Hello and welcome! In this lengthy article I will share my experience as a migrant from Germany in a whole different country and a strange new world for me very far away from my then home (and to be honest I still see Germany as my home and I most likely always will).
First a compact and yet rich backstory
When I got where I am now I was in my mid teens and had no powers whatsoever, so I went wherever life has dragged me. I barely knew the language, the culture, the standards, the norms and barely anything about this country. Bear in mind, that this is not the country in my profile, that i am talking about (it's there for diversion purposes and I really like the Nordic Culture and countries).
Anyway I am thousands of kilometers away from Germany now. I will not disclose where I am for simple privacy reasons (and to be honest I don't like to be here at all). By the time I was dragged where I am (my parents just decided to relocate and that's it. They never told me the reason) I was in the middle of my ongoing puberty and raging hormones. It was around that time when I just started to be interested in girls both romantically and sexually, although I didn't do anything because of my severe depression. And as many know a bad attitude or depression is not something girls like.
Germany is a very multicultural country and it's "liberated". Yes, I'm using the quote marks because it's not really that today. That besides the point, it's culture is quite modern and Germany is advanced in many aspects especially with inventions and technologies. I have a love-hate stance towards Germany but I am almost 100% comfortable living there.
Before I left Germany there were many kinds of girls (and people in general) in Germany: Europeans from all over Europe, Russians, Turks and many more. As a whole we don't have many conflicts with each other in Germany and I like this fact. At least if you are like me or unlike one of those mass media and news obsessed grumpies, who only want to see the shit portrayed in the TV news instead of going out and being a decent human being. And the girls were mostly unique and varying. I loved it.
I got in the middle of unknown with my parents, a completely new place for me, a new order, different laws and a culture, that I never saw in my life before. YEARS passed before I first had access to a stable internet connection to connect to the world again. Finally I could access google translator and learn new words and study either in German or in English (but not in this language). That's how I passed high school and college. Meanwhile many things happened on the internet. "Memes" for example I didn't even know what that was (and I still don't understand them). "MLG", "360Noskope", "Doge" and other things I didn't see before.
Anyway I noticed a complete change in everything. Obviously it's not Germany and nothing like it but due to cultural differences and different standards I was either the Alien or the weird black sheep in the crowd of white sheep, who "did not want to fit in" and is "acting very strange" or they were complete and inferior idiots. At least that was for the people around my then age😖. With the elders it wasn't complicated almost at all.
And as such I got along with the elders much better (teachers, administrators, employees & employers, professors...). With those around my then age I had near 0 common interest with, neither the boys and girls. Needless to say I suffered constantly from severe depression and homesickness. I was and still am that social outcast suffering from both.
"So what are the girls over there like?" I can hear many of you ask. Well, they are very... different. While they have one common cultural trait there are also exceptions to those but I have rarely seen them. The main thing is, that they are traditional oriented, old-fashioned and more conservative-based from what I can tell. But I also have near 0 experience with women (in general!), so how could I know better. This is also why I am on GirlsAskGuys to keep in touch with women from all over the world rather than from a mono-culture, that is not-so-secretly just what I do not prefer🤦.
I like the girls being modern and more like their own self instead of sticking to traditions and being dependent on the culture like they have no choice. But each to their own.
I never had a girlfriend and I'm a kissless virgin. I will turn 23 years in a few moments and that will mark another year passed by and it will be the same thing over again.
My relative however is female and had at least one boyfriend as far as I remember. I do not really keep in touch with her but I saw her with a boyfriend. I'm not to judge here but I *secretly think*, that women in general have more value than men in society especially if they are in their teens and 20s and in their prime. And of course since it's traditional for guys to be the "chasers" she didn't seem to have the problems, that I have. It is also very usual for couples, that the male is older than the female.🙄
On another note I found some of their behaviors strange and likewise they find ours (or mine in that matter) strange. Like we don't do that here (shaking hands with the ladies! Like really? Shaking hands is not acceptable?), we do it like this here (I can't think of an example). Jokes, that are funny to them but not for me and in reverse. And so on.🤷
I get along with women on the internet and GirlsAskGuys kind of better than I do in real life here, where I am. Of course I know of a few women, who I consider are actually adequate but they are either 1. The elders and long taken or 2. the vast minority of the youth and taken. Women get taken as fast as warm pies it seems.😐
Last I was in Germany was in 2015. It was a business trip and as soon as I finally got there once again, I felt immediately "cured" from my homesickness and I felt just like at my then home - only better. I was relieved to see the German speaking folks again and my fellow Germans and European people and being back in general. With the fellow German employees over there I had pleasant experiences speaking in native German again. Hell, even with the strangers in Germany I felt more comfortable with than I do here when I went on a town stroll on the weekends during my business trip. Sometimes I just wish I didn't return back to my place of employment when it was time to go since I lost the job anyway weeks later because my employer is a corrupt scumbag, who nobody liked anyway despite our German clients being happy with me. I still have my German citizenship and German Passport and I'm not giving it away until I find a better alternative such as moving elsewhere better.
In the end take it from me, a migrant from Germany, who can't get any dates or women being interested in him. I don't like to put my finger on things or others and blame it/them (since it's the irresponsible thing to do) but it just seems so, that the cultural differences are keeping us apart. Thus no connection with the girls and women can be established.😔
Forever (involuntarily) alone...
...Until further notice.
But no need to stay tuned. It won't be soon. I'll be sticking around here for a while until I can finally relocate on my own.😑 I'm studying and working both full time to change that. I really don't want my grave and "home" to be here, where I am.
Thanks for reading
If you have anything relevant to say regarding this, I'm all ears (or eyes) for feedback. How were the cultural differences for you? Were they preventing something in any aspect of your lives?