Why It's Much Better to Approach a Woman In Real Life than Online

[Avicenna]

I know, I know, you're too shy, don't have time or live in BFE where there aren't any prospects.

Nevertheless, you have some strong advantages if you approach in person.

1. You have much less competition- even if she is using dating apps

"Don't just be one of the crowd...."

Rather than being one of hundreds or even thousands of guys messaging her online, you get her full attention when you have the cojones to approach her. And how many guys are approaching her on a daily basis? If the questions from some girls here on GAG are any indication, some women aren't getting approached at all. A friendly guy talking to her could make her day.

2. You make a different and stronger impression

"He's going to get her number!"

Rather than just being a bunch of text and still life (in photos), in 3D you are a living, breathing human being whose body language, voice, smile and manner of relating to people is easily observed and can generate interest while you stand out from the crowd. You show you're bold, confident, and friendly. You also show you aren't a catfish. Above all, you show you are genuine and sincere, even if you are less than smooth when you talk to her.

3. You gather information and generate impressions of her that you can't do online

"Wow, she's fascinating..."

I've only seen one dating site whose chat function was anywhere near as interactive as real life conversations, and that had women who were, alas, in Asia and not easily available for a date. While you're making an impression on her, you are also developing one of her. She may communicate very differently IRL than she does online, and that is usually to your advantage since you will have both verbal and nonverbal communication at your disposal.

4. You get much faster results

"I'm shocked you want my number, but, have it!"

You either get her number or you're told right away she isn't interested, rather than being ghosted online after having a few days' worth of brief, superficial exchanges with someone who's also communicating with lots of other guys. You also accelerate the process of getting to know her a bit.

5. It's fun

"You know, I really enjoyed this conversation....."

You read that right- once you get comfortable doing it, it's fun to approach women and have a nice conversation with them even if it doesn't lead to more. Meanwhile, you're getting more practice and developing more confidence, which can help you in non-romantic contexts as well.

So....what are you waiting for guys? Get out there and talk to the women you find interesting.

[Lliam]

I agree 100%.
I'll add that people communicate completely differently in writing (letters, email, text) than they do in person. Some people have better writing skills than others. Some people write in a completely different style than when they talk. For example, I was taught years ago that if you are writing something that you are going to read to an audience, you have to write in a different style than when writing something that people are going to read. Talking has to be conversational.
In person conversations flow. They are spontaneous and honest. People interact and respond to each other's comments immediately when speaking face to face. It's not the same with print.
Print comments can be misinterpreted because, as you said, people can't hear vocal inflections or read body language. At best, you can use emojis to communicate smiles, laughter, etc. In real life, you can see if a person is bored, rolling their eyes, friendly, interested, engaged, smiling or making a joke.

[Avicenna]

Excellent points...

[coachTanthony]

I used to bet my employees I could get a coffee date within an hour of turning my laptop on... I’ll still take that bet today!

Good read though! Either way guys need to get some skills online or off and quit whining.

[brennanhuff]

you talking about how easily or fast you'd get a date from a dating app? Try doing it on a small city and having to stretch your radius at least 30 miles to even get a decent number or women to swipe through and then see how easy it is. I've had women get my pictures right and profile I have that is funny and I'm apparently a pretty handsome guys. And my matches and likes are very sporadic. Can go a week or two without any likes and then one week have 4 likes or matches in two days. Some can be plain janes and others very cute girls. Some not interested in at all and others hot but never leave a message which a girl has to on Bumble to start anything. Some I've had go well and then try to set up a date only for nothing.

[coachTanthony]

@brennanhuff Small cities suck in general. I always tell people.. move to a big city then settle down in a small one. The question is why it's much better to approach in person than online. If you think you got it tough online go try asking out the town's librarian or bartender lol. Small cities SUCK! That is my two cents.

[Avicenna]

What's the population of the sms city we're talking about? I once lived in one of around 45k (when I was 24-27) and had no trouble meeting girls locally. Had I been there in my 30s, it may have been more difficult, but I think I still could have dated women in their 20s.

[brennanhuff]

Used to have more, but right now there's not even a population of 30k. It's still considered a city but it's like a huge town. I'm sure there are stuff to get involved with, but as far meeting people out and about, it's tough. There are women shopping, but it's nothing like I'd see with young women everywhere in the larger cities. That's the problem, I'm sure there's stuff I could get involved with to help me. My work schedule doesn't help since I'm working nights, which I'm working to change. My schedule gets in the way because I like sports and I've wanted to join a co ed league, but I'd be working when the games start or if I wanted to try a class, I'd have work, It still sucks, because it doesn't compare to the number of women like you could see at a mall, cute girls and the quantity of numbers there to try to date compared to what you could meet at something else.

But yet it's cold approaching that is tricky at places that aren't bars, parties or social events like concerts or sporting events. So seeing pretty girls always puts a smile on my face, but then after I feel depressed because I'd like to talk to women in such places but feel like a creep or wonder if it would seem that way. And that's me doing it in a respectful way which I could just small talk like I would anyone if I were to talk to a cute girl. My opinion is you want to simply talk and obviously not hit on a girl and just simply that and let her signs take it from there. If she's polite and says something back, but doesn't give an indication other than that, then you just leave it at that. If she replies back and then asks a question back and seems interested. Then you continue it and see her response and reaction and go from there based on if she seems interested in conversing more.

[brennanhuff]

Oh well I'm 35 and I guesss it's a compliment as I get women in their 20s, actually a decent amount of cute girls like early 20s that have flirted with me or checked me out. Jeesh sometimes it kind of freaks me out because I"m like "I'm old" why are you looking at me like that lol. One was like 18 , all googly eyed toward me at some pancake cafe restaurant. She was relatively knew there. I don't go after girls that young even if they are technically legal. The girl from the bills came was a college girl. Had to be 21 or 22 at most? And she went behind me and said something to me which I talked to her from there and we exchanged numbers. She was super cute, my best friend who has no shy bone in him and has been with many girls in the past.

He's been in a serious relationship for awhile now so his single days have been long gone. But he was there when I was getting her number and he even said, how pretty she was. I'm not fucking zoolander, so I don't feel that way or insinuate I'm anything like that attractive. But I must have a general good looks since I haven't just had a decent number of cute, pretty and hot girls flirt or check me out in the past. But gay dudes, even straight guys have implied in a matter of fact way that I"m handsome.

[brennanhuff]

And not just white women, but I had a really cute bi racial girlfriend and have had black women, cute latinas, basically girls of different races, ethnicity give me looks in the past. Yes women in my age range that are attractive have liked me, but what I've found amusing in recent times like I said and I guess take it as a compliment is women on opposing age ranges flirting with me too. A bunch of college aged cute girls and then have had some older cougars that I worked with that looked great, but were with somebody. I had some middle aged older lady in the produce cool when I working in there, basically grab my biceps three different times in her flirty conversation with me that she initiated. She was in the produce section, but it was apparent it was not the produce bananas she was interested in that day... My best friend has told me over think stuff though and it sucks, because like I said it sure seems I have quite the potential in attracting ladies and I know that, but I get caught up feeling I don't know what to do and then don't do as much as a should. I mean I did believe it myself, but he told me I could get anyone woman I want. I mean not literally, nobody is attractive to every person of course but I know what he meant and I took his opinion in high regard because hes'a man that's attracted many women in his past.

[1828avaava1828]

@brennanhuff TLDR

[brennanhuff]

@1828avaava1828 I don't understand Egyptian hieroglyphics. But no seriously, what does tldr even mean? I've seen many abbreviations but never seen that

[1828avaava1828]

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[brennanhuff]

@1828avaava1828 Never mind, I googled it. Yes I wrote a lot. I'll rewrite and go to the point on what I said if it's something you'd respond too. I didn't know others may look or be interested in reading my post which I replied to someone else to about. Or would if it was a much shorter response.

[brennanhuff]

@1828avaava1828 thanks. happy kwanzaa to you

[1828avaava1828]

@brennanhuff 😊 🎄

[brennanhuff]

@1828avaava1828 lol ok I'll stop being a dick at least for a minute but not much longer. Merry Christmas to you as well

[coachTanthony]

Thanks for the MHO!

[DorkVader]

You don't have to worry about Snapchat filters, twisty poses, or camera angles to see exactly what she looks like, or how she presents herself to the world, because there she is, in all her beautiful 4d hi def glory.

[DorkVader]

Thanks for MHO! Lol I can't believe I got a downvote! 😂😂😂😂😂

[Syrian_survivor]

3 females who have fake lives downvoted

[DorkVader]

Whatever. I put unflattering pics online too. You gonna know what I look like before we make this date, because I'm fat-tastic and I don't want no smoke. I look how I look, and I'm cute anyway

[Anoniemus]

Smart man. This is why anyone should approach. It's perfect.

[Avicenna]

Thank you

[OlderAndWiser]

You are right, but online dating has the advantage of being able to "meet" new women every day. In real life, I may go more than a week without meeting one new, single woman in my age range. That is why I do online dating.

[Avicenna]

Quality over quantity. Besides, I work right near a university with thousands of attractive women in their 20s.

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you trying to make me jealous? It's working!

[Avicenna]

LMAO, I say to myself daily, "you lucky bastard!"

[bholakumarmahto]

Soniya

[brennanhuff]

I love all these stupid questions, like women are just clamoring to be cold approached. Yeah if you're at a bar or party where people socialize or event, so probably expect to be approached. That's not bad. But what if you go out to such stuff less now? I've seen it here and how others aren't too fond or being cold approached at a store and deal with guys being thirsty. So women probably might not be as receptive to a stranger walking up to them while they are sitting on a bench at the mall and start talking to them. I'd like to do this, and I'd already have done this.

Like wow holy shit, why didn't I think of that, I'm glad you informed me that you should try talking to women. Well when the options seem short in meeting women, it's a pain in the ass. I enjoy talking to women though so that's fun and could be fun if doing so didn't feel where you wonder if you look like a creep because you're simply talking a woman as a stranger. I just feel weird if I were to try starting a conversation with a cute girl next to me at a grocery store or something. Even though I'd simply just ask something about the food and talk like I would to others and just how she takes it. by the way, I'm pretty good with picking up vibes and have been told by various people I'm quite a handsome guy and really funny, witty.

So I enjoy talking to girls at work or other places where I get to know them and I'm apparently quite the flirt but many places I'm at, other girls usually flirt with me but not to other guys. Yes, I did get a girls number before , a really pretty girl at a Buffalo Bills game before who went behind me for the beer line. She said something first though and I carried the convo from there. However, that was a long distance from me and once a blue moon I go to games. So I don't have sporting events I'm often going to because of the small city I live in. It's not so much, will a girl like me that's on my mind as I know I'm a charming son of a bitch, but "how does this look to her for a guy talking to her at the store?" Does that look desperate, do girls want to be left alone at stores because they are shopping? Is that weird? It's expected at bars, but not fucking Best buy for crying out loud. If I'm the guy doing that and other's aren't is that desperate? I don't fucking know

[Avicenna]

Well, as your example from a Bills game indicates, it is more likely to be seizing an opportunity to expand a convo, but a cold approach isn't necessarily unwanted. Here's an example: in 1999, me and a couple of other guys were at a Carnival celebration in Germany (Rosenmontag, for those familiar with it). I saw a couple of attractive women standing nearby who seemed a little younger than us and I started a convo with them. Yes, it was a cold approach, but people tend to be relaxed and more approachable at Carnival. It turned out that they were sisters who lived in the same town as us and the younger one was single and looking for a boyfriend.

[Avicenna]

Point is, you still have to take some initiative and seize the opportunity, but there are some there. I'll admit that it's generally more difficult in the US than in Europe.

[brennanhuff]

You make it sound like a guy would do well simply because he's approaching a girl when others didn't. That may be true, but it sounds like that's more so because of him doing so and less of his actual competitive appeal. If a guy is a stud, why does he need to approach women when other guys haven;t and therefore just get dates for that fact. Versus a guy that is approaching a woman that many other guys have and gets a date from the in real life conversation because he has a stronger combo (looks + wit/charm/humor) than other guys?

[brennanhuff]

sorry about being aggressive or seeming like a dick. I didn't know you were from a different country. It's just my frustration as I know I have all the tool, but I don't know how to go about it. I know I'm not a creep, but I always feel in the back of my mind. "is that desperate or creepy if I strike up to a girl at a grocery store or mall?" Whereas I don't think that if say it's in a classroom or work or bar or party, because I know how to talk to girls like people you know. Some guys just get way too thirsty but it feels even innocent talk can seem forward because it's not expected. So I hear people say have hobbies and join this and join that which I'm trying to do with my busy work schedule. And it's nice, but it sucks too, because sheer number of meeting many cute girls comes from just women being out and a about at stores but where I feel weird talking to them vs a co ed sports league that doesn't feel weird to me. As I know I can make girls smile and laugh pretty easily and get them to be playful back and so forth

[brennanhuff]

Yeah I heard how generally european women are more open to being approached by guys or something. I've never been to Europe so I don't know for sure. I want to go to Italy some time, but I wonder why there's a difference though

[brennanhuff]

I tell you though I love the easier living in a small city and it's great when you have a family and such. But living in a small city in my opinion is much harder in america if you're a single man and wanting meet, date different women as the options are just much more narrow. Just less women to meet and just less social stuff compared to bigger cities of course.

That's why I haven don'e well with online dating apps which I've tried. It's fine to use as an outlet to go with irl efforts. I think the biggest effort should be for irl, because that's you're best bet. Online apps are too competive where the ratio is so skewed with the number of men to women and even a good looking man with a good profile could be lost in the shuffle. Not to mention distance playing in that and your location. Like I have to stretch my mile radius to 30 to get any decent number of women to swipe though. So how many are stretching their radius that far living in a bigger city when they have ton of guys they can swipe through just 5 miles from where they live. And even if they have it that far, most likely tons of guys will show up on her screen to swipe through before yours and yours gets put toward bottom of pile as a result.

[Avicenna]

Most guys aren't studs and need to use a variety of methods to meet women. I've seen plenty of examples of ordinary guys in the US getting a date because he was willing to lay it on the line and approach.
I'm actually from the US, but have lived most of my adult life in Europe. European women are usually more relaxed and approachable than American women, so give it a try.
I completely understand the small town blues when it comes to dating.

[Mädchen]

I think the general Male Population on GAG thinks women have much more Options than they actually have. Yes it's true that online they get hundreds of Messages. But Guys usually swipe right on anyone. (I made a Poll about this and Most said they do) so this online attention basically means nothing. I can only speak for myself but I could count the number of Times I got asked out in a non-alcoholic setting on one hand. And If I substract the Guys who were over 40 it's much less. Eventhough I'd say say I'm maybe slightly above average when it comes to Looks. If a Guy that is around my age or at least not as old as my father would ask me out in a friendly, reapectful way, there is a 120% Chance I'd say yes.

[Avicenna]

It's hard for a guy to stand out in those circumstances- I know this from my own online experiences. That's not the case when you approach in person, as you point out.

[Mädchen]

Women often say they want men to stand Out By writting a creative opener and not Just 'hey how are you' but they can't really hold a conversation themselves. I know I can't. Well at least through texting. But they can still demand These things cause they have the Advantage when it comes to online Dating.

[Avicenna]

I've seen quite a few instances of a woman not being able or willing to hold a convo and thought we wouldn't have had this problem IRL.

[Shamalien]

where are you from? Not America, clearly. I really wanna take heart from this, but why would I put myself out there to ask someone out when I know literally nothing about them?

[Mädchen]

@Shamalien Germany

[Avicenna]

@Shamalien, it should mentioned that most guys in Germany are somewhat more reserved about approaching women. I lived most of my adult life there, though, and can tell you that the women there did enjoy being approached if it was done respectfully, which I always did.

[Levin]

@madchen I tried to approach a group of German girls once...

Big mistake...

[Shamalien]

yah cause in north america the kind of guys that approach women are always sleezeballs, they can dress it up with charm, but 100% just lookin for a fuck. The idea of actually walking up to a random woman on the street looking for something real, is... well it's romantic and sounds unrealistic, I think most of these ladies have already let those dreams shatter and die and are too cynical to open up to this idea.

[Mädchen]

@Levin @Levin what happend? Women are often very judgmental towards men and especially men their Friends are Dating so If you ask a girl in a group out, you have to basically convince all of them and Not Just the Girl you're interested in. It's dumb but a Lot of women are like that. It's easier to just ask a girl out that's alone

[Mädchen]

@Shamalien I think meating someone in Public Like the Supermarket or the gym would be ideal. I'd prefer that over meeting over Friends or at Work cause If it doesn't end well we don't have to constantly See each other.

[Levin]

It was a friend guy and I. I basically got a rant that we're 'typical English guys', and that we just approached them so we could get laid tonight. I mean, they're definitely overestimating my powers for a start...

And yeah, ironically, there was one domineering female who particularly didn't like it, and also had a go at us for approaching her friend because she was 'pretty'.

I hope that's not the norm in Germany, because it essentially makes it impossible to meet new people.

[Avicenna]

@Shamalien: You're approaching her because she seems interesting to you, not for a hookup, and it's generally chance encounters, not you deliberately approaching random women on the street.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, groups are more challenging, but that can be fun, too. Plus some if the girls might convince one if them to go out on a date with you.

[Mädchen]

@Levin I know some Girls that get really bitchy when only one Girl of the group get's a lot of male attention so that might be the Case. Or they simply can't have fun, dance and socialize on their own so they don't want their Friends to go of with some Guy. But I don't think being this impolite to Strangers is the norm for women here. I usually have a lot of fun meeting new people. Especially when drunk everyone is just much nicer. But the bigger the City the more feminist are there.

[Levin]

Cool, I'll try not to be too much put off German girls!

[ga_fin]

Hi Madchen any chance you could take a look at a question I posted here, would really like you input thanks

[fashionguy17]

I see your point, and this is a good Take. However, as a man who has done his fair share of approaching in real life and online dating, it's really all the same to me. It can be a hit or miss.

For example... I met a girl at a coffee shop. I went up to her, spoke to her and got her number. Contacted her to setup a date... radio silent.

Another example... I met a girl using a dating app. Spoke to her and got her number. We talked on the phone, set up a date and she arrived. Got ghosted after the date.

Those are just examples, but I've had my fair share of hits and miss from doing both of these. Met my current girlfriend on Tinder... we are still dating 3 years later.

[Avicenna]

My success ratio is heavily skewed in favor of IRL.

[razelove]

I do constantly, even if I don't have the time to make anything of it. Any setting is a good setting to flirt, and I've found very few people openly hostile to it, just some that are busy, or might for a minute or two and say they have a boyfriend.

That's cool, it's fun to flirt, and you never know where it's going to go. People are generally more helpful and kind too regardless of the outcome. It just spices things up, makes me happy, and generally whoever I'm flirting with too even if they aren't interested.

[FireTigress]

Not only that but in person there is less chance of something being taken the wrong way. An emoji can be taken as just stupid or rude depending on the topic of the conversation. In person the tone of voice & facial expressions would/could convey a 'message' better.

[Avicenna]

Excellent point. Humor might also show through better.

[FireTigress]

Personal experience talking. Was getting to know a friend of a friend was interested in better via FB (sure FB isn't a dating app but same aspects apply) when something was said, taken the wrong way, & "shit hit the fan" as they say. Definite fk-up from both sides of the conversation.

[Avicenna]

Yup...

[Matratt22]

They take it the wrong way when I'm talking to them in person really no difference.

[Screenwriter]

Your final point is so ON point. Simply having a pleasant conversation in the moment is life affirming and invigorating. It gives you practice and confidence. If you have 10 conversations with 10 different women and find with five your mentioning your white rat gets negative responses, well you might decide to skip your rat love with the ladies. And definitely, simply TALKING with people gives you confidence to talk to anyone: at work, with the cashier, on a date.

[Avicenna]

Quite true.

[Bluemax]

As to number 1, that's quite right! Most dating apps go to great lengths to hide their statistics (it's one of the reasons I found OKCupid fascinating). The ratio of women to men is very skewed. On quite a few, men outnumber women by 4:1.

As to number 3, again I agree with you a lot. Body language says a lot about someone, and you can't see that online.

As to number 5, well, the younger me would have profoundly disagreed with you.

[Avicenna]

My younger self had lots of fun doing it. I don't do it often today, but it's still fun!

[Bluemax]

To clarify, I have always found talking to women fun, but flirting with them was a whole different story. I didn't take rejection well back then. I've learned much since then.

[Avicenna]

Flirting is fun, too.

[ItsTheNephilim]

6. You know that she is not a random fake identity on the internet lol.

Quite a good list. I agree. Seeing a woman IRL can tell you about her more than you can imagine - the way she carries herself, the way she talks, her tone, how she engages herself in the conversation with you etc. Much better.

[Avicenna]

Exactly.

[FatherJack]

Can't argue here , but the impression I get is that the vast majority of women do NOT want random men bugging them , and that single women want to be and stay single , this is feedback from female colleagues and friends. They will already have male options , if they wished to pair up. Attractive women are sick of male attention if anything.

[Screenwriter]

I think we're talking about women who are at mixers, single meetups etc. They're present to meet men. Also, if a woman is single at a bar, it's likely she WANTS to talk to men. Even if it's just pleasant interaction. If it becomes more than that, all the better!

[Avicenna]

@Screenwriter: Pretty much anywhere you can have a conversation. I live in an inner city neighborhood where you can always start a convo with someone walking their dog.

[JSmuve]

"And how many guys are approaching her on a daily basis?"

The majority of the hot girls I see at the gym have guys talking to them every time I go. And whenever I'm out of the gym, they're always texting on their phones. So I presume they have no shortage of male attention during the day.

[Avicenna]

Most women aren't hot women that work out at the gym, right? And even the gym rats are more likely to be approachable in person, right?

[JSmuve]

I'm not concerned with the majority of women that aren't hot. And I can't speak to the approachability of women at the gym. If the little gaglettes are to be believed, approaching women at the gym is equivalent to some crime against humanity.

[Avicenna]

Two if my female friends joined a gym to meet guys and ended up getting some nice dates.

Hot girls don't need to date online, period.

[JSmuve]

Yes. I already knew they don't need to date online. I think that's common knowledge.

[brennanhuff]

Most women actually don’t want guys talking them up at the gym. Too often women are bothered with their workouts or from meatheads coming on to them. So I often see women at the gym with headphones on which is a clear sign they don’t want to be bothered or a focused non friendly look on their face

[JSmuve]

@brennanhuff that's been my impression too. Until I see one of those meathead approach them and they're all smiley and laughing. It leaves me super confused.

[brennanhuff]

At the gyms I go to, they could careless about the meatheads or more annoyed by those guys than the rest. Actually other decent shaped guys there that aren't the body builders or weightlifters can noticed just as much or even more so than the regular weight lifting dudes by women. I just women focused and not seeming to want any guy talking to them unless it's someone they already know. The only women I see that will talk to other guys are one's they know or who the guys brought said women to the gym with them.

[The6ix]

Yeah but the likelihood is she will most likely react and do what she does online even if it's in-person which is "don't talk to me" i. e: rejection. I've lived to accept that which is why I will not approach females. TV shows, movies, magazines, "movements" and past experiences have etched this idea in my mind for life.

[Avicenna]

They won't all do that

[The6ix]

From my experience, yup.

[GoodManDave]

I agree it's probably better in a lot of ways, but when I approach (even when I don't, and I'm just talking), it only seems to go from bad to worse quickly.

I live in an area with few single women, and not that many who would think I'd be compatible (even in the few cases where I am compatible). When I go out, it's usually with guy friends to things guys do, and the ratio of women is tiny, and the ratio of available women is tinier. Jeez, even with "singles" groups, I'd say half to 3/4 are in relationships but are "single" in the sense of "not married or engaged."

I mean, I don't like going online, but at least I can sort of put up a decent picture and profile so that my positive attributes might not be as hard for them to notice. And I'd think many are actually single. Not just "Oh, well, he hasn't popped the question, so technically..." In this case, as much as I hate the online dating thing, I don't think I can afford to ignore it.

[HomoFuge]

Unfortunately, I live in London a city well-known for being full of anti-social people who ignore each other all the time. Living in London for 22 years and I have only ever been approached by one guy.

[Avicenna]

I'm amazed to hear that. I approached more women than that in London each day I was there.

[Kurαȷ]

I have to respectfully disagree.
These claims are very much subjective and tied to the values you personally deem important.

Personally, I wouldn't even be interested in a woman who would respond well to being approach.

[Avicenna]

She's getting approached online or offline.

[suzysuzy]

I agree but having social anxiety disorder it doesn't matter who approaches me i'll only get annoyed because it triggers my anxiety and i'll walk away or act cold. I need to know someone before I can be somewhat chill with them in person, and talking to them online first does that for me. Never had a problem doing it that way, people in my country aren't very social anyway in general so approaching someone outside that you don't know isn't exactly popular.

[MissDawn7961]

Because we women want to see the man in person on a date so we can see if he is a faker in his online profile at this site or what? then if he is a faker , scammer or future terrorist , we women can report him to the site we first met him at and those who own this site can kick him off for good ! Thanks

[Ayer93]

I agree almost all your points. However there's a stereotype on being too smooth for guys nowadays. If you get used to going up and asking girls out, they'll likely perceive you as a fuckboy. I would add that you shouldn't entirely cross out online dating either. Optimize your chances at finding someone by doing both.

[coolbreeze]

Great points if only approaching women in real life was that easy. Sometimes it's hard to figure out if the girl is being friendly or is interested.

[Avicenna]

There is always that challenge, but you have body language to help you figure that out, plus if she is being friendly, she'll let you know nicely.

[Anonymous]

can't argue with any of that.

I will also add that the chances of having geographical problems i greatly reduced also, sure she might be visiting from out of town but she almost certainly lives locally!

[Avicenna]

Quite true