Yeah, a whole bunch of times. Don't be fooled by the whole ''guys aren't emotional thing''. Sure, on average, guys are less emotional and less sensitive than the average woman, but there are also a lot of sensitive guys out there who are emotional.
Keep in mind also that there's a culture with men that ''a real man doesn't get emotional because it's a sign of weakness and men are supposed to be strong''. A very dangerous and damaging culture in my opinion. It leads a lot of sensitive and emotional guys to act strong and act like they don't have feelings and emotions (and thus not deal with those issues in a healthy way) and it leads women like yourself to believe that guys in general aren't emotional and don't experience heartbreak, don't get sad, don't get lonely, don't cry, don't get upset about rejection, don't miss a significant other that they care about, etc.
Guys do feel. Even a lot of the ones that come across as tough and strong and unemotional; they still feel love, they still experience heartbreak. They just often won't express it in the most obvious and outward (and public) ways that other people, especially women, will do.
My heart was broken once. Since then I've adapted rather cold and (as some people that know me personally note) cynical and somewhat heartless attitude. Obviously I had plenty of girlfriends afterwards, but I never fell in love with someone ever since.
I don't blame her. I'd say it's about 70% my fault we broke up and about 30% her fault. The fact that we broke up itself broke my heart :(
Nearly 8 years later I'm still somewhat sad about it when something or someone reminds me about that girl. She was literally a complete package a guy can ever dream of. When I accidentally learned from her distant cousin that she got married, I felt like shit. Some bastard out there has no clue how lucky he is.
I haven't seen a girl so far that's even remotely as awesome in all aspects (beauty, intelligence, attitude etc) as she is and I doubt I ever will.
Fuck :(
Several times...
Had been in a relationship for 4 years and living together.. visited my parents.. Called on a weekend to chat with her; Got told she has found a new partner and only had business to get my stuff out. Never saw it coming.
Next relationship: Thought I met a great girl.. really kind, sweet etc... 4 months later from starting to date, was going to write a hidden message on her phone that I think I love her (as she had also grabbed my phone and browsed through it, I didn't think this was any violation of her trust) and bumped into a ton of messages from another guy.. Knew I shouldn't read them... but I did - and found out she had been sending nude pictures to said guy.
A few months later after the breakup, she starred in a p*rn . No idea how I read her personality so wrong.. I guess the previous relationship had me wanting to believe in something good way too badly.
The next relationship: Dated a girl who was clearly in need of help... in a bad situation with her rent, had attempted suicide a year earlier and felt like such a damsel in distress, so I let her move in with me. It went well in the start and she seemed really sweet.. but once she got her life together - she moved out on her own and shortly left me. Only stayed with me while she needed the place to stay. Classy.
Previous relationship: A girl who was dating another guy fell for me and I fell for her.. she dumped her boyfriend for me - found her own place and we kept at it despite it being a rather long distance relationship. Had to turn down a job because I got depressed when my father was diagnosed with an inoperable tumor in his lung and got really bad.. She then left me saying it can't work - because of one turned down job. Hoped we would've stayed friends; but she has never talked to me ever since and never responds to me if I try to ask how she is...
Being single's feeling pretty damn safe and don't know when I dare to even consider trying again.
I just recently got dumped after a 4 years with a woman I thought was the one. I was always there for her sometimes for weeks on end when she had bouts of depression (was later diagnosed as mild bipolar). I even started window shopping for some rings.
Then I went through a tough time at work and personally, thought she would be there for me like I was for her countless times, instead called me "clingy" and emotional, because I cried once in 4 years (that didn't include family members passing). Keep in mind this is a woman who cried daily for several weeks at a time during her mood swings... About a month later she dumped me :(
I think most people of a certain age, if they're romantics, have had their hearts broken.
I'm not sure if I would categorize my romantic relationships ending as having had my heart broken, but in other ways - like, crushes for instance, I've had my heart broken - several times, in fact. I've had my heart broken about non romantic things, too.
But as for girlfriends and "true love" - I don't think I've had my heart broken. It's hurt to break up, at least a little, but I never got to a point where I refused to notice that that the breakup was needed - I suppose my emotions were tempered by their issues. I wasn't affected because I didn't feel like I was at a point where there was enough romantic love (though it was appropriate for the amount of time we were together; unlike some crushes).
I'm I the mist of my first heartbreak right now. I'm in love with a girl who is taken but she told me I have a chance of being with her and I was gullible enough to believe her. Even though she told me her bf isn't the right one for her and that she's tired of fighting with him she's still with him. She even told me she wishes he was more like me, that she likes me, and that I inspire. But I guess not considering that she's still with him. Call me stupid for sticking around but I fell In love and you can't control who you fall for. And love is a blinding drug. Even tho she changed me for the better I just wish she had never met her. Because it hurts like hell to be in love with someone and know that you may never be with that someone. I swear after grow the balls to walk away and get over her I'll never trust another female agin. I will never look for love agin and if I find my self catching feelings for a girl I'll leave her alone. Fuck love. I just don't wanna be hurt like this agin.
I had a girl friend once who first said I was smothering her so. I started backing off but then I started to notice things like her acting funny around my friend trying to feed him and hugging him during stressful times me oblivious thought nothing of it he had a girl so nothing wrong there he wouldn't do anything so she later accused me of cheating on her after I bought her some expensive jewelry broke up with me because I was "cheating" only to find out every time I left the room she tried to stick her hands down my friends pants and kept "bothering" him until eventually he said he gave in she even took it further and told me she was pregnant I knew it couldn't be mine she was just talking crap but still I ask and all she says is you dont know how I feel the love of my life just left me pregnant and alone... Worst relationship ever
The last girl, out of the blue, said she never wanted to speak to me again. This hurt because she never gave me a reason why, but just disowned me. This destroyed my brain. I've gone through depression, contemplated suicide, and I'm now more lonely than ever. Now I'm a mental prison, believing that no woman want's anything to do with me.
I was married for 14 years. I loved her more than anything. One day out of no where I get home from work she tells me that she isn't in love and doesn't want me around. She had pretended things were great and I had no idea. She was cheating with some guy. It destroyed me. I just can't seem to dust myself off. I don't know if I will ever fully trust someone again.
Hell yes. When i found out my first wife was cheating on me, i packed my bags and walked out, toughest thing i've ever done.
You will second guess yourself and go round in circles with what if's and maybes, but from experience and chatting with others at support group your gut instinct is usually spot on and stick with it.
And yeah i'm man enough to admit that until you "cry it out" you'll never get past it.. Hope this helps
People say "it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all"
But after getting your heart crushed juuust the right amount, you start to wish u never met the person. Or hope they get eaten alive by mountain lions. Either one.
Dated a girl for 3 year's and she cheated on me with one of her ex boyfriends. Sucks at the time but now I know that she was insecure and had to get attention from someone ALL the time. I would have married her too... and it would have been a big mistake. I still miss her from time to time but I know it would never work.
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