First dates sound intimidating. After all, it’s a make or break. They can either make your next relationship or break the connection on the get go. Let’s get down and dirty to the no nos of the first meeting (not in chronological order) :
1. No show.
Ouch. It’s an instant turn off. Goodbye forever.
2. Showing up late.
15, 30 minutes late is acceptable as long as your excuse is legit (caught in traffic/accident/emergency) but an hour late is just a sign of disrespect.
If you keep pushing the date further, it says you really are not interested to meet me.
If you arrive in dress to kill like you’re attending a Hollywood premier night or you're all dolled up looking like Pennywise, your date might be intimidated of how ostentatious/high maintenance you are… Or can be a turn on if you looking so fine.
5. Under dressed
If you arrive wearing only a piece of cloth covering your tatas, your date might wrinkle his nose in disgust. He’s looking for a future girlfriend/wife not paying for an escort for the night. Or you dressed up like you just rolled out of bed; it shows you just don’t give an F about anything.
6. No table manners
It is your first date; learn to be polite when the food is being served. It is a turn off when your date watches you eat like you’re in an eating contest. Say please and thank you and most of all be polite to the waiter.
7. Keep the conversation flowing and neutral and two ways.
Ask questions, get to know each other, keep the conversation light yet hearty. Avoid touchy topics like religion, politics even sports or any other matter that's going make the date awkward or heated.
8. Never bring up past relationships/sexual history.
It is too soon. Not now.
9. Never ask how much they make.
Although you can ask what they do for a living but asking them figures of their monthly/annual income is way too personal and can be a turn off for most people.
10. Don’t brag about how much you make either.
If you voluntarily divulge that you’re making a six figure salary or you own a big house by the lake, it can be TMI for some people but maybe catchy for aspiring gold diggers.
11. Never ever take friends/family with you.
It is a date not a group outing. If you do, do not expect your date to pay for your chaperone. Yikes. Instant turn off.
12. Put your phone away.
It is your first time to be with this new person and potential future partner, put your phone on mute and out of sight. Show this person you are interested to know them and focus on them.
13. Stop checking the time.
Never ever let your date feel that you’re bored or dying to go somewhere else. It’s rude af.
14. Flirting with the server or other people around.
Screams thirsty. Calm yourself down.
15. Never bring up marriage AND children.
Unless you already told your date online about your marital status. But in any circumstances, never ever bring this topic up on a first date. Again it is too soon.
16. Poor hygiene
If you don’t care about your personal hygiene, what makes you care about having a meaningful relationship with this new person? Self love first before loving someone else. Take a shower with soap and water, brush your teeth. Look good! Damn it's not that hard.
17. Don’t be a cheapskate/over spender.
Don’t expect your date to pay for your meal. Do you expect a stranger to pay for your food? Or limiting your order in the fear of paying for your date’s meal…
18. Never ask your date for a ride home.
Unless they offer…
19. Sex on the first date.
Again too soon. If you do, make it count lol.
20. Getting drunk and wasted.
Uh no. Bye.
These are just the few common no nos on the first date. Feel free to add more. First dates are supposed to be enjoyable, fun and exciting meeting a special person for the first time. So try to avoid these mishaps coz you never know that special date of yours could turn out to be the future love of your life. Enjoy!