We've all been in that situation where we send a risky text to our crush, glancing at our phone every few minutes with a mix of nervousness and excitement. No immediate response? That's okay... you go take a nap, do the dishes, finish your homework, the text still in the back of your mind. You come back a few hours later. Still no response? You decide to open the app to make sure the message actually sent. And... Boom. Seen two hours ago.
Although it's tempting to feel hurt, angry, disappointed, or even blame yourself, it's important to take a step back, take a deep breath, and truly asess all the reasons this could have happened.
1. H/she is busy. Maybe they're at work or with a friend or studying and glanced at the text, read it, and decided they would have to respond later.
2. Someone opened the text on their behalf. Some people aren't especially private with their phones, especially younger people. It could have been your crush's older brother, best friend, other best friend, not so best friend, or that classmate they gave their password to a couple weeks ago and completely forgot about.
3. S/he doesn't know what to say. Especially if the text doesn't directly ask a question or is something like "hey" or "what's up", they honestly may not know how to respond or are just trying to avoid the awkward "nothing much, wbu", "nothing much" exchange. Although maybe some acknowledgement would have been courteous, not everyone works that way.
4. Phone problems. Maybe their phone died as soon as they opened the text, maybe their phone is really old and laggy and the app crashed, maybe they dropped their phone in the toilet as soon as they read it.
5. They don't want to talk. We all have bad days. Sometimes we have days so sucky we don't want to talk to anyone and let everyone know by passive aggressively leaving all of their texts on read.
6. They truly didn't like what you said. Of course, there's always the chance that you really did creep them out or make them feel uncomfortable with that risky text. In which case...
What do you do about it?
1. Take some time to cool off. If you're really upset at being left on read, it's best to put your phone aside and cool off before coming up with an equally passive aggressive response for them.
2. Don't take it personal. It's extremely challenging to tell someone's emotion over text. A lot of feelings ger hurt over text and social media that could have been avoided with a simple face-to-face conversation.
3. Try again later. Wait a day or two and try again with a friendly, less risky question. And if that doesn't work...
4. Casually mention it in person. Mention it in a friendly or joking way, ie "hey I noticed you haven't been replying to my texts. What's up?" It will be much easier to gauge how the person is feeling with a face-to-face conversation, and they don't have the option to leave you on read irl (unless they want to walk away, in which case you'd know for a fact something was wrong).
5. Brush it off. Sure it can hurt and it sucks when someone doesn't want to talk to you... but we all have a life. No matter how much you love your crush, life goes on. Put on a good movie and get over it.