I've been seeing this guy who is a bit younger than me and I like him, he has said to me he doesn't just want me for sex. He's also told me that he loves me, but I worry he's just saying it. I've told him that I don't want to sleep with someone I'm not in a relationship with. And at one point we nearly slept together, afterwards I said maybe it was a good thing that it didn't end up happening because I don't just want some friends with benefits type of thing & he didn't say anything back but continued to cuddle. Anyway after a whole he said that he had to go and he said I'm leaving you I'm not going to talk to you anymore and he said it as a joke but then he said if we hadn't slept together and I still didn't talk to you after it would you be annoyed and I said well I would be disappointed, why? And he said you seem to just talk about sex and me using you. I said so you're going to stop talking to me and he said no it was a joke. I don't feel like he was joking though, why would you just say that.
Maybe I'm pushing him away by bringing it up all the time, or he just wants to leave because I won't have see with him yet. He has said he doesn't want to be single yet he still hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend. The last two dates we had he didn't pay for me, which is okay but I'm starting to feel like he just doesn't want to spend money on me and that he doesn't really mean what he says to me. I'm so confused. Would you be mad if a girl wouldn't sleep with you unless she was in a relationship with you? I just don't want to be used :(
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Nope, holding back would actually make me like you more. It tells me you place a high value on sex.
But thats just me.1