Tinder is a highly controversial app that gets a lot of hate and for good reason. Anyone and everyone seems to have an opinion regardless of whether or not they've actually used it. However in my experience of using it over the last year or so (more seriously in the last 5 or so months), I've come to realise that I have actually gained a lot from using the app and here's why I don't hate it. That being said I can only really speak for girls using it as I'm sure the experience is very different for guys.
1. It's built my self-confidence immensely.
I used to be a painfully shy, take no risks, keep to yourself and don't talk to strangers type of person. Tinder is great practice to talk to guys. Even before that stage, it may seem selfish, but just getting matches raises your self-esteem. And sure, some of the assholes you talk to may be overtly sexual or rude in some cases, but the beauty of the app is that you can just ignore, or unmatch them. Eventually, you WILL develop enough confidence to actually meet up with people.
2. It's taught me how to face rejection.....and how to reject people kindly.
This is a strange one, because obviously no one LIKES rejection, but its an inevitable part of life. Tinder has helped me with that. I still have the same insecurities that I used to, but I've learnt not to dwell on things. Not everyone is going to be attracted to everyone. I have also learnt how to apply this to myself when I'm not attracted to someone. I HATE being ghosted, so I won't allow myself to partake in that behaviour. I'm still somewhat a coward, but I have mastered the art of the breakup (if you can call it that) text, and I THINK (or hope!) guys appreciate that more than being ignored.
3. It's allowed me to meet friends all over the world.
Yes, I'm one of those people that will swipe when they travel. But it's from Tinder that I've actually met some great friends overseas, and why I'll always have a couch to crash on if i decide to ever go back.
4. You end up with a tonne of funny stories.
They may not be funny at the time. But they will be....and if they're not, they're at least memorable. Trust me.
5. The SEX.
Okay so this one will probably get me a bit of hate. But before I started using Tinder, my experiences were minimal, and very safe. Tinder has allowed me to explore my sexuality, try a LOT of new things and open my mind up to a tonne of things I wouldn't have even considered before. It's also reinforced just how different sex can be from person to person, and the importance of a sexual connection once I do decide to settle into a long term relationship.
I could keep going, but those are probably the main points for now... I have actually learnt a great deal from Tinder, and would not trade my Tinder experiences for anything, and if this convinces even one person to give it a go, then my job is done! :P But as with anything, safety is key ;)