Confessions of a Ladies Man: Nice Guys are Assholes, Bad Guys are Authentic (Page 2)
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i dunno... there are some guys who are acting nice to get a girl in bed..., and others who are acting nice cos they generally wanna be and like to treat others as they would like to be treated theirself... so i dont think all nice guys are actors... their are some genuinely friendly nice guys... and everyone gets mad some times... its all how u deal with it... if a girl rejected me for sex personally i wouldn't get mad cos i never feel entitled to sex and its her decision... why get angry at her for ur own mistakes?
if u was hot or attractive enuff she would want sex with u.,.. so id only have myself to blame... not her... but personally i wouldn't spend any money on a girl until after we have sex cos i dont wanna waste money on a girl whos not attracted to me and only sees me as a friend... thats stupid
so yeah id say half of nice guys are genuine... the other half are actors... but i dont thinka bad guy is better than a genuine nice guy...
Authenticity always wins. These nice guys lack game. Instead of focusing on themselves and accepting the lack of social calibration they have which stops them from getting the woman they want. They lash out on the women thinking that they are the problem. They seem to lack self awareness of their shortcomings but sooner or later they will figure it out and they will start their journey into self improvement learning women's nature and improving their game and they will realize how wrong of a mindset they had.
Yeah he's authentic. Authentically an asshole and far worse than the so called nice guy.
The fact that the woman went in got unbelievably lucky is like betting the family fortune on a game of russian roulette and winning. It doesn't make you any dumber just because you won.
Your not better automatically because you're "authentic".
I can deal with whiny people all I want.
Neither of those are good examples of nice or bad guys. First us a guy that expected to pay $300 for sex and the 2nd one was a blunt guy that went for what he wanted.
Both guys can be bad and nice depending on situation.
It took the first as an ass and the second as honest. Jmo
My nigga, nobody likes nice guys.
Ladies like niggas who actually have SOME social skills and sincerity. Confidence is a plus.
Nikka pullease! Playing doctor with that girl.
Not going to lie I fucken hate people that feel the need to always socialize. Like bitch you don't need to always move your fucking mouth. Calm the fuck down. Let their be silence ones in a while lol also I think they should learn that not everything needs a response. I'll be honest tho I don't socialize much since people always be talking about their day and shit. Either way even if I did have social skills to talk to women they'd run. My ass only likes talking about real shit
@LoveIsFake No, I mean, that nice guys' social skills completely fly out of the window once they get mad. Once the girl they're trying to bang refuses to give them a crumb of that coochie, they snap. HARD. They get all butthurt and turn into angry animals. You've seen the r/niceguys videos on YouTube, right?
yep! well said brotha!
So the narrator of the story was an idiot because she had sex with and married the true asshole only because he was direct in his approach about sex and the nice guy was also an idiot because he wanted sex but decided to court her and come out with nothing. The nice guy and the bad guy were the same only difference is the bad guy was direct and he was not a jerk like the time the nice guy didn't get any. She says "I am confused," but he still wanted to have sex with her all during the date. Just like the nice guy. She's an idiot!
Bad guys are almost always brain dead / stupid and stupid people are always genuine and authentic. A lot of guys out there actually like really stupid girls for this same reason, authenticity. Smart people can get caught up in their own head and own thoughts too much and some people can't stand that.
My ex never mentioned he was nice nor a good person, also didn't mentioned how much of a horrible things he was capable of doing and making sure I would get the worst treatments ever. I'm such an idiot because I still love him. Wish he would never moved to be my neighbor, but ik that everything happens for a reason, I still don't know what reason made this happened but it did now I just gotta wait and see what's coming next
That’s quite a gamble on a girl. The temptation of playing devils advocate of a girl wanting a loving relationship. But not knowing who to trust. Until the devil presents himself. The stakes are high, but what are the chances of winning? Except taking a uncomfortable risk.
@Apope16
What was the intent of this confession? Of course the 'bad guy' in this specific example is authentic. You've made him that way. Are you trying to say something about 'bad guys' in general?
There was a twittee post by bvb a woman who said nice guys are assholes because they are not honest about what their intent is. Then blame girls for not fucking them. The bad boy is honest and direct. No games.
sometimes guys are genuinely nice and "bad guys" are just self obsessed douches. but as with "being cool", you aren't "nice", if you're the one calling yourself nice xD i would never refer to myself as a "nice guy". i think im no complete douchebag tho :D
I think you confusing 'con-artists' (or bad guys) with genuine nice guys.
I think you also confusing flirting and being direct with being a genuine bad guy. Nice guys can also be 'forward' and 'direct'.
I think that it is important to differentiate between being nice and being kind. Nice guys (girls too) who act nice to get some kind of benefit/ reward are ironically not nice at all. However I do believe people should aspire to be kind. I find that people who are kind, do so for the sake of being kind. There is a huge difference.
So when you see a guy/ girl acting 'nice', ask yourself: Are they being nice or are they being kind?
you really want the chase (bad boy)... you dont want the the prey that lays down in front of you and dies (nice guy) otherwise where is the challenge?
it works both ways too girl. we dont want the one who is to eagar and wants to be our wife on the 2nd date...
This is some serious, screwed-up shit I just read! I have been on a few dates with a few ladies, I have bought them like a drink & supper,... but I wasn't expecting sex out of them.
So apparently I have to be blunt, rude & a complete asshole just to get the girl?
I can understand women like confident men, but there's a huge difference between confidence & just being a dick.
I can see plenty of late teens to girls in their 20's falling for this.
Because we live in a bipolar world only consiting of NICE guys (pushover) and FAKE BAD guys (pretentding to be bad, while acting like a GOOD/DECENT guy). #kappa
Thus sugarcoating the TRUE BAD guys (deep converstations as a bad guys? Since when does bad guy cares?)
Actually that's not true nice guys are authentic the bad guys are dumbasses women are hypocrites when it comes to saying they want a nice guy what they're saying is they want the badass look but with the nice guy attributes which you don't get that which makes them stupid very very stupid to think that
You are eternally persecuted. And you will never take responsibility for yourself. You will only whine about the choices women make.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/nCKxp2yMa2cFacts
Both of these guys are assholes, just for different reasons.
"nice guys" act like what they think women are attracted to. Which they have concluded entirely based upon bad, vague advice and romantic comedies.
"bad boys" act like themselves, and don't apologize for it.
Its easy to see why women prefer the latter. One is confident in himself, the other is trying to adjust his image to manipulate those around him.
I don´t this can be generalized because a bod boy can also easily manipulate those around him because he can make the woman a lots of promises just because he wants to get in her pants. Because a guy is just interested in his sex life he´s going to make every promise a woman wants to make just for the chance to bang her. "Nice guys" can also act that way not because that´s their character. Being a nice guy doesn´t mean you want to be a woman´s man but you are authentic in that way because you are nice to everyone not only women.