I've know him for 6 years, he was a few years older than me. He was tall, had long brown hair, looked like he should lead a garage band. He was mysterious, but one of the most friendliest people I'd ever met.
Few years later and I find myself working for the same company as him. I was excited. After two years of flirting, I finally got the courage to ask him over to my place. (I needed help "fixing" my door.) We get chatting, and the night was flying by. Until finally he asks me "was this your plan all along?" And I said, "I don't know what you're talking about 😉" Naturally we start kissing, and I invite him to stay over as it was after all quite late. As we are falling asleep he says to me, "I don't really do relationships, and you're the last person I'd want to hurt." So say to him, "that's fine, we don't have to go any farther than this." And the he brings me closer to him and tells me "oh but I want too"
So a few months go by and we are stealthy dating -- keeping it on DL because of work. After two weeks go by he asks me if I was planning to see anyone else. I said no.
He really seem into this relationship thing. He didn't seem all attentive or really interested in me. I remember bringing up an issue I'd been having with work and he sort of didn't really say much, or try and help me find a solution. Anytime I brought an issue up (I didn't do this often) it was was same sort of response. Until at the end March, I was having a huge fight with my sister. I wanted to go to him, but I decided not too. Instead I backed off for a week and didn't talk to him -- why would I want to? When I know how he responded last time I brought up something. After this this he seemed less interested in me. We hardly spoke at work at work, and hanging out went from several days a week, to once a week. And it was more or less going over to each other's places to have sex.
About two weeks ago, I downloaded Tinder. I don't really know why I did. I wasn't looking for a hook up. I matched with a friend of his, and of course he found out.
Fast forward to tonight and he asks to see me. He asked me if I wasn't into him anymore, and when I said no then he brought up the tinder thing to me. I argued that he says he doesn't do relationships, and then he said "I don't do relationships WELL" then I argued that he didn't seem all that attentive or that interested in me. So then I spilled my feelings for him, but he ended up saying that maybe it's for the best, he doesn't really know what he wants.
He'll forever go down as "The one that got away" for me. This all could have been resolved with some communication, maybe on both ends? Who knows really. I don't plan to sit around and wait for him, but a part of me does hope he'll change his mind.