Long story short, I met this guy last year on a dating site. He lives over 3 hours south of me.
Occasionally, when we talk (I always do the initiating) via FB chat or text, he says "you should come visit me."
Since he's the guy, isn't it right that he come to me? I feel like I shouldn't be the one driving to see HIM. He says he'll help with gas but still. I feel if he wants me to come he should pay all the gas.
He was like, "why are you so against coming to ____?"
Why is he so against coming to my town though? At first he was like, "Don't you live with family or whatever?" But I told him I don't, I live by myself. We got into kind of an argument about this and I didn't want things to escalate so I acquiesced.
I really like this guy a lot and I hate that this is an issue. What's his deal? Part of me thinks I should forget him but I really like him and want to see if it would work out between us.
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If you are always doing the initiating and he doesn't want to take the time to drive to you, and his original excuse to try to not come visit you was because he thought you lived with family, it's because he is only wanting to hook up.
He obviously knows you are interested in him since you always initiate the conversation. And since you live so far away the odds of running into you after hooking up are basically 0, all he wants is to hook up. You're the easy target.
So if you are fine with driving 3 hours to meet this guy and hook up, then never hearing from him again (except to hook up) then go for it. If you are wanting more, you are not getting it from this asshat0