A Sensual Conversation Guide for Date Night: How to get past the small talk and connect on a discreet intimate level.

[Apope16]

I recommend most of these questions on a first date....

If you were to die and someone had to clear out your home-what are the most personal or weirdest things they would find? God. This is such a GOOD question after the first drink or after a good buzz when everyone has their guard down. First, you get a sense of personality. How open are they or are they uptight and shy? You get a sense of their humor because it is a fun question. But you also get a sense of how sincere of a person they are. The guy that admits to a porn collection or the lady that describes her vibrator might be kinky...but they have a quality of honesty about them too.

Boxers, Briefs, or Boxer Briefs? Yes. This is obviously not the first question you ask. But after a drink or two this doesn't disappoint. If your partner is bold they might ask for or offer insight into what they wear. The point here is to get them thinking subconsciously about SEX with YOU.

What do you think happens after you die? A fun way to start a conversation about values and spirituality without seeming pushy.

What were you like as a kid growing up? This allows for reflection of growth. Insight into family or struggles overcome.

Who is your biggest celebrity crush? Yes...are you his type?

Do you make your bed each morning? The point here is to get a sense of their organization or routine but in a fun way. Are they always on the go or are they thoughtful and organized? Are they a frazzled messy type of artist or philosopher?

What chore do you hate the most at home? This is a great question because this automatically has both of your thinking in relationship mode. Beyond just fucking. How would our preferences work in a relationship vibe?

What gives you peace or makes you happy? Does they have an outlet or hobby to deal with baggage?

What is your best physical trait and best quality about you? This gives them a sense of their own confidence but also allows you to share what you like about each other.

[19magic]

As long as you don't mind waiting a couple of minutes for an answer but yeah definitely got some toys here and there lol although I've got a treasured memory box which I open from time to time. These are nice and thoughtful and much better than what colour is your underwear and/or do they match

[Apope16]

This makes me like you more. Haha. Its an intimate question isn't it?

[19magic]

Yeah its good enough for a chat but not heavy like what's your biggest regret or darkest fear etc

[rvarela]

good questions.

[Apope16]

Thank you so much!

[rvarela]

Your welcome

[SydneySentinel]

That's an awesome first question to ask someone! I like the questions you posed and the consideration behind them--- though I'm not fond of the intentional subconscious attempts. Good information.

[Apope16]

Thanks! Women dont like to have their intentionality perceived back to them because they know it looks bad. Cold and calculating. Like women gushing over dating a doctor in the movies with no mention of his morals, values, or humor.

[respecturelders]

This is good quality entertainment. @Apope16 may I follow you?

[Apope16]

Of course dude

[respecturelders]

Thank you

[btbc92]

Hell no. This is why I will NEVER date. This is not what dating is about.

[Apope16]

Getting to know people isn't what dating is about? What isvit about exactly?

[btbc92]

Nope. Being FRIENDS is what getting to know each other is about. DATING is about dating people who your already compatible with ROMANTICALLY and seeing how you are as a 'romantic couple'. Dating is about PROCESS and ELIMINATION. It is not about sensualities or sex. That's what MARRIAGE is for. Because what your talking about is what women who do that are bitter, resentful feel used and abused especially when sex is pushed, peer pressured or entered in a direction that makes her uncomfortable or makes her feel like she is dating a lecherous creep or pervert looking for sex. When nobody should assume. Trust me, she may ghost you. If a woman hasn't escalated anything sexual herself, your making assumptions and increasing a man's chance of either raping a woman, potentially even when presumed consent is given OR a victim of being METOOED.

[btbc92]

A lot of you people [men/women] are dating BACKWARDS. Even my 96-year-old grandmother today is SHOCKED. "This was never liked this in my time"/ "People being like loose dogs in the street." She would say. And still say it.

[btbc92]

A woman who wants sex will just have sex. If she wants to date, she expects a DATE. Not be wined, dined and then taken to bed. UNLESS she decided that through her own actions and words. Those are questions you ask when you and a girl your friends with or getting to know BEFORE you heart each other unnecessary getting others hopes up. That's how unnecessary baggage comes in and people become guarded or like me wanting to be celibate because there are no "qualifiable" partners anymore. And besides, what you wear is NOBODY'S business. Lust is a NO-NO. Before you get people the wrong idea. Think about social etiquette and your AUDIENCE. Would you ask these questions with your mother? I doubt it. You never ask questions in dating like that that makes others uncomfortable. That's how you lose good dates. To keep everybody safe. You discuss these things in private prior.

[Apope16]

It sounds like thats what YOU want. Everyone is different. I have dated a lot of women. This will be helpful for people. Especially people who are meeting via a dating app. This is the process of how you get to know people. I would say any advise you eould give to men would have them in the friendzone after date 1. There must be sexual tension. Thats the only difference between hanging out with a friend or potential lover.

[Apope16]

Your grandma is wrong. Back in the day kids fooled around. It just was a secret and not talked about in public. Now days we are open about dating. More freedom. Your perspective is probably why you are single.

[btbc92]

No, It's not about what I want. Its about what people say they need. IF YOU WANT to date around different women fooling around that is YOU. And any foolish woman who does pretty much as to get hurt. So that is not my problem if you or they do.

" I would say any advise you eould give to men would have them in the friendzone after date 1. There must be sexual tension. Thats the only difference between hanging out with a friend or potential lover." Really? Then I supposed all of my friends who are married and have children and are happily married must be living in an elusion. And no my grandmother is not wrong. She had 2 marriages, 6 sixs from 3 different men, been sleeping around at some point herself. She is not wrong, and no not everybody did everything in secret. It was well known, just taboo to be talking about it. People are not being open about sex, they are sexually derogatory by perverting it. Nobody was fearful about sex or to educate and talk about it. You either hoed around or you didn't. And no. My "perspective" is not why I am single. I had more than enough guys try to date me. They just wanted to do what you're talking about doing. Being a hoe. Now more than half regret it. I' single by choice and choosing not to be a whore or be with a man who mainly just want to fix an itch.

[btbc92]

And WRONG again about sex and sexual tension. Your mentality is why people are broken and have a lot of baggage and want somebody like me, being desperate for somebody like me, because I never did those things. I can name people but I will not disclose users or guys names on this site from offline and online. And that attitude is why one of my friends now has over 10 ex-boyfriends, and 1 ex-husband when ALL she ever wanted is a husband and be a mother. She did ALL of those things too. Who taught her similar? Her mom. Why? Because she also grew up with that mentality with many divorces, ex-boyfriends, ex maybe's, sex partners, etc. Your RUINING LIVES and good friendships.

[btbc92]

illusion*

Look if you want to be a dog out in the street and other women want to follow suit, you go ahead. But stop assuming everybody does what you do and is happy with their choices. Not everybody is happy. They just refuse to tell you because they know somebody like you will never accept their regrets and be judgmental about it like you are with me right now. I have boundaries. I am not getting sexual or entice a man sexually who isn't my husband. And even if he was, I would never entice him. Because sex is an expression of love and should be. Because all that sex talk you want other women will play that up with you and other men, and when they don't want to sleep with you, don't get mad. They will play those games with you too. But you asked for it.

[btbc92]

Never assume a woman's interest just because she won't engage in it or else you will miss out on the type of woman you say you want. Just like I should never assume a man's interest before I can lose a good man for me.

[btbc92]

six kids*

Because those guys your coaching is why they can't find 'good women'. Because it is not because they can't find them, they're making us run away from them and now their either 'incels' or bitter men. That's why a good few are dating outside the country where the highest probability of men don't push that narrative.

[btbc92]

Stop robbing people's futures just because you made yours.

[Apope16]

You are making a big deal out of get to know you questions. Im not going to listen to some angry chic who hasn't had dating success and is single... lecture me about what ladies want. This is just a fun get to know you exercise that WORKS. Its about deeper connection.

[COMMODOREII]

I like these questions. I am going to try these.

[Apope16]

They work well man. You will instantly connect and be laughing.

[KK1991]

Hmmmm