Not unless I ask you first, which i did with my boyfriend. So If i ask you first, then yes.. I will gladly pay for the first date. But I'm not going to ask you and then be some uncourteous dick that makes you pay when I asked you to spend a moment of your time with me. Who does that? If it's an outing, like two friends going to hang out and chill, then I have problem paying for my own shit.. but a date.. I'm gonna pay for you cause I asked you out.
I've always been someone who likes to split the bill. I don't pay no one's meal until we agree to be in a serious relationship. I hope for the other person to feel same way I do, and I don't want him to pay for me but neither want him to expect me to pay all. We are dating to meet each other, not to have a free meal and use other people as a wallet.
"Would you be offended if I pay for my share of our date?" I usually said that line when we talked on the phone before the date. Typically, I'd get "Yeah, I don't have a problem with that. But, if you don't mind, it was my intention to cover the entire cost of the evening."
Most of the time, my dates grab the bills and insist on paying everything. That usually indicates that the date is going well. If the date isn't going well, I'd insist on paying for the meal & drinks then head out alone.
Your generalization doesn't make sense. Just because young women in general might be more successful doesn't mean the girl who is sitting across the table from you is doing better than you financially.
I don't understand why people can't just do a 50-50 split (regardless of who ate more). People are so stingy these days.
Yes things are so reversed. I swear people, soon enough a man ego will not be based on his success at work and his ability to potentially provide for his family... things are so reversed a man will only need love and the women will tell men that they don't need relationships right now because they are busy with work...
The only guys who let the girls pay have a gigolo mentality or deep anger toward women in general
Nah man, pay for your own damn meal. Unless we're in a committed relationship, I don't buy this "one person pays the whole bill" crap. If we're committed, then sure, we'll switch it around and/or adapt who has the ability to pay and who's asking to go out to eat more. I'd do the same for a friend.
Alright the only thing I agree with you is when you say the bill should be split. But actually, not every women have a successful job, not every men have a lame job. Then what is this stereotype of man/woman cheating more and being more manipulative? Many guys are still cheaters and manipulators, and many women are cheaters and manipulators too, but that's so wrong to put everyone in the same bag!
I think that the guy should pay for the date. Maybe I'm a bit classic here, but I like the idea of the guy asking the girl out then paying for the date.
I don't mind splitting the bill, and if he has paid for me before, I'd certainly offer to pay for him the next time. But I have to say I find it more attractive/manly if he pays the bill on the first date. It would be a turn-off if he didn't. Having said that, I'd also be okay going on a date where little or no spending is involved. It's not about money.
I choose to pay for her. I get what you are saying but I'm not going to willingly be "the girl" in the relationship. The way you explained guys and girls switching roles. I'll pay and if she wants to pay then sure. It's not this big deal where I expect her to pay. If paying is that big of a deal to you then you aren't mature enough to date. It's not about the paying. It's about the time you spend with that person.
Splitting the bill is sort of fair I guess but keep in mind that girls and guys dating and societal roles have reversed so going by tradition, girls should be paying for guys.
Yeah they have reversed. Girls earn more and are more successful. Girls are also cheating more and are more promiscuous than guys are. Girls have become what guys used to be. Guys have become what girls once were.
Dude, we are not. We are told that if we want to be taken seriously we need to be like guys. There is a gender pay gap in many professions. And what in the world are you talking about? The cheating rate is even at best as is the promiscuity. What, do you want us to go back to the dark ages and wear corsets and starve because we are widowed and can’t own anything or handle money?
Not at all. Girls should be able to work if they want to - I support this. Girls should also be able to have sex with whoever they want, whenever they want. I support all of this. But as a result we see young women are now cheating more than guys and hate relationships. They are also more promiscuous than guys. Yeah, this sucks and it very depressing but if that's what women truly want then they should be happy - I guess that's why it bothers me so much.
@stevenjohnson you’re the ignoramus here, so your ignorant term “feminazi” has no venom here. Enjoy never being able to get a girl. I hope that if one of us is dating you right now she leaves your sorry backside to let you fend for yourself without her help. Preferably on a deserted island with no food or clean water.
@stevenjohnson you were calling me names, I didn’t call you any names like this ignorant term “feminazi.” You’re the one in the wrong here. have a lovely day, Bye.
I don’t really like when guys always have to be the one buying and treating girls only to get taken advantage of. That’s why pay for your own is way better, I’m not saying a guy isn’t allowed to buy gifts and girls should buy gifts for guys too.
Equality is best compared to girls deserve to be treated like queen or guy should be treated like king.
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"Girls are the ones who are more sexual and promiscuous than guys are now." This shit is hilarious.
If you're broke or a feminist and actually believe in equality, splitting is okay. Paying on a date is like saying "I can take care of you as a man". Most women like that, but if that's not the message you want to send, don't.
I'd take it a step further and just say don't bother dating, it's a waste of time. You mentioned promiscuity and a whole bunch of other crap, yet talk about dating.
Most people in this culture are unable to connect on a deeper level, cannot have healthy relationships, are disloyal, and ego driven.
@SarahsSummer Except loneliness has nothing to do with whether a person is dating, or has a partner. It's all about the quality of the relationship we have with our deepest self.
@SarahsSummer Yep, and to do that means facing the best and the worst of ourselves which can be painful. Much easier for people to distract themselves with another...
I figure split the bill on the first date so nobody feels used because often there won't be more than one date. If there are more then I wouldn't pay for her until she paid for me first so I know I'm not getting used for money. If she doesn't offer to pay my way after a while, just end it and leave because she is probably the type to think she is doing me a favor for just paying for herself.
I get where you are coming from, but most men WANT to dote on their dates as a sign of his virtue as a mate.
Women and men are equal, but a lot of women think in terms of quitting their jobs to raise a family. So the way a man spends his money for her is very telling about how he will provide resources for her in the future.
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Not unless I ask you first, which i did with my boyfriend. So If i ask you first, then yes.. I will gladly pay for the first date. But I'm not going to ask you and then be some uncourteous dick that makes you pay when I asked you to spend a moment of your time with me. Who does that? If it's an outing, like two friends going to hang out and chill, then I have problem paying for my own shit.. but a date.. I'm gonna pay for you cause I asked you out.
And I don't want to hear about how guys ask most of the time, if you not courteous enough to pay for a date that you wanted, then don't bother asking.
Except guys don't really have a choice since if they don't ask, the chances of them ever being asked out are pretty slim.
@ThisDudeHere u didn't read my comment under this did you
I did.
I always let a guy know beFORE weve gone for food, whether or not i can pay for myself (hard up on cash lately).
They pretty much always know from the start that i dont like for them to pay for me, but that i will need them to from time to time.
But they also know that i will pay them back one way or another when i can. Usually through endless free coffees.
I've always been someone who likes to split the bill. I don't pay no one's meal until we agree to be in a serious relationship. I hope for the other person to feel same way I do, and I don't want him to pay for me but neither want him to expect me to pay all. We are dating to meet each other, not to have a free meal and use other people as a wallet.
"Would you be offended if I pay for my share of our date?" I usually said that line when we talked on the phone before the date. Typically, I'd get "Yeah, I don't have a problem with that. But, if you don't mind, it was my intention to cover the entire cost of the evening."
Most of the time, my dates grab the bills and insist on paying everything. That usually indicates that the date is going well. If the date isn't going well, I'd insist on paying for the meal & drinks then head out alone.
Your generalization doesn't make sense. Just because young women in general might be more successful doesn't mean the girl who is sitting across the table from you is doing better than you financially.
I don't understand why people can't just do a 50-50 split (regardless of who ate more). People are so stingy these days.
Yes things are so reversed. I swear people, soon enough a man ego will not be based on his success at work and his ability to potentially provide for his family... things are so reversed a man will only need love and the women will tell men that they don't need relationships right now because they are busy with work...
The only guys who let the girls pay have a gigolo mentality or deep anger toward women in general
Nah man, pay for your own damn meal.
Unless we're in a committed relationship, I don't buy this "one person pays the whole bill" crap.
If we're committed, then sure, we'll switch it around and/or adapt who has the ability to pay and who's asking to go out to eat more. I'd do the same for a friend.
Alright the only thing I agree with you is when you say the bill should be split. But actually, not every women have a successful job, not every men have a lame job. Then what is this stereotype of man/woman cheating more and being more manipulative? Many guys are still cheaters and manipulators, and many women are cheaters and manipulators too, but that's so wrong to put everyone in the same bag!
I think that the guy should pay for the date. Maybe I'm a bit classic here, but I like the idea of the guy asking the girl out then paying for the date.
Because you have class/ taste. Expect more and you get more.
I don't mind splitting the bill, and if he has paid for me before, I'd certainly offer to pay for him the next time. But I have to say I find it more attractive/manly if he pays the bill on the first date. It would be a turn-off if he didn't. Having said that, I'd also be okay going on a date where little or no spending is involved. It's not about money.
If i make up the plan to take anyone for meal, then i'll pay. If she's making the plan then she should pay.
The person who ( brings up/ suggests/ asks out for) the meal has to pay.
The person who asks out for the date has to pay.
If a girl is makinfg the plan , then i am enough self-respecting to (at least*) pay my bill.
Dating is not a part of our culture and i dont even support it. People do it. Let them do. That's what i think.
End of the discussion for me.
LOL all the hate from the Pink Anons.. Just proves that women can be FAR more sexist than men at times.
Yes!
LOL@ the down votes.. only proves me right.. Keep them coming cry babies.
I choose to pay for her. I get what you are saying but I'm not going to willingly be "the girl" in the relationship. The way you explained guys and girls switching roles. I'll pay and if she wants to pay then sure. It's not this big deal where I expect her to pay. If paying is that big of a deal to you then you aren't mature enough to date. It's not about the paying. It's about the time you spend with that person.
Time spent is what it’s all about!
I certainly will pay my own way but I won’t pay his. I will always pay mine. And I disagree with pretty much everything you said/ever say, wanker.
Splitting the bill is sort of fair I guess but keep in mind that girls and guys dating and societal roles have reversed so going by tradition, girls should be paying for guys.
They have not reversed, we are equals. I’m not paying for anybody.
Yeah they have reversed. Girls earn more and are more successful. Girls are also cheating more and are more promiscuous than guys are. Girls have become what guys used to be. Guys have become what girls once were.
Dude, we are not. We are told that if we want to be taken seriously we need to be like guys. There is a gender pay gap in many professions.
And what in the world are you talking about? The cheating rate is even at best as is the promiscuity. What, do you want us to go back to the dark ages and wear corsets and starve because we are widowed and can’t own anything or handle money?
Not at all. Girls should be able to work if they want to - I support this. Girls should also be able to have sex with whoever they want, whenever they want. I support all of this. But as a result we see young women are now cheating more than guys and hate relationships. They are also more promiscuous than guys. Yeah, this sucks and it very depressing but if that's what women truly want then they should be happy - I guess that's why it bothers me so much.
Dude, go see a professional. You are at least partially delusional—unless you’d like to procure some cold hard reliable evidence.
Actually I do have evidence. I asked a question recently actually... let me get a link.
Girls, why do you hate relationships so much? ↗
In this question I provide two pieces of evidence.
Corsets were pretty cool
Ignore the pink anon feminazi trolls aged 18-24, they are the worst group of people in history.
@stevenjohnson true
@stevenjohnson you’re the ignoramus here, so your ignorant term “feminazi” has no venom here. Enjoy never being able to get a girl. I hope that if one of us is dating you right now she leaves your sorry backside to let you fend for yourself without her help. Preferably on a deserted island with no food or clean water.
See read its vile answer to me, what a spiteful feminazi this is.
@stevenjohnson you were calling me names, I didn’t call you any names like this ignorant term “feminazi.” You’re the one in the wrong here. have a lovely day, Bye.
I agree. But I Think both chould pay for their own food. To offer is nice but you can't expect someone to pay for you
But I don't agree with everything you said
Girls still expect guys to pay for them.
A lot of girls do but not all. I don't, I actually prefer go pay for myself
I don’t really like when guys always have to be the one buying and treating girls only to get taken advantage of. That’s why pay for your own is way better, I’m not saying a guy isn’t allowed to buy gifts and girls should buy gifts for guys too.
Equality is best compared to girls deserve to be treated like queen or guy should be treated like king.
"Girls are the ones who are more sexual and promiscuous than guys are now." This shit is hilarious.
If you're broke or a feminist and actually believe in equality, splitting is okay. Paying on a date is like saying "I can take care of you as a man". Most women like that, but if that's not the message you want to send, don't.
Girls are more promiscuous and sexual than guys now. Young women are at least.
Yeah sure. I'm totally convinced after you said the exact same thing again. Dude what happened to you? I'm curious.
This is what people tell me.
People who have a fufilling love life?
I'd take it a step further and just say don't bother dating, it's a waste of time. You mentioned promiscuity and a whole bunch of other crap, yet talk about dating.
Most people in this culture are unable to connect on a deeper level, cannot have healthy relationships, are disloyal, and ego driven.
Who should pay is irrelevant...
I think he’s headed down that path already. Hence the username.
@SarahsSummer Except loneliness has nothing to do with whether a person is dating, or has a partner. It's all about the quality of the relationship we have with our deepest self.
Yup. You cannot truly love another, until you truly love yourself.
@SarahsSummer Yep, and to do that means facing the best and the worst of ourselves which can be painful. Much easier for people to distract themselves with another...
Much easier Indeed. but one cannot griow without taking that tough look.
I figure split the bill on the first date so nobody feels used because often there won't be more than one date. If there are more then I wouldn't pay for her until she paid for me first so I know I'm not getting used for money. If she doesn't offer to pay my way after a while, just end it and leave because she is probably the type to think she is doing me a favor for just paying for herself.
I get where you are coming from, but most men WANT to dote on their dates as a sign of his virtue as a mate.
Women and men are equal, but a lot of women think in terms of quitting their jobs to raise a family. So the way a man spends his money for her is very telling about how he will provide resources for her in the future.