too.
Lmfao bluffing
I'm not saying that women are hard to understand. Just I won't fully understand everything of which a lot do. Like the lie about the being ready dont tell me its gonna be 5 minutes when its not haha, or the " I'm fine lie" or the switch of emotions from crying to one second to being horny as fuck the next haha.
How?
There are too many of them here lol. Then you have guys like me who actually know a thing or too but is too lazy to write takes xD
Stop. Speaking. On. Our. Behalf.
We have our own voices, thank you very much.
You still wouldn't date an ugly person
@SamPaige Well, obviously. That doesn't make me shallow or mean that I only care about looks.
It doesn't make you shallow no. But all woman only care about looms and I'll always beleive that
@SamPaige Well, if you wouldn't date an ugly person then that means that you put looks first and personality second, which would then prove my point.
Looks draw you in, personality keeps you interested. If I meet a guy who's the hottest man on the planet but he turns out to be a complete dick, I don't want anything to do with him. You're acting as if looks only matter throughout the entirety of the relationship.
It proves nothing other than females have eyes and appreciate good looks. It does not mean they put looks before personality that is a decidedly asinine conclusion. Sure there will always be a few who differ but anecdote is not trend.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Don't generalize, I used to don't. No not every woman is going to be attracted to you so what, your not attracted to every women. But be positive anyway, woman can read negativity in your attitude and body language. Simply complement them and if possible get to know them, if she still rejects you so what.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but looks will trump personality in the end
Women are allowed to have their fantasies as well, it may be dumb and illogical but there are some girls who strive to change that. However, if all you have ever done is encounter American girls, assuming that is where you are from, i can guarantee 100% that girls from other countries have awesome personalities. There are some gals in the US with logic, wits and charm but it seems lost in a society that treasures sexualizing over exploring sexuality.
Anyways good luck.
Foreign girls (meaning girls outside of the US) are even more picky. Not only do they want looks, but they have to be of the same religion, personality, and sometimes even race. Where as girls in the US, they aren't as picky.
Not my experience m8. I enjoy foreign girls much more and if they are more picky? good, then i do not have to wade through thorns to make it count.
Yeah they are pretty picky
looks>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>personality
Yep!
You are wrong man, girls/women work differently, you first have to make a emotional connection with them first, us guys are the one that get turned on just by a cute face, I have seen lot of attractive girls with fat, ugly guys kissing in the high school, why? I don't know but it must be it
Those girls must be in the minority. I am talking about the majority of girls here
Everyone is different, asking for a girl number may work for one, but for others they probably don't like giving their numbers to stranger and will reject you, so before doing any move, you should analyze her and see how to flirt with her they way she reply, it's more like a game, and not so straightforward, but yes, for good looking men it can be easier, but not 100% easy.
Wow no looks do matter but not 100% lots rate looks from 1-10 if a girl was a 10 and met a funny guy who was at least a 6 she would date him but she would never date a 3 or a 4... same with a guy. But for me its about who you are as a person and i won't date anyone under a 5 which is normal looking girl which my ex was a 5 but had a droo dead smile. . plus she was just so fucking cute the way she actedm
Correct. Looks do matter a lot and the matter more than personality. Once you get the looks factor down then the personality will flow.
Naaa if the girl was a 10 but had a shit personally i wouldn't date her at all. But looks more becuase of sex etc my new girlfriend a 7 but has a belly i rate girls by they face not body's
I wish women went for looks. You seem to have encountered the opposite women of what I've encountered. Most women I've encountered only care more about personality. I'm glad there are women that care about looks.
What kind of lala land are you living in?
It's called reality
No, reality is that the majority of women look for looks first then personality.
I wish that were true.
Then they must either be in the minority or they are lying and telling you that personality is key.
Maybe they are in the minority cause these women date ogre looking guys.
It's no typo, I actually mean ogre looking guys.
hmm.. possibly
Isn't it funny how someone who isn't a female has decided to speak for all females...
Shut up and go back to tumblr
It's true is it not?
It's not true
@SamPaige I don't even have a tumblr account 😑
Oooh my god you're so ignorant! Don't speak for all women okay?
You're right. I'm sorry I should of clarified. The majority of women do this. As in probably 90%
Okay. Thank you! Because I was reading this and I definitely do not fit into this lol
Yeah. The majority of girls go after looks first then personality. There is a small minority that don't and they are very hard to come by
You're 19, you're not even through the second stage of his post.
@Gommers Yes, but I'm married with a child, something that most girls aren't mature enough for at my age. Most of them like to party and yeah, if you're not hot they usually won't speak to you. Which I think is dumb but I can't control their ignorance. My point is (which the asker already knows) is that this does not apply to all women.
this guy is ignorant, unfortunately women do just the entire opposite of what his title suggest. they care little or nothing about looks, that is a great disapointment
@diegoD all about dat skrilla
@diegoD Really? They do the exact opposite? I don't believe that for one second. Girls look for looks first then personality is ALWAYS and will ALWAYS be second.
dude you are totally wrong, I am telling you that by experience, and I am somewhat older than you. people in comments below have pointed out you are a troll
@diegoD I'm not a troll. The internet's logic is if something causes a huge controversy then it's automatically a troll. It's not. These are my factual statements on women. Please explain to me what "experiences" you've had with women. If they are good then you obviously must be good looking.
@diegoD Troll claiming is trolling. I'm not a highly attractive guy but I am built pretty well; if I didn't have a "don't shit where you eat" policy for mixing work and women, I'd have 3 or 4 women on my junk a week. All because I use the heaviest weights at the work gym and work my shoulders, pecs, and arms on my breaks and my lunches.
Being in shape IS and always will be an indicator of health and sexual virility; however with a society where wealth is power and physical power is no longer a necessity money is always going to be the defining factor of attractiveness. Take it from a guy who's very regularly contacted on dating sites, has lots of women hit on him while he's out enjoying somewhat upper scale hobbies, and has the appearance of wealth with a decent body and average face... Once they find out I'm not loaded, it's over. Maybe it will change when I pass 30 but I'm kind of hoping to die before then at this point if women will be this way my entire life.
I have been told I am good looking, and I would not like to change how I look for the most pat unless it was for someone super attractive like enrique iglasias, but you need conversational skills, and to know howto be manipulative, and I just can't. and of course if you have a nice personality. you are screwed.
@Gommers who are you suggesting is trolling queston asker or me?
@diegoD Anyone that calls "troll" is inherently trolling.
@diegoD Well then there ya go. It's because you are good looking.
In high school you just need to be part of the cool kids group or be popular.
In college you just need to go to parties or have 💰💰💰💸💸💸
Or... Go socialize and build a network then you can use your awesome personality to charm some girl.
Looks matter when it comes to cold approaches.
And cold approaches are how you get women. You will never get a girlfriend unless you cold approach.
Negative.. A lot of people meet through friends, work, school, etc...
And how do you meet these people from friends, work school, etc? You have to introduce yourself at some point, thus it is a cold approach.
Women are primarily attracted to certain character traits (not personality), like confidence. Confidence makes a huge difference. This has been said so many times that maybe some people are incapable of comprehending it anymore.
What is certain is that most women wouldn't want to date bitter, whiny guys. It's a complete turn off and it gives the impression that they don't have the mental capacity to have normal relationships.
Confidence is more of a personality trait than a character trait. With that being said, you need to ram open the door with your looks first in order to even use your confidence.
Check this out. Interesting isn't it?
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2124778-why-do-women-care-so-much-about-personality-can-a-woman-not-find-a
"Ah middle school, this is where relationships begin."
this is where you lost me. I've been in no relationships Loll
I should of said "Usually" lol
You forgot about money and status, it would probably surprise you how many physically attractive women out there would be willing to date an ugly guy if he had lots of money and/or high status.
I talked a little bit about it in my take. I didn't spend time on it because that is a whole other conversation in itself.
Well it seems like you kind of forget about it when you mentioned that unattractive men cannot get girls such as Kendall Jenner, when in fact a very physically unattractive, even ugly guy such as Tyga was able to get her due to being a high status/wealthy male.
When I was talking about Kendall Jenner, I was just talking about hot girls in general, not really Kendall Jenner herself
After reading your article i was like "BULLSHIT HERE BULLSHIT THERE BULLSHIT EVERWHERE!" :O
And why is that?
Dude u know that it's not intirely true, yes looks can be important to both genders no lie but i wouldn't really make a great fuss over it if he's sweet, kind, has a great peronality and many things in common with me, usually, many good looking guys can be such egotistic assholes anyways.
But you have admitted that looks are important in both genders. Looks will get you in the door and personality will keep you inside.
Dude, looks are important but they in NO DAMN WAY win on personality, at least not for me.