Are men intimidated by me? Or do they just not find me attractive? I'm 18, long blonde hair, and I often wear black eye make up, a leather jacket, black boots (pretty much a lot of black) I never thought of myself as being "ugly" but whenever I'm at parties or just downtown out and about, I've never had men come up and flirt (or even try to talk to me) is this because of the way I look and my "edgy" style? Sometimes I feel if I were to dress more girly and feminine, then more people would want to get to know me. But that's just not me. Are guys turned off by women who wear leather and black, or by women who have a more "edgy" appearance? I understand that everyone finds different things attractive but even the more edgy looking men won't talk to me. What is going on?
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You're attractive, and I don't think the way you dress is the reason for what's happening. I think it's more about how you project yourself to others, than on how you look. What I mean by "project yourself" I mean your body language. You're worried about this, about not being liked by men, and that thought translates to your body language, to your facial expressions. You may think you look chill, happy and friendly, but maybe you actually look sad, or even angry (even though it's not your intention).
Body language is one of the biggest reasons to approach or not. Most guys won't approach a girl that's with her arms folded, or if she's using headphones.
Start thinking about how you stand, walk, what's your facial expression; be aware of this, and if you realize you're closing up, change, open up, look more friendly, relaxed.
I don't know if this is exactly the reason why men don't approach, it's just a guessing, because it's definitely because of your beauty or the way you dress. You're beautiful, and you dress nice (according to what you said), so it has to be because of your non-verbal behavior.2