How I Express Lack of Interest Politely After The First Date (So He Doesn't Think I'm Using Him and... Just Out of Politeness and Understanding) (Page 2)

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I'm not sure I understood you correctly. Are you saying you would go on a second date to show him you're NOT interested? If a girl asked me out for a second date I'd take that to mean she IS interested (a perfectly logical inference, I should add).

[Anonymous]

Didn't read anything beyond the question because this one is pretty easy:

When he asks you out for a second date, you say "sorry, but I'm going to say no. I just wasn't feeling it on the first date so don't think we should go out again."

[MarcoPolo22]

If it's only been one date, he shouldn't get too bent out of shape over it, I wouldn't think unless he has issues. But a simple comment like "I feel like we wouldn't be compatible. I could give you a reason, or reasons if you'd like." I think that most people wouldn't want to hear the reason, especially if it's personal or something that they couldn't change.

[newfreshstart]

i know we don't talk much so if you will take my advice who knows just be like the date was ok but I'm not interested in you

[Avicenna]

It's fine to not have any interest after the first date, just be honest as to why- the feedback is useful. But also tell him what you did like about the date so he knows what de did right as well.

[Anonymous]

If I am not into him, I will be polite anyways to get through the night. If he wants a second date, I merely tell him to text me. I my change my mind. But I say nothing right there, it is tacky.

[Juxtapose]

You can't. A really good Machiavellian liar is very hard to detect so they are probably going to assume the worst unless you do something like buy them dinner yourself.

[myTake Owner]

You didn’t even read the post lmao

[Juxtapose]

I skimmed over it because the paragraphs weren't broken up enough for my taste. I don't like walls of text.

[Juxtapose]

Good on you for offering to pay for the second date though, seems like great minds think alike :)

[myTake Owner]

Sorry about that then. I should’ve highlighted the main paragraph where I mention it, I guess :/

[Juxtapose]

Usually people will "tabs" or spaces in between paragraphs. Highlights are unnecessary.

[Juxtapose]

*will use

[myTake Owner]

Grammar Nazi 😂soooorry

[Juxtapose]

Don't make me send you to a camp where they make you write academic essays xD

[myTake Owner]

I have an undergrad degree, okay. I just get lazy

[Guanfei]

You don't want him to think you're using him? Don't do things that would make him think that.
Pay for yourself for example. That way he'll already know he's not your free food/fair/cinema date.

[Smegskull]

My view is. If she goes halves she doesn't want another date.

[zagor]

Probably just politely declining a second date is good enough. And that way if he never asks for one, it's on him.

[Liam_Hayden]

I much prefer the straight up girl to the one who tries to drag it out.

[COMMODOREII]

So what are your deal-breakers? 😎

[myTake Owner]

I’m too lazy to list them

[COMMODOREII]

Que suave

[Sevenpointfive]

you wrote a freakin' thesis on the topic but a list is too much?

[myTake Owner]

@Sevenpointfive It makes sense, considering sometimes you feel lazy and sometimes you feel productive.
Glad you stalk my stuff lol

[Sevenpointfive]

i only answer my notifications

[Sevenpointfive]

you blonde frog

[myTake Owner]

@Sevenpointfive Obviously not. I doubt you got a notification of this comment by Commodore.

[Sevenpointfive]

it's brain racking figuring out the jekyl n hydes on here

[Jack9949]

I dont think women owe guys an explanation. Lol

[Jack9949]

Just kinda seems insecure to me

[myTake Owner]

Eh, it’s not owed or mandatory, but it IS polite. No insecurity involved, but I get what you mean.

[Jack9949]

“Hey sorry I’m not interested anymore” is nice enough

[myTake Owner]

Sure. Not denying that. But if I want to be polite then I can. Not saying that I don’t just let it go like that from time to time, because as I stated in the post, me losing interest is due to one of those two things.
It’s also extremely funny that you guys fuss about these things and thinking women use you that way and then act like this, like it doesn’t even matter. Get out of here 😂

[Jltakk]

Here's a novel concept. Be open and honest with him.

[sensible27]

Didn't read the whole thing but reimburse them?

[mrgspoter]

Wow yeah I think I was right 🤐

[myTake Owner]

About what?

[mrgspoter]

Being so innocent

[myTake Owner]

No, you’re wrong 💯

[mrgspoter]

Ok yeah 🤫

[Anonymous]

So you should do what girls do to me and flirt with another guy

[bklynbadboy1]

Wow! Dating has really changed