How to respond to a woman's "Change of plans" shit test (Page 3)

[Anonymous]

Never give in to a female shit test.
If they can NOT. act like adults, treat them like the children they are.

“What do you want to eat”
”I dunno”
”Ok, I pick ____”
”I don’t want that”
”To fucking bad. You said you didn’t know... I do so it’s that or nothing”

after a few times of having to take your choice of nothing, she will grow the fuck up.

[arabgoddess]

So true! Why can't people just go with the flow.. It doesn't mean you're an easy person.

[Apope16]

Because women want to feel special. attention boosts their ego. Its a narcissistic way to feel power over men.

[arabgoddess]

A respected and soft hearted man is enough make me feel special. I seriously don't get some girls these days

[genericname85]

lol if a girl pulled that shit on me, i'd be gone. fuck that. no girl is worth putting up with that nonsense. that's my opinion on the first example. i don't see an issue with the second example at all though.

[Pete671]

Yep, if the lady wants to change plans last minute, just cancel,,,

[TheFlak38]

Getting involved in an endless series of shit tests just to prove that you're masculine enough. Doesn't sound like the prize so much. Every man who puts up with such bullshit is like a circus animal jumping through a woman's hoops.

[Anonymous]

a lot of people say, women cancel plans that a guy made with them or flake on dates, is because they changed their mind or lost interest, due to another guy or option that was pursuing them, which I believe is absolutely one of the factors, another thing, as you said, it's possible it can be a shit-test to see if they are dealing with a guy that is needy, clingy or desperate, trying to "test" for neediness, clinginess.

[Deformate]

Whdn you turn a relationship into a power struggle, you've already lost.

[Apope16]

If you don't realize that every relationship is a power struggle then you are lost. THat's why people always ask "who has the pants in the relationship". Ideally I think we both would agree that "we both do" is the best response... but there are a lot of guys out there who are disrespected by their ladies and treated like shit.

[Deformate]

Im in a 16 year relationship, 9 of them have been married, and we dont argue over who gets the say. We talk about decisions with each other and figure out something that works best.

[Apope16]

YOu my friend have a lady that is a unicorn. continue to cherish that woman! she is a rare fine. I got nothing but love man. congrats.

[Deformate]

Thanks man but just remember... unicorns have a massive horn lol

[Anonymous]

What's sad is when men test women, we're considered as controlling. I don't really get why we have to prove ourselves if the end of the day, women also call us pushovers for passing their tests. It's like women want to make a fool out of men, this is why I refuse to date!

[YesIsaidit]

I used to make two plans and consider her plan b. And when she cancelled i respond with happiness haha

[Anonymous]

If she cancels my plans with her but counter-proposes me coming to her place, I'd definitely do that. That's a solid indication of interest. If we then hook up well, all is forgiven. If not, that'll may end up being our last date.

[Apope16]

Thats fine. Just know that is signaling to her that you can be manipulated with the prospect of sex.

[Opinion Owner]

If she delivers it's all good. If not, I'm out.

[Apope16]

But that devalues you as a man. She will manipulate that weakness. She will lose respecy for you.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't need her respect dude. It's all good.

[Anonymous]

Outgrew the shit test... I can find better things to do...

[Bman4907]

Never heard of that one, but I have heard of the woman asking a friend to hit on the guy when she's not around to "test his faithfullness." That excessive lack of trust kills me.

[Striker1331]

Sounds cheesy but I think be yourself. Whatever the situation is, just react truthfully and honestly.
Some people say you should or say x, y, z but it may not come across authentic for that person to take that approach

[Anonymous]

Hey a man will wait for the one he loves. Yeah, shits aggravating but like ol country boy said. He'll be waiting on a woman. I know theirs country girls that know who tf I'm talkin bout.

[Opinion Owner]

Wrong gd post sorry y'all. Hahahaha

[Grond21]

@Desconhecida Thoughts?

[Desconhecida]

I think the author tends to think this kind of dysfunctional relationship is a rule. I agree with him when he says it happens, but his answer to stop an annoying behavior from your partner is not playing games but communicating.

[Apope16]

@Desconhecida its the woman that is playing games with narcissism and taking a man for granted. The advice above IS how to communicate. And why is Grond21 asking for your thoughts? He can't speak for himself?

[Grond21]

@Desconhecida That's really interesting. I wouldn't be surprised if it is very common in his experience. But I do believe you are correct, in that good communication is the answer.

@Apope16 I didn't ask for her verdict or her judgment because I can't think for myself or express my own opinion. I asked for her thoughts, because I respect them.
And yes, it is how some women communicate. In those cases, I can see this being helpful. But she is also right, this is not universal. A truly high-class woman would not play those games

[Desconhecida]

@Apope16

I believe my friend thought your take was interesting and I'd like to read. I answered him after reading your words and gave my own opinion as well. You dont need to be disrespectful.
Have a great day.

[MountAverage]

Women test men, men test women. Nothing special here. If the testing is too much "playing games" then maybe you should date someone else.

[Anonymous]

I don't tolerate shit tests. Absolute childish game playing.

Shit test me once, we talk about it, and I tell you I have no tolerance for it.

Shit test me a second time, we aren't a couple anymore.

[es20490446e]

I reply with:
"I understand"

Then never ask her out back.

[taleswapper]

Absolute rubbish. Women don't value a man who pouts.

[Liam_Hayden]

This sounds like you are trying to convince yourself.