Girls Don't Want to Date You Because You're Ugly

[Anonymous]

I've seen a spike of "bad boy" related takes on this website explaining why or why girls don't like bad boys. Us guys are left wondering why girls go for bad boys instead of us "good and nice" dudes. Here's the main reason why they go with them. It's because we're (yes "we" because I have the same problem.) ugly. Those bad boys are attractive to them and we are unattractive. That's why they go to their nice guy friends after the bad boy breaks their heart and say "There are no good guys" knowing that the guy that is sitting right next to her comforting her is a good guy. She won't date him because he's FUCKING UGLY. Here's the major points on the issue

She dates the "bad boy" because he's attractive and you're not

Now, it is true that bad boys have a lot of confidence and nice style, but the main reason they get the girl is because he's physically attractive. He hit the genetics lottery. You didn't. He has a body like a greek god. You don't. Nothing much to say about it. No matter how hard you try to be assertive, confident, etc.. he'll have the advantage over you.

I'm ugly, what do I do?

I had the same problem. Throughout high school and even my first semester of college, girls went to that "hot" muscular bad boy. The guy that doesn't give a fuck if he ends up in jail or not. I was turned down by multiple girls when I asked them to go to prom with me. I had to go by myself my senior year and look like a loser because no girl wanted to go with me. There isn't much you can do, but it is possible to slightly enhance your attractiveness by doing these three steps. I'll be brief.

1.) Enhance your style

Wear something stylish. Watch what those "bad boys" are wearing and mimic their look or watch men's style videos on YouTube.

2.) Wash your face

Use face wash to cleanse your face of oil and dead skin. Watch YouTube videos on how to get rid of acne if you have acne.

3.) Be confident

Being confident will slightly enhance your overall attractiveness. Girls will see you as a challenge.

With these three steps, you'll slightly increase your attractiveness. You'll probably won't be able to look better than the "bad boy" or the good looking Starbucks barista, but at least you'll be seen as decent. Oh, I almost forgot the disclaimer! Yes, there are fake nice guys who are just trying to get into the girl's pants, but I'm talking about the genuine nice guys who are having a hard time getting girls. It's because they are ugly unfortunately. Feel free to express your thoughts down below!

[btbc92]

Wow. Everything that you said in the myTake is wrong all the way. Only shallow people believe's what you said. No offense but I'm going to have to correct you on this one as a 'girl' myself.

1. Girls don't date bad boys for the sake of dating them! They're 'girls' for a REASON.
-> So-called 'Bad Boy's' AREN'T REALLY BAD BOYS! They're misunderstood and are often the misfits of society due to their aloofness and anti-socialism if anything. They don't do drugs or commit serious crimes and do jail time, how are they BAD?
-> They don't date him because he's attractive. They date him because they're lusting after him. And your not somebody they want to lust after. Why would you be foolish enough to want a lustful woman in your life? She sleeping around and you want the same woman? And call her dumb? You all dumb. You can't talk.

2. Your looks overall should NEVER have to MATTER!
-> How are you to judge such women when you do the same thing. You want a 'beautiful girl', yet you won't date somebody who may not be conventionally 'attractive' according to society. Hypocrites I tell you. And besides, unless she's just as shallow, it's NOT because your so-called UGLY. It's because you don't bring her that same excitement the other guy gives. He has something you just don't have. And it's more than just looks. And you may NEVER have it, no matter how much you make yourself 'attractive', change your character or gain confidence. If your not it, your just not it. Get over it and move on! Somebody will like you for YOU.

3. "I was turned down by multiple girls when I asked them to go to prom with me." HELLO! You're a STRANGER! You're asking out strangers. They don't KNOW YOU. You more and likely came off like a creep to them. Not because you're so-called ugly. I turned down guys in dating and anything not because I wasn't' attracted to them, but because I just wasn't INTERESTED. And I need to already have a personal relationship with you. Such as friendship. I'm not getting involved with strangers. I can't speak for other women, but a lot of you men just need to wake up. How you approach your obstacles are wrong from the beginning. Your forgetting even handsome men get rejected and turned down too.

"There isn't much you can do, but it is possible to slightly enhance your attractiveness by doing these three steps." I'll say it again. NO AMOUNT of doing this will make somebody want you. EVER.

[btbc92]

1. "Watch what those "bad boys" are wearing and mimic their look or watch men's style videos on YouTube." Um, You do realize girls watch these videos too you know. We can sniff out 'fake' from a mile away. Change because you want to personally change. Not for some girl. You'll just be miserable than you're already are. And then she will still leave you for somebody more real about themselves. That's what you're missing. So-called bad boys you shaming have one thing above you. And it's not just confidence. They don't give a crap what you THINK of them. They're being themselves. While you're trying to imitate and be a robot. It may fool naive little girls, but not women. They'll play the game you want to play and then shut you down. Don't get into a battle you can't win. Fight battles you know you can win.

2. "Wash your face" If you don't know already how to clean yourself, it says a lot about you period, unless you weren't taught. -__-

[btbc92]

3. "Being confident will slightly enhance your overall attractiveness. Girls will see you as a challenge." Um, no. Your either attractive to them or you not. No amount of confidence will change that. I know, because I've done the rejecting myself. They'll 'respect you', but it doesn't mean they would want you.

Look. I get that you're trying to 'help'. But you need to stop trying to boost men's egos and giving them false hope. The reality is simple. Everybody is not going to be attracted to you if you already weren't. If you try to put yourself up like you bigger and better, that facade will only last but so long until they see the REAL YOU. Then what you're going to do now? You want to know how to successfully attract somebody?

-Be different from other men. Show us what you have to offer that other men cannot.
-Be proactive with your intentions. Why should we pick you and only choose YOU? Peak our interest. Show us that you only have what it takes to be reliable and trustworthy.

[btbc92]

Show us your dream. Your vision for the future. But don't lead us on. We don't like being plaid for a fool as I'm sure you wouldn't like it if somebody did the same. Tell us why you're approaching us. Every woman needs a WHY? And for WHAT.

[NYCQuestions1976]

This response is longer than the post.

[btbc92]

@NYCQuestions1976

Because I have a lot to say about the situation and he's not giving valid reasons for his myTake. It's whining 'woe is me', no girl will look at me, nonsense. Who wants to date that kind of guy? Change your attitude and maybe somebody will like you enough to give you a chance.

[NYCQuestions1976]

I wasn't debating point/counter point. I just made the factual statement that more characters were used in the reply than in the post. No need to yell at me... lol

[btbc92]

I'm not yelling at you. I understand where you're coming from. But I'm just stating that this kind of subject infuriates me. Because this nonsense is why he's single and why a lot of other guys are single in the first place.

[NYCQuestions1976]

I'm single because I'm divorced, a full-time single parent, and I work full-time.

[btbc92]

Sorry to hear that. I pray that you recover, find peace, and forgive. Take care of your young one. Try not to let this stop you from living.

[myTake Owner]

Jesus Christ in heaven this was a long reply. I'm gonna have to do the same thing on your reply because I don't think you get what i'm saying.

1.) Bad boys are really bad boys. They wouldn't be bad boys if they didn't do bad boy things now would they? These guys go to jail all the time, go to parties, get hammered, and don't give a fuck about life and feel like they can say and do anything they want.
-They don't necessarily date him because they're "lusting" after him, they date him because they genuinely have feelings for him (although there are girls who do date bad boys out of lust)

2.) Your looks SHOULD matter. Anyone who says that looks don't matter is a liar. Yes, I do want someone who I find attractive, just like girls want someone they find attractive right? It is because you're ugly that she rejects you. Why else would she reject you within the first five seconds of meeting you? No one is going to "like you for you" that's bs and anyone who believes that is too far up-

[btbc92]

You can. Unlike most people I have no problems reading. The point is no. Your wrong.

Bad boys are really bad boys. They wouldn't be bad boys if they didn't do bad boy things now would they?" No. They're considered bad boys because the world, their community overall perceives them as such. What people consider to be a bad boy is subjective. Anybody can do bad things, but if the world wants to judge a person like that then they will judged righteously by the one who can.

" These guys go to jail all the time, go to parties, get hammered, and don't give a fuck about life and feel like they can say and do anything they want." How do you personally know they go to jail all the time? Do you know ALL men called 'bad-boys'? Did you ever had a friend, or know somebody personally who done so? Because I have. First of all. I said so-called 'Bad Boy's.' Not the actually ones. You listed things that overall constitutes as one.

[myTake Owner]

(continued) Disney's asshole to realize.

3.) Those girls did know me. They went to my school, they knew my name. They didn't go with me because I was ugly. One straight up called me "ugly and worthless", then went to the dance by herself because it was either go with me or go by herself. If I did come off a creep it was because i'm not attractive. And how will you ever talk to girls if you don't introduce yourself? Do you honestly think that you are simply born with friends?

That's because it's based upon your physical attractiveness, something you can't change all too much.

Now onto my advice

1.) Yes, watch how they dress or watch men's style videos on youtube. With your logic, girls can't watch make up tutorials on Youtube because it's "fake". What is it with you and being yourself? Who says you can't improve yourself?
2.) Yes, wash your face. You'd be surprised at the amount of guys who don't
3.) Yes be confident. It may not work all the time, but at least you'll be seen as

[myTake Owner]

(continued) as ballsy and not a wimpy little bitch.

All in all, I know my shit. I've been in the same position for years and i'm still in that position. The only way to get girls is to be attractive, end of story. Book closed.

[btbc92]

"they date him because they genuinely have feelings for him " Nope. It's because of hormones. And it's driven by lust because if they really loved him and knew what love is they would have LET HIM GO. I know personally because my close friend's ex before she married her husband DATED A BAD BOY. And he was a person with a LOT of problems. So much that is sad, but crazy at the same time. Bad Boys overall yes, don't care. But now what about the ones who do all of that, but needs HELP? There is a major difference. And you can't judge a book by it's cover. Not everybody is perfect and you have to understand that.

"Your looks SHOULD matter." Then be prepared to be judged by those same standards and stop complaining. That's my issue I have with men who think like you do. You think there aren't people who doesn't look at looks. I'M one of those people. And some of my close friends, Christian and non-Christian alike feels the same and have happy relationships and marriages.

[btbc92]

"All in all, I know my shit. I've been in the same position for years and i'm still in that position. The only way to get girls is to be attractive, end of story. Book closed." That's your problem because you think you know everything. You don't. Your nasty attitude and bitterness is why you can't find a woman to pay attention to you. Acknowledge you and want to get to know you. You want the same thing these girls your chasing are REFUSING to give to YOU. You don't want a girl to truly care about you for you? Then suffer by yourself then. Because nobody again, want's to be with a man with your attitude. It's not ATTRACTIVE.

[btbc92]

As I said before. If these girls DO in fact care about these guys, they are in it to try to change him. They cannot do that. HE has to be the one to seek change and be liberated. Some men needs a strong woman to be the pillar of his strength. But if all he is doing is not beneficial for her nor him, of course it's going to affect her and the relationship. Naturally she'll be hurt, because he is toxic as is. Weak willed women go for such men because they are a reflection of who they are inside of their soul. So they gravitate to each other. When you begin to change internally, it shows externally. And now when things don't work out between you and him, now it leaves you room to meet somebody on your mental level. How do you think my close friend got married? She was sulking for months over that guy because he continued to play games, that she needed counseling. It helped her. And we as Christians had to comfort her as well. Well she let him go and began to heal, is when God opened up a

[NYCQuestions1976]

You guys type a lot and seem to have a lot of pent-up frustration. Do you live near one another? Maybe you can bang it out... 😂😂😂

[btbc92]

path to finding a husband she can call her home. One she always desired. And mind you. Physically he wasn't her type. But she loves him and he loves her. And they are VERY much attracted to each other.

[btbc92]

@NYCQuestions1976

Pent-up anger over what? It's not my problem that he is a man that can't get his priorities straight. I don't have to be here trying to prove him wrong. But neither am I going to let him lie about things to men who are already SUFFERING and is confused. They don't need any more confusion. There are better options out there if they just seek it. If they don't want it, somebody else who is more qualified will be there in their place. That's all. No argument.

[btbc92]

her own*

[btbc92]

If somebody wants to write a mytake like this, they need to come with the truth. Not what they THINK is the TRUTH. And back it up with facts.

[myTake Owner]

"No. They're considered bad boys because the world, their community overall perceives them as such. What people consider to be a bad boy is subjective. Anybody can do bad things, but if the world wants to judge a person like that then they will judged righteously by the one who can. " Small details of bad boys are subjective, not the whole thing. Universally, bad boys are always nearing (or doing) jail time, and not giving a fuck about anything. One bad deed will not make you a bad boy (unless you do something completely bad ass)

Yes, I do personally know guys who are bad boys. Back in high school, there was this one guy that didn't live by the rules. He did whatever he pleased. He almost went to prison, was suspended from school, and just did dumbass shit in general and he was getting the most gorgeous girls at our school. You can tell that girls act flirty around him, but around ugly guys like me they are disgusted. Those are the so-called "bad boys"

[NYCQuestions1976]

I typed "frustration", not "anger".

[myTake Owner]

If it was all hormone driven, then why does she go and cry to the nice guy about them braking up? Surely if she did that, she should have at least some feeling for the guy right? Although it is slightly driven by hormones, she wants to get with him because she is physically attracted to him and has feelings for him. She wouldn't be so upset if the relationship was to simply fuck each other (unless the sex was that good).

I love how you said "then prepared to be judged on your looks", but then said that looks shouldn't matter... Yes, I am ugly, I get judged based on my looks. Everyone does. You're either watching way too many Disney movies or just plain ignorant to reality to think that your physical looks aren't judged on a daily basis. And if you're not picking a partner based upon looks, then you must be either extremely desperate or trying to prove a point to another person because no one wants to date someone they find unattractive.

[btbc92]

" You can tell that girls act flirty around him, but around ugly guys like me they are disgusted. " STOP CALLING yourself ugly. You're not ugly. You're uniquely different. And attraction is subjective. If that is how you view yourself, then YOUR the problem. Not these women. They don't know or anything about you. So why would they? Because they too are like you who don't have their priorities in order. They're immature. They're ditzy and follow the ways of the world because they want to keep up with the world. And you want to join them to be accepted. Stop it!

Because it's not benefiting you either way in the long run. No woman can love somebody who acts so bitter. You show that you have nothing to offer but pain. No one can draw near you if you continue to have your heart cold and red with jealousy. Green with envy for your jealousy of these women and the guys they go after.

[myTake Owner]

My "nasty attitude" came from women turning me down and never giving me a chance. I can't do anything about it because of my genetics. I'm not saying that it's wrong to judge my looks, but it sucks to have no one to date. Especially that thing that happened at prom. I haven't let go of that event. Now I don't even approach or flirt with women anymore because I already know that they think I'm ugly and they aren't interested in what I have to offer.

[btbc92]

@NYCQuestions1976

How does frustration start? With being angry. So what I said is an indirect response to what you said.

[NYCQuestions1976]

@btbc92 and Opinion Owner:

Come on guys. It's time for you to smash bodies. I was a good wingman once. I still got it. I can make this happen... 😂😂😂😂

[btbc92]

WHY do you NEED somebody to DATE? WHY? Ask yourself this question. You're being a hypocrite right now because firstly you argue that looks do matter, yet you blame your genetics? Come on! That's a weak pathetic excuse man. All the things you're saying is no different from my experiences that caused me to be celibate today. BUT. Just because I resented the boys and men that treated me like crap, it doesn't mean I continue living my life like this. That bitterness stems from your inability to lET GO. Because you sadly like to harbor resentments towards people and you do NOTHING to change yourself or do anything about it. You get into a relationship like that you're going to do the exact same thing these 'bad boys' are doing to their girls. The same thing, and it will sneak up on you like preditor in the night. And then you're going to feel even worse about yourself.

[myTake Owner]

Can you stop with this hippy liberal shit? "You're uniquely different". C'mon now! Really? Are you high? Are you really oblivious to the fact that girls turn down guys they think are ugly? Again, put down the Disney movies, they aren't good for your brain. It has nothing to do with what I think of myself it has to do with what they think of me. I can say i'm ugly as fuck (which I am) and girls will agree with me. You can't say I'm attractive because you've never seen my face.

[myTake Owner]

@NYCQuestions1976 Don't see that happening. She's too old for me and way too delusional

[btbc92]

So that is your answer? You're just going to be a coward and give up? Firstly I'm not liberal. I'm not conservative nor hold any political alignment of any party. And I take what you say as offensive. Because this is WHO I AM. I treat people with higher regard as I do for myself. This is who I am. And if you can't accept my generous and caring nature, then it not only proves what I said about you to be true, but you lack love to share because you can't even accept what I have to say to you. Sad. You care too much about what they think of you. I no longer care about what men think of me. Some thinks I'm attractive, others don't. Who cares! Those that want me around will have me around. Those who doesn't, can find an exit. I have so much respect and dignity for myself than to be like you are right now.

But it's your choice. I don't have to keep going back and forth with a hard-headed person. Continue being bitter.

[myTake Owner]

I need to date someone because I will have to leave this earth on some point and I want someone to share a connection with. can't really do that if I'm ugly now can I? How am I being hypocritical? Looks do matter and I can't get girls because of my bad genetics. They go hand in hand... Again, my bitterness stems from me being rejected over and over and such humiliating ways. Hell, I've even started losing trust in women after learning about dudes getting fucked over by false sexual assault allegations.

[NYCQuestions1976]

No, frustration isn't part of anger. Anger is the middle part of a great universal rule. It starts like this:

Fear leads to anger,
Anger leads to hate,
Hate leads to the Dark Side.
Train yourself to let go of what you fear to lose the most...

Yoda knows all. Yoda. Knows. All.

[btbc92]

You don't love yourself. How can you even accept the love of another woman who's going to get hurt and waste her time trying to be with an unsatisfying person trying to fill a void you can't even fill. Not worth it.

[myTake Owner]

"Firstly I'm not liberal. I'm not conservative nor hold any political alignment of any party. And I take what you say as offensive."

Yep, that's liberal thinking. It's what's wrong with this country, people getting offended over shit. Stop being so sensitive. You're thinking way too deep into it. If I were to think like you, I'd never get a girlfriend. Like... ever... I can think what I want, but if a girl doesn't find me physically attractive, then trust me when I say I will not be getting that girl's number that day. Even the girls in this comment section agree with me.

[btbc92]

@NYCQuestions1976

You realize that what your quoting is from Buddhist thinking right? Fear has nothing to do with anger. It may gravitate to anger but it doesn't. If you don't understand where your fear comes from, then it will lead to other problems if you lack self-control. Anger has to already be within you to hate and hate has to already be in your heart to project anger. I don't hate him. But I hate the things he is doing to himself. But neither can I tell him how to live his life or tell him what to do. I already let that go many years ago and gave it to God. I don't need what he's got going on. Life is too short to continue being angry.

[myTake Owner]

She would have to find me physically pleasing first... And I can fill a girl's "void". I would love and cherish her. I can provide, but she has to find my attractive first. It has nothing to do with what I think of myself.

[btbc92]

"Yep, that's liberal thinking." No. Its not. I don't hold views of the world. My views come's from God. I can care LESS what this world say. Let alone what YOU think of me. See the difference. It's not me being sensitive. It's me as a woman telling it to you as a so-called man. You can't handle what I have to say. Of course, they agree with you because their GUILTY of everything you wrote! Even if they never been with bad boys. They do the same thing to men like you. That's what you don't see. Or get.

"She would have to find me physically pleasing first... And I can fill a girl's "void". I would love and cherish her. I can provide, but she has to find my attractive first. It has nothing to do with what I think of myself." Now you're just thinking backwards trying to go forwards. No. You CAN'T. Because if you could you wouldn't be arguing with me like you are right now. So stop. Your not fooling me with your nonsense. I can see and read right through you. You cannot provide that.

[btbc92]

Because it starts by self-acceptance. You think you're ugly, so you are ugly. But ONLY according to YOU. It's psychology. And any psychologist would agree with what I have to say, that's why many have said I should be going to school to become one.

[btbc92]

And any girl who would be STUPID and NAIVE enough to get with you while you are still like this, thinking and believing the lie your trying to sell me right now, is a fool.

[btbc92]

And then BOTH of you will resent each other for foolishly jumping into something your not mentally, emotionally and psychologically mature for, and her being naive to get into any relationship out of desperation. Those foolish mistakes will cost you big time. All because YOU don't want to heed to sound advice. That is how people like you get into a hole you can't get out of, but you so desperately want somebody to get you out of it. And what's sad, you fall right in it again. Because your prideful and you don't want to learn anything.

[NYCQuestions1976]

She's saying you're giving up too easily. I'm telling you, there's a path for you to blast it out! Get on it and bang her out! Ask her to message you and ask her out!!

[myTake Owner]

Oh no, you're a church nut. Just like my father. *sigh* oh well. I'm ugly because multiple girls have told me that I was ugly. And i mean MULTIPLE girls have told me this. In fact, since you're so keen on "looks don't matter", do you want to go on a date with me? Oh wait, you don't? It's probably because you don't know what I look like. I could be the ugliest 19 year old you've ever seen or I could be a 63 year old man. That's why you wouldn't. It has nothing to do with me accepting myself, that's dumb. Accepting yourself won't make you any more of less ugly than you already are.

[btbc92]

@NYCQuestions1976

The hell is wrong with you? I ain't getting with him. Are you crazy? And I'm a Christian. I dont believe in premarital sex and the like. He is NOT for me. I needed a strong man with morals. And he doesn't have them. He wants somebody? He's needs psychological help and evaluation for his head first! And get counseling. Because he is the version of crazy. I ain't stupid. Let some other dumb chick have him. I don't want him. I'll run far FAR AWAY! To another Galaxy!

[btbc92]

You atheist? And call me a religious nut? yeah. Picture that happening. NEVER. And your looks ain't the reason why! I don't want a man who disrespects me and then has the audacity to ask me out. And newsflash, buddy. I ain't hot diggity myself! Goes to show you what YOU know!

[myTake Owner]

I don't believe in premarital sex either. You see me with a girl on my arm? Nope!

[myTake Owner]

No I'm christian, just not a religious nut and I'm not afraid to question parts of my religion. You came at me reckless so what was I suppose to do? Let you insult my intelligence? I had to defend myself because you're going on a delusional track to a make believe land.

[btbc92]

So who are you calling a religious NUT! I can see why again your single. You lack respect man. Your too quick to judge and you want to say I wouldn't date you because your UGLY? NO! Overall If I'm not attracted to you in general maybe not. Not going to lie. But that is the very last thing I considered when I was open to dating many years ago. You don't understand that your not the only person who's been rejected or hurt. And one thing I can actualy say that I rarely got rejectes for not being attractive to a guy. They rejected me because I didn't believe in what they believed, and our morals, faith, beliefs, views, values, principals, etc about love, sex, marriage etc didn't align. And how you came off on me like before is EXACTLY why I rejected those men besides what I just said. Those were the reasons why. If you were a kind man, who shared my values, was friends with me first to build a relationship and communication first, to see how we click, get to each other and such

[btbc92]

AND I was drawn to your heart first! Then maybe even if you didn't attract me at first would I try to date such a person. Especially if God approves first! And learn to grow attracted to you physically and sexually IF I choose you. But AT LEAST I would be honest with you and not lead you on like how everybody else does. That's another reason why some of those same men in the past grew up as I did and respected me now today. Because I was still the same sweet good girl I know myself to be. They're happy that I never did what other women have done. But they also knew that they messed up and knew that I wouldn't bother with them because of it. I gave them a chance. I never sought them out. They did. But they didn't want it. And I grew tired of being available and open. So I let it go.

You say your Christian. But you sound carnal. Not spiritual. I have a relationship with God. I never came at you reckless. It was me correcting what you're not understanding. It's not my fault that you did

[myTake Owner]

Never really said I was a kind man. I'm nice in some aspects, but not in others. Everyone dates someone who they find physically attractive, whether you realize it or not. End of story.

[btbc92]

God wants you to think and use your head. But he doesn't want you to disrespect him. The thing is you do like so many others calling themselves Christians do. You think it's a religion. It's not. It's a deep relationship. He has the be at the center of your everyday life if you expect for another woman to draw closer to you. But to each there own. Hope you find what you're looking for. But again, I do give fair warning. You're not going to get their faster if you keep acting like this. Because you have to remember something as well. Not everybody is attracted to the same thing. Nor get into relationships the same way.

[myTake Owner]

No i'm not spiritual, but there are things I follow in the bible so I can ensure I don't go to hell. Premarital sex being one of them. Spiritual christians freak me out. This "relationship with god" doesn't make sense and makes you sound mental. For most girls, if you're a friend then you will be nothing more than a friend. There is no build up because there was no spark in the first place, because the guy isn't attractive.

[myTake Owner]

"He has to be at the center of your everyday life".

It makes you sound mental. You know there are barbaric things in the bible right? If you are so "spiritual" then why aren't you doing them? It's like a schizophrenic person saying "there are voices in my head", but really it's their own subconscious. A girl wouldn't care if I "have a relationship" with god, well maybe a nun would, but most normal girls wouldn't...

[NYCQuestions1976]

Another galaxy? A galaxy far far away?

It always comes back to Star Wars. 😂😂😂

Okay guys... I'm bored. Good night and good luck!

[btbc92]

Asker, you call yourself a 'Christian'? That's why I said your atheist. You have no faith, which is why you're miserable all the freaking time. You lack belief in anything, let alone yourself, and you want to know why you're single. And yet, you don't even know the Bible. You say there are barbaric things in the Bible? Read a History book. A textbook in school. There are barbaric things writing EVERYWHERE! The Bible shows us our history, why God did and allowed certain things and why he didn't do certain things. You are so ignorant that nobody can believe you even if you do hold those personal beliefs.

Just because somebody raped somebody in the Bible does that mean YOU have to do it? NO. You read somebody got raped in the newspaper, does that mean YOU have to rape somebody? Are you that dense is the head to actually believe and follow something so blindly without understanding WHY? Don't be so foolish. You act like the Black Hebrew Israelites who believe in that filth and twist the

[btbc92]

scriptures for their liking. That's what you sound like.

And firstly. God doesn't speak, to your head. But your heart. Schizophrenia is caused by demons. That's where those 'voices' come in the head from. And yes, there are so-called 'Christian's who do end up mentally ill because they don't pray properly. They have religion, but not a relationship with Christ, they're carnal minded like you are and harbor so many demons that they think it's normal and don't get deliverance from them. That's why you see many having premarital sex, yet the word is clear it's fornication. Christians, who I assume is you, who don't BELIEVE in the bible or Jesus, let alone that there is a God, but call yourself Christian. If I was so called schizo, how the heck do you think I know exactly what to say to you? Because the Lord reveals these things to me about people concerning the spiritual matters. You think your life is normal? Please. Your head ain't normal. I've seen saner Athiest than what you got.

[myTake Owner]

So you’re really gonna compare a headline in a newspaper to the Bible? We are talking about a book that Christians must strictly abide by. Schizophrenia is not caused by demons. If you had any knowledge of the real world, and no the fantasy relationship with god you live in, it had been scientifically proven that it’s their own subconscious. Your speech that you just gave me is highly illogical, which most spiritual christians are. You evade facts and science in exchange for fantasy.

[myTake Owner]

Not*

[btbc92]

If you really were taught as a Christian you would know what Hebrews 10:1-7 KJV STATES!:

For the law having a shadow of good things to come, and not the very image of the things, can never with those sacrifices which they offered year by year continually make the comers thereunto perfect. 2For then would they not have ceased to be offered? because that the worshippers once purged should have had no more conscience of sins. 3But in those sacrifices there is a remembrance again made of sins every year. 4For it is not possible that the blood of bulls and of goats should take away sins.

5Wherefore when he cometh into the world, he saith, Sacrifice and offering thou wouldest not, but a body hast thou prepared me:

6In burnt offerings and sacrifices for sin thou hast had no pleasure.

7Then said I, Lo, I come (in the volume of the book it is written of me,) to do thy will, O God.

[btbc92]

And continuing on from Hebrews 10:8-18 :

Above when he said, Sacrifice and offering and burnt offerings and offering for sin thou wouldest not, neither hadst pleasure therein; which are offered by the law; 9Then said he, Lo, I come to do thy will, O God. He taketh away the first, that he may establish the second. 10By the which will we are sanctified through the offering of the body of Jesus Christ once for all.

11And every priest standeth daily ministering and offering oftentimes the same sacrifices, which can never take away sins: 12But this man, after he had offered one sacrifice for sins for ever, sat down on the right hand of God; 13From henceforth expecting till his enemies be made his footstool. 14For by one offering he hath perfected for ever them that are sanctified. 15Whereof the Holy Ghost also is a witness to us: for after that he had said before,

16This is the covenant that I will make with them after those days, saith the Lord, I will put my laws into their hearts,

[btbc92]

and in their minds will I write them;

17And their sins and iniquities will I remember no more.

18Now where remission of these is, there is no more offering for sin.

So what the heck are you talking about? Many of my prayers have been answered and still are getting answered by the same God and Lord, YOU hate, despise and believe is a Fantasy. Trust me buddy, he is VERY MUCH real. And he isn't going to play games with you or anybody of any age. Not even a child. He is a loving and generous God, BUT he will also be that strict parent that will whip your ass if you wanna get out of line. Or maybe let Satan and his demons get the better of you. But only allow but so far. IF he wants you to live. THAT is how serious he is about us and what we choose to do. But as he also declared in his word, if your not his child he will not have anything to do with you.

You don't want anything to do with God like how you claim women don't want anything to do with you, so be it. It's not my problem.

[btbc92]

And as many of times, I have been almost killed demonically last year with almost of a 130bpm heart rate, having to be coughing for over 3 MONTHS! Having my throat closed off for 5 seconds where I couldn't breathe it was the Lord who saved me. Otherwise, I would be here talking to you right now. I would have been dead. Plenty of times I could have died, but I was speared. Goes to show me what you don't know and what you don't want to know.

[btbc92]

wouldn't be here*

[btbc92]

Who knows what God would have in-store for you. He says in his word this and I read it yesterday in Mark 11:23-24. If you don't have any doubt in your heart, what you pray shall happen. Whatever you desire, if you pray and believe that you will receive it, it shall be done.

If you so badly WANTED somebody to share a life with you would have done what you needed to do. Instead your whimpering like lost child! Your want to perks but don't want to do the work. Selfish. You want to be like Esau who sold his birthright and inheritance for food, then you're being a fool. You can sell yours, but I refuse to sell mine. What's mine is mine. And whatever the Lord gives, I will receive and do what he leads for me to do. I'm not stupid enough to renounce the Lord for material things of the world that are soon to be destroyed. And all things and the wicked people in it.

[myTake Owner]

Again, you evade facts, logic, reasoning, and science. For every passage from the Bible you reply, I can give you two facts.

[btbc92]

What you say are not facts! Not even reasoning. No amount of science is going to prove to me anything that I have witnessed. You're just flat out stubborn and wants to do whatever you want. It's your life. You figure it out. I'm not wasting my time on a person who has deaf ears. One thing you do need to stop doing is, stop telling people your Christian. Because you just have a title.

[btbc92]

I don't have to evade the facts. I KNOW the FACTS. I do more study and research than a lot of others bother to do. I pay attention to what can be scientifically proven. But scientist and people as a whole have forgotten one thing. GOD is in CONTROL. If he wants to reveal certain things physically he can. And you can be in awe thinking it's just something produced by nature as is. NOT all the time. So don't tell me about facts from the Bible you can give me. I read my Bible and cross-reference to gain understanding. You're too carnal minded. And carnal minded people can never understand spiritual things. So why waste your time?

[btbc92]

I don't have to evade the facts. But you do. That is very much certain and proven.

[OlderAndWiser]

Good guys are ugly? I don't buy it. I consider myself a good guy and women tell me that I am attractive, even at my age. And, at age 63, I get more dates than I did when I was 18. The primary difference is that I developed self-confidence. If you consider yourself to be a loser, nobody wants to be close to you except other "good guys" who can commiserate with you about your lack of success with women. Stop thinking of yourself as a loser, do something so that you can be proud of who you are, then ask a woman for a date and act like you expect the answer to be "Yes."

Do you know how many guys I have heard talk to a girl and ask, "You wouldn't want to go out to dinner with me Friday night, would you?" the message there is "I'm a loser and I know it." Grow some testicles, act like you have a right to inhabit this planet, and go get a woman!

[myTake Owner]

Not all good guys are ugly, you are correct, but most of them are unattractive to gorgeous women.

[OlderAndWiser]

And how is it that you "know" this?

[myTake Owner]

I’ve been in the same shoes. And I’ve talked to women who has said the same thing. Just look at all the women that agree with me.

[OlderAndWiser]

Your personal experience is not necessarily representative of the population at large, and your assumptions about why you were treated in a certain way may or may not be true. As for the female responses on this site. . . the females on this site are not representative of the population at large and the bias in the way you ask questions can certainly influence the responses you receive.

But believe whatever works for you.

[E_Z_Z]

well to be honest not all the nice guys looks bad and the bad boy doesn't always have to look good , you're right in most of what you have said but to be honest as well am a very nice and i look nice and in good shape not all nice guys look ugly but most of what you said is actually true , but at the end the girl mostly marries the nice guy , some tips for the nice guy to be more attractive to her is actually to be style him self a bit more and find the perfect style for him self and to be confident and stop some of the weird acts actually because to be honest some of the nice guys due to their low confidence they just say and utter strange things which make all nice guys seems weird and strange
be confident in your skin and organise your thoughts and words and seek the perfect style for your self , your hair and cloth and you can actually make any thing you do look cool , am a computer guy but i don't make it seem boring , i make it seem like I'am a creator in the world of computer and internet and that i develop things and create thing , you can make whatever you do look super cool in a good way it's just about you say it and make it look , off course the computer work and development is no easy job or no easy task and requires lots of studying but i make it look cool about what i know and how i talk about , any other guy may make it seem like he is a nerd or some thing
and believe me being nice is way better than being the bad boy , you can actually be nice and give her the bad boy version may be in bed to make her happy , like being rough with her and so on
hope i was able to help

[JDavid25]

I'mma genuine nice guy, and I've been called cute, handsome, pretty, and one time gorgeous... I don't have the easiest time gettin girls.. It ain't sorely about looks wit guys really.. I means girls like a nice lookin guy but that ain't the main thing they lookin for.. Guys win by havin game.. Knowin how to talk to and appreciate women even if it's fake.. I've seen guys who ain't much to look at get wit some bomb women.. You know why? Cause they know how to play the game.. LOL.. Many nice guys don't.. Me included..

[CharlieUnicorn]

I think that's fairly accurate.

There are exceptions though. Ugly guys who are successful in things that are considered attractive and also don't suffer from being a social screw up can ping the radar of a ridiculous amount of women sometimes.

Also, there are ugly guys who are confident as hell, and although they know they don't look good and many will turn them down for it, it's not a sensitive spot for them in any way shape or form.
These guys can sometimes are seen with very hot girlfriends because some women have a need to be the "hot one" in the relationship (but she at least wants a guy who's not full of pathetic self image issues obviously).

Fucking up hygiene however is a topic all on it's own. Universal deterrent if there ever was one.

[bellybuttonlint]

While these tips are definitely going to earn you points on the attractiveness scale, the reason why guys complain about bad boys is also due to lack of compatibility.

Yes, being attractive allows you to get away with stuff and get more girls, but being incompatible is just as responsible for a guy not getting a date.

While being "ugly" (realistically how many people are truly ugly?) does impact your chances of getting a girl, guys should aim for people on their own attractiveness scale or around it.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if this has to do with my looks but it really gets under my skin.

Often times, girls would ask me a question in class. I tell them EXACTLY the answer and explain it, even if it's a simple question like "When is this test?" I tell them "on [date the test is on]". Done. What happens? No answer or she says "Okay", turns around, and asks another person (guy or girl) and asks the same question. They say the exact thing I do.

"Ahh okay! Thank you!"

I sit there wondering why I even bother telling people. Everyone, even family, who even think I'm the know-it-all smartass, do this. Ask me, are in disbelief, and ask someone else.

I'm not even a dishonest person. Hell, I'm almost brutally honest, so what the f))) gives?

[Opinion Owner]

To throw in two cents, I read online that the psychology of people is to believe the word over an attractive person than an ugly one.

Basically, the more attractive you are, the more worth your words hold, regardless if they're propaganda, completely wrong or immoral.

[YoungManTryin]

Less likely that good guys are inherently unattractive and more likely that unattractive guys tend to be nicer or act like they're nice because they don't have any chance otherwise. Just look at me, I'm not hitting blunts and women in my free time, but I'm still incredibly good-looking and stylish.

[Cosytoasty]

Very true. Three excellent points of advice too, you could also add that guys should strive to be good st something... doesn’t have to be sports, and doesn’t have to mean making billions, skilled at a music instrument is a common attraction point for girls.

[SportsFan78]

If they are physically attractive

[Cosytoasty]

@SportsFan78 nah, Messi is hardly the traditionally handsome tall guy, but he’s damn good at soccer.

[SportsFan78]

Messi is an exception. For instance, no girl is going to be magically turned on by me if they find out I have a passion for covering/watching/playing sports, writing, and business if they aren’t already physically attracted to me which to my knowledge for my entire life the number has been 0.

[Likes2drive]

There is plenty of ugly bad boys that are getting the women too since it’s really mostly their attitude and confidence that’s getting them. Looks are only part of it. Being ugly and having no confidence will get you nowhere , so that March is definitely true

[TripleAce]

Brah you forgot the biggest and most important factor for women
Money!
lol
How could you

Maybe this applies to girld when she's like 17 or something
But when tbey get older. Its less about his looks and more about his wallet

Truth

[Unit1]

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[NYCQuestions1976]

Yep. Money cures a lot of attraction issues... just sayin'

[legalboxers]

I been called ugly to my face many times, changed my style of clothing and everything, its still the same. When you live in a town where everyone knows everyone else by 1 degree of separation, because when someone dont like you because of XYZ (which usually is a lie started by someone and that lie is carried over for 10-20 years, that lie usually becomes the truth) you can't get a real fair shake, also when your background is branded as something which it isn't

[Anonymous]

Yea, I agree.
I see so many guys who just won't put in any effort on their appearance, and they smell terrible.

They wonder why beautiful girls who pay careful attention to their appearance don't go for them.

[Krumpir]

Yeah, that's not how confidence works. It works more like on my picture...

[Unit1]

This is too fucking true! :/

[NYCQuestions1976]

You have to be more positive. As in, "I'm positive that I can't do it." lol

[Krumpir]

You guys are killing it 😂

[Unit1]

We need a picture of the paper actually breaking the scissor 😀

[Krumpir]

@Unit1 holly shit I saw it somewhere but it wasn't same text 😂 I will try to photoshop it

[Unit1]

Keep me posted with the results please 😛😀😎 i want to see it.

[Krumpir]

@Unit1 if I manage to find it... :/ I have like 5000 memes and shit in the folder

[NYCQuestions1976]

The paper breaking the scissors with the rock looking on in approval or disgust (you can go either way). LOL

[SirRexington]

This is why we call women slutty bitches. This is awful. And you sir have lost your man privileges for cucking with them.

[myTake Owner]

Wtf are you talking about? I'm not defending them. I'm telling the truth.

[CoffeeWC]

I believe that confidence can greatly impact how attractive you are. Self esteem is important. If you don't see yourself as attractive, don't expect others to see you that way.

[myTake Owner]

That makes no sense... Your physical face will not change with the thought of being attractive. Your physical face (and body) is the determining factor.

[CoffeeWC]

Appearance is only half the factor. Your mood shows. For example, if you're always slouching it won't attract many people.

[Bandit74]

I agree. It's all about looks and confidence and confidence usually comes with being good looking.

[100musicmaniac]

Good luck to people who are going to pick up people because of this myTake.

[myTake Owner]

Is it not true? If you're ugly, it's damn near impossible to get women. You can make yourself look decent, but the guy with the rocking body and good looks will always get the girl over you.

[RedRobin]

Yes, true, even guys who are average/below average looking can be so sexy if they do these things

[OnAColdWinterNight]

Nah, girls don't date you because you're an insecure incel with no personnality that reeks of despair.

[myTake Owner]

Before all of that is even considered, your physical attractiveness is judged first.

[NerdInDenial]

Don't forget money power and fame also helps. Date older women as well

[Edwin23]

Read through some of Women's answers, and it blows my mind.