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I don't go for the bad guys I go for the guy that is nice and will treat me right but won't be overly nice. I want someone in the middle cause otherwise its irratating. I have a friend that had his heart broken awhile back and it changed him. He decided he would have to be a jerk to get girls. Which has translated over into all of his relationships. He used to be nice to be and now he constantly calls me stupid and fat. For me it doesn't make me want him it just makes me want to punch him and never talk to him again.
Bad boys are exciting, thrilling, and dangerous. They're attractive because they're often spontaneous (though sometimes unpredictable) and a step outside of the humdrum day-to-day. Another reason they're appealing to some women is that they're also sort of predictable. They're bad and it's usually right up front. We know what we're getting into and it's way easier when a bad boy turns out to be bad than when a nice guy turns out to be a real asshole.
For the person who said that all women want a Dominant man...ummmmm, that'd be a NO! There are plenty of women who would rather be with a submissive man, and are totally happy that way.
Nice Guy,
Ok I admit it, I like the bad boys. To answer you initial question let me just give you an basic summary:
I'm 17, beautiful, smart, athletic and I can get any guy I want at the school. Why do I choose the bad guys? Even though I know they will hurt me? Its simple; every girl wants a little risk, someone to make even the most confident of girls nervous, someone that is exciting. No one really wants a safe relationship, someone that is satisfactory that want someone that makes them feel wild, themselves, and free.
Now people will tell you just keep being you and everything will work itself out. That's true, but It doesn't hurt to bring out your wild side. Keep true to yourself, but don't be afraid to show girls that you can be spontaneous and that you have a naughty side as well.
Yes you can go on being the good "BF" but if you want the girl of your dreams this is reality. Show her how you can make her feel. Don't be afraid to say something daring.
Cheers,
Javera
Hi
girls most of the time want bad boys cos there bad
so they can be bad together trust me I'm a girl
and I don't want a bad boy infect I like the opposite cos at school there's 2 boy's who like me and there very nice but I got chose cos I like them both
but anyway girls like boys who are bad! My biff once went out with a bad boy and he broke up with her cos she was chatting to another boy and the next day he broke up with her and she was so mad that she never wanted to go out with a bad boy again
girls want a guy that acts like he's cool, but he also has to be cool. If you have what they like or at least try your best to look good, never let them know you doubt yourself that will make you attractive, then treat her good if she responds don't be shy, girls don't want a shy guy that they have to make him want them, you look more attractive when you act like you really want her and that you have to have her. and make sure you know what your doing , good sex will bring you up a level or two, the rest is up to you. women don't just want a nice guy, they want him + good sex+ a good dresser+total devotion to her+and to be put above all others for her. if she sees that she will fall inlove with you especially if your friends are jerks and she sees you don't care what they think. women hate men who will get influenced by their stupid friends,she will respect you if you can make you own desicions.
they're fun. and interesting. and a challenge :) and they're the ones who get my attention first. nice guys seem boring because you know theyll get you anything you want - from the very first second.
it'd be perfect if a truly nice guy plays games in the beginning (to get me interested) and then, once I've got to know him, turns into the nice guy ;P
For me, I don't want a drugged up loser, either. You abuse substances and that's it. It's okay for occasional recreational use, I mean, a lot of us do it, but once it's become a huge part of your life, or God-forbid, it controls your life--you're done.
The thing that attracts girls to "bad" guys is the prospect of danger.
Danger is hot. Danger is exciting.
Yea! gotta love danger :)
...that's stupid.
It's simple really, girls like bad boys and women like nice men. When you're young your dumb, the older you get the more you get 'it'. Be who you are and remember everyone looks good in confidence.
I really like this answer... thanks!
Just an FYI, my husband looks like a bad boy with a rough exterior, but he is a super gentleman and still very masculine. You can always be a little of both. If that's your sort of thing. Either way I wish ou luck.
I'm a bit more of a sensitive guy tho. I DON'T have a rough exterior. I'm more clean-cut I guess, but I dress nice... I have a deep voice, but maybe girls still think I come off as feminine? idk. I'm always truthful. I don't lie. I don't try to impress. I don't know really...
I think you should keep doing what you are doing. Being yourself is always better, and easier. I can't really explain it but a rough exterior can be defined in different ways. All I know is you need a woman not a girl.
Words of wisdom.
i can tell you right now, I'm considered one of the 'good girls' and I actually am desperately looking for a good nice guy... I can't seem to find one.
it seems all the nice guys go for all the bitchy girls.
it just feels like lose/lose situation.
whose the girl? hey, don't beat yourself up. girls want a guy to take charge and to follow too. we just want some balance.mysetery is a huge deal.even if you don't have a secret or mystery about you girls will want you if they think you do. I think what a girl wants most is someone to be there and someone to listen to the important stuff.if you can add in some laughs that won't hurt anything either. there's nothing special about a "bad boy". they just know what a girl wants and know how to get what they want from that. girls want them bcuz they think that the guy cares and while they're w the guy the "bad boy" fills their needs and desires. but it's only skin deep.keep being a great guy and you'll find a great girl. don't pretend to be something that you're not.
I'm guilty of that to a point. I agree with seregiel that it's the urge to improve someone. It also doesn't help when friends are also saying that you're good for the guy and you're going to help him follow a straight path that he should follow on his own. I really don't know any other reason beyond that. But there are also VERY few "bad" boys that become exceptions to the assumption that they treat their girlfriends like crap. But those guys did have to mature.
i met a bad boy as my first bf. hugest mistake I ever made. I believe in karma and I think he's paying for what he did to me slowly and everyday because he can't get with a girl for a real relationship. I want to be with a good guy but have't met any yet
I think the girls want a bad boy mainly because of the sexual thrill. Like they're being naughty or bad. And the most part they look at the 'bad boys' because they're usually 'hot'. Humans look at the way you look, mentally or not, because if they're good looking they usually have good genetics and will give their offspring good genes.
Don't worry man, girls usually end up with guys like you.
i feel ya but , but try diff approaches. but yes I would also like to know why I got hurt because I wasn't bad enough too, but what do girls get out of bein with a di^k besides gettin hurt? my cuzin is a a$shole to girls and he gets them left and right. I dongt get it.
i can seriously say that I don't want a bad guy. I tend to like the more rugged rebellious look in a guy, mainly because that's the kind of guy I'm friends with but I like guys that have morals and values and a good heart. I think this is partly to do with the fact that I was raised catholic with my own morals and values and I want someone the same. but yes good guys are a ok in my books
It's kind of the way guys see girls as slutty vs. girlfriend material. A girl wants to have fun with a bad boy the same way a guy wants to have fun with a promiscuous girl. But in the end, when we settle down we want what's good and real.
Most girls that go for bad boys aren't really romantic, so they aren't expecting anything big. they just love the thrill that they can get out of them, never knowing what will happen next with them.
i on the other hand avoid the bad boys. they all play us girls and they end up wasting our time. I love the shy guys, that once you get close enough to them you realize how great they are.
TOUGHEN UP!
nice guys ALWAYS finish last.
Be nice and be frisky and obnoxious.
love it when guys be rude to me, because then I'm a total bitch right back at them. and guys don't like it when girls are mad so they get over it.
Ever watch romantic comedies like "My Best Friends Girl" like HELLO the douche bag totallllllly scored her. and the nice guy got sloppy seconds.
Fuck you!
Yeah, f*** you, ANONYMOUS. Maybe you should toughen up.
"I'm a total bitch right back at them." = key words. It's a whole different story with this one, I hope you realize that this isn't how 99% of relationships work though. Most people are actually nice to each other when they're together. Even if such a relationship worked, it would look pretty bizarre.
Thank you for finally admiting that. Now all these nice guys can toughen up.
Nice guys are ok for holding open doors. that's about it.
No no no no no :(
Nice guys.. hello like 13 going on 30!? The nice guy was the one for her..girls screw themselves up going with the bad boy who doesn't give a damn about them but to get in their pants.. jeeze
-Don't listen to this girl blechh! :(
Not cool anonymous
Sad but true nice guys get sloppy seconds.
That's the problem right there people mistake kindness for weakness
To be honest, I think this anonymous female, really is a guy. :-X
Good guys are there to comfort a girl when the bad boy breaks her heart.
And yet still never end up with her.
I agree with the first answer. The drugged up losers just seem to be the only ones with confidence (which is screwed up because why be confident about that)
The trouble with admitting that you want a nice guys is that they'll surprise you when they break your hearts.
If you fool around with a bad guys (jocks are my weakness) then in the bottom of your heart you know they'll mess you about and can keep it more superficial.
Thie thing with admitting you want a nice guys is that you let your guard down to find them. Do that and you're vulnerable. Let the wrong 'nice guy' in and when it goes south it'll really break your heart
'When' they break your heart? 'When' it goes south?
I can't spreak for other girls but I'm not really attracted to bad boys. I like my bfs nice and respectful, I don't like how many bad boys act, their actions are a major turn off. . I men yes a bad boy can be hot, but it doesn't turn me on like it does some of my friends. Don't worry about being a nice guy because you will meet a girl one day who wants a nice guy.