Is there any hope for ugly guys? (Page 2)

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As an ugly, shy, social phobic, socially awkward guy I cannot help but ponder the idea that I will be alone for a LONG time.I realize that I'm ugly due to several spiteful statements from my former classmates. I've been called ugly, retard, and pizza face (I have a terrible skin condition). I realize I do sound bitter, and, quite frankly, I am. I'm angry over the fact that people my age can be so shallow that they automatically reject me just because I am different. I'm ugly, quirky, weird but I'm still a f***ing person. Wouldn't you be bitter if you haven't had a friend since 7th grade?And here I stand, age 19 still haven't gone on a date, still haven't been kissed, still have my virginity (Which I do not consider precious. In fact I've contemplated paying off a hooker for a long time), and I'm slipping deeper and deeper into misanthropy. I want to like people, I really do, but they have to accept me first because I accept them! I'm nice, cooperative, and amiable when given the chance to voice my opinion (which is rare, I lack the assertiveness to speak up most of the time).I know this question just reeks of self pity...because that's exactly what I'm doing. Typically I bottle up my feelings and just don't let my pessimism affect me. Lately, however, my loneliness has triggered a series of pity party antics on my own part which I am NOT proud of. I WANT to have confidence, I WANT to be assertive. I'd love to fall in love with the girl of my dreams.At this point, sex is not a necessity. I'd be MORE THAN satisfied with just your basic snuggle sessions, etc. I yearn to feel the warmth of a girl's figure against mine while cuddling up together under the sheets watching a movie. Sigh...I'm a helpless romantic. =/And if you are wondering what I look like, well I'd rather not supply a picture. Just imagine a fat, acne infested, gross looking, greasy, long haired guy. There. Satisfied? Lol.

thehand0 · Answer

You are p*ssed that you have been rejected so many times and desperately want people to look past what's on the surface. Unfortunately, many people are superficial. It sucks. If you really did want to go out ith those girls, earn a stack of money and they will flock after you. That said, not everyone is and there are definitely girls who look past the superficiality of of the outside appearance. There are indeed  plenty of guys with similar stuff are in an amazing relationsihp with a hot girl, so there is hope for you yet.

cjtheo · Answer

Well I doubt your ugly, if you have a bad skin condition get it fixed ( if you can) ex acne, get proactive.  90% of all guys fall in the average category, bout 5% in ugly and 5% in super good looking.  If you think you fall in the ugly category don't, feel good about yourself.  Women can sense confidence a mile away, Only way you can build confidence is to be more social.   Force yourself to talk to girls, Drop all your bad habits and attain good ones, Good thing for you girls don't just date guys who are good looking like us men date women ( most of the time) on just looks.

jackiejean · Answer

I relate to you really well on your emotional aspect. I myself lack the courage to voice my opinion and am very shy. You just need to experiment and voice your opinions from time to time! That's what I do and it's somewhat helping. Or else you should find a good friend who's willing to help you with your problems. Just be patient on the love aspect. I wasn't looking, nor expecting love and it suddenly walked into my life without me noticing. It really was a miracle! :) And now I'm in love with a man who is considered "husky" by society and himself, but that doesn't bother me the slightest. In fact I like it, and I think he's beautiful either way. His personality is what really gets my blood boiling, haha. You should just keep an eye out for a girl who doesn't care about physical appearances and cares about your personality! :) That's where the meaningful relationships lie.

samanthaa21 · Answer

This is horrible.  The way you talk about yourself, horrible.  You sound like a really good guy.  Girl's are shallow, I admit.  There are some girls however that want exactly what you want.  That feel relative to yourself.  My friend thinks she is overweight, however she doesn't notice the fact that she is absolutely gorgeous.  Not even on the outside but also on the inside, to not be the least bit cheesy :P  You are going to find someone some day.  My sister is pretty and she's 16 and hasn't even hugged a boy yet!  Do not let age come into play of romance.  It'll happen when it's meant to happen.  Someone will come along, but till then work on building confidence within yourself.  I know it's hard but you really need to try.  Confidence is they key to everything.  Whatever you feel you have flaws on, work on it.  I used to be overweight and now I've completely changed myself into who I wanted to be.

Courtneylovesyou · Answer

this may sound very cheesy but it worked for me. I was never a very beautiful I never got a date, never even had a boyfriends that lasted 2 weeks. Until I found my guy friends that's amazing. he's sooo hott and I still have no idea why he talks to me. But he was tired of all all the girls all over him so he became friends with me. and I have friends but not many I'm a very quite girl. But anyways he totally changed my attitude I was always thinking I'm ugly and crap but since I've known him I've found myself actually looking at a mirror and saying wow I look good. Find someone that care more about your personality more then your looks. Also to help try using proactive it actually works pretty well. just remember to use it everyday and your good. also working out is good too.

jazzy7 · Answer

Its good to know that you started to exercise. Exercise really does make you feel better. Remember its not just about the outside. Its about your attitude. If you become the best you, you can , people will be drawn to you. I'm sorry that you went to such a cruel high school. But your not that insecure kid any more. Your a men , and believe me love is blind now a days. There's allot of girls that aren't that shallow. For girls the deal breaker is personality. You have to love yourself before someone can love you. Oh and about your greasy long hair...-cuts transform people. lol

DmacBioUmiami2011 · Answer

no

just kidding you just have to come out a bit more you know...have fun things to talk about and always at least make an attempt at looking clean and not smellling...man girls hate it when you smell...and I know everyone says it but seriously just be yourself

On a scale of 1 to ten I'm prbly a two

but just listen close to what I do

always be so fresh so clean

breath minty got that listerine

go to class and act myself

but first I worry bout studying health

pre-med track that's wthe way I be

so far its worked out for me

I am not the best I'm no ken

but my girl is shining...she a ten

how did I do it? the answer-simple

I kept her laughin showin all dimple

just be yourself that's the way to flow

if a girl dam you up she a foe

keep it simple and pure

get a girl for sure

dont be fake and taint mind

youll find a sweety ever so kind

my lines suck but my info is sound

dmac delivers good advice you just found

OOO!

n3wgrass · Answer

Regarding the negative attitude, when I was in high school, I was made fun of for my appearance. In reaction, I often told myself that I didn't care about my appearance; however, this created a vicious cycle between poor maintenance and negativity, and it would continue to spiral downwards. I would suggest getting a makeover; I had three salient moles removed, a new hairstyle and got rid of my glasses.

For the acne, creams and lotions don't work on their own. Healthy eating is a very important complement. Also, your face may simply be still producing a lot of oil because of your age.

For the hair, try experimenting with different styles to see what suits your face and body type.

Good luck!

PleasureCat · Answer

Regarding the latest update about gym - Try to get a trainer. This will make things easer and he will also help (he should at least) reinforcing You to continue to exercise.

You need to do a several exercises, each for a different muscle group. Then relax a minute or two. Then do the next.

You need short but heavy exercises. It will cause a small damages in Your muscles and that's what You need. They will hurt in the beginning, but then, after You have a good meal and long sleep, they will heal up and this is how muscles are growing - by breaking a little up and healing.

This will take approx a half of the year of regular exercises (once or twice a week) to start notice changes.

Have fun and If You need any more help, feel free to send me a note ;)

strotter4 · Answer

Well my friend... theory of darwinism states survival of the fittest and that creatures choose mates based on what will succeed in the next generation... you however... albeit as you put it not the most attractive person physically are obviously quite smart and although brains isn't a persons first choice... because nature of the beast is brawn... still have quite the opportunity to overcome... I know I don't look it now... but I was in a similar situation with the acne thing... and yes working out is a great stress reliever and self esteem booster... so hang in there push through... and even at it's toughest do your best... and don't do it for someone else do it for you... then you'll be happy... and when you're happy you're confident and when you're confident you're attractive... who cares what other people think of you... I know it's hard right now... but as I stated before you just have to push through... good luck... hit me up if you need anything

MrKkibbles · Answer

I am in a similar situation, not near as bad anymore, but it was.And your update is spot on, you can't just magically get confidence. So as I see it you have two options, look for a girl with an "unattractiveness" equal to yours. Or Improve yourself, seeing as all of your listed problems are physical. And the kicker is that your bad, depressed mood can be a great motivator. Picture your dream girl and tell yourself you don't deserve that YET when exercising. Also, try washing your face before you shower, you might gross yourself out by the greasy feeling of only a little bit of water mixing with all the oils on the skin of your face. Don't cut corners on your appearance.

And lastly, don't confuse confidence with assertiveness, there's nothing wrong with being a submissive guy, if you are not a doormat.

SkinnerOne · Answer

No you cannot.

But I can tell you that one of the best men I ever knew was a guy that set his place and stuck to it. He was not a handsome guy. He was gangly and looked somewhat akward...he too had bad skin... not his fault either. These are the obstacles that were placed into his life. Other men had different obstacles.

So, with everything my judgemental mind could pick out that this poor fellow had to deal with the more I got to know him the more I realized I could ALWAYS depend on him. I mean if he said he would, he damned sure did! It was his way. And he took great comfort in that. I know for a fact that he actually felt blessed that he could find the intestinal fortitude (Guts) to never waiver from his commitments.

I lost track of him over the years so I cannot tell you his life turned out great or bad. The only think I know it did was turn out to be HIS life. Like mine turned out to be mine.

I know this much though. He was one of the best MEN I ever knew.

Bist8guy · Answer

Ask your friends how could you improve your physical apparance, you should have at least one good friend, and if it's a girl much better. And also when they tell you all those names, just laugh and  take it easy. Make jokes about you being ugly. That would improve your self esteem. Never let anybody hurt your feelings though. ( One little tip about acne: I know PROACTIV doesn't work but try using the Refining Mask only, it's like $20, but I swear it took all my acne away, I use it every night before I got to bed it worked. and you don't have to buy the whole kit).

Anonymous · Answer

Are you completely paralyzed? Is half your face missing? Do you weigh 500 pounds?

Be thankful for what you are now. I know it's hard, but really it will help if you start feeling better about yourself. Most people hate themselves, that's why they're so cruel to others.I used to think the same, then one day I just didn't give a damn anymore. Someone is going to like you eventually, in a world full of all these people you'll find someone eventually.

Be assertive, have confidence, look in the mirror and tell yourself that.

The more you say it, the more it will help, just try to be, life is too short to waste in misery.

currannaaach · Answer

I am kinda in the same situation as you, however, I fill the majority of my time with school (I'm taking 19 credits, as I am a premed philosophy major), Football, and boxing, and weightlifting.

With all of that, I'm pretty much just trying to get my body in great shape so that whenever I look myself in the mirror, I get the confidence to go do something.

At this point, we can't just go and hope to find a girl, because we are naturally already gonna know that she is gonna say no, or shoot us down somehow. Instead, we need to work on our confidence and swagger. (not douchebagginess, but you get what I mean)

I've seen people do this, and it worked. It's all in the attitude dude.

benjammin09 · Answer

Dude it takes time to gain confidence. First of all what are your interests. Do you play guitar? do you like video games, are you involved in clubs and organizations, do you have friends?, if you find people who have similar interests, and go from there. Also, ask your friends to set you up with someone, and give it a try. Basically though the important part is finding people who are interested in the same stuff as you, like if your are in a service club, you find someone in their and strike up a conversation. Also speak up, be bold, trust me I still struggle with this crap too, but I find ways to express myself . I play guitar at churhc, I'm involved with some organizations, also go out and meet girls at places, trust me, you'll get the guts to talk to one.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel horrible for you... Really... People are so unfair and harsh sometimes. Making fun of people is simply not right and I just don't get it why people do such things... What good does it do to them?

I am 23 years old, average looking guy but so shy I never asked a girl out. I still haven't gone to a single date so no kiss, no sex, no girlfriends. I've always been a terribly shy guy and hated myself for it for years and now that I am just starting to realize that we only have one life to live and that I am wasting it. I have lost many opportunities for different life-changing things and decided to pass just because of my shyness.

All I have to say, is try to do everything in your power to help yourself look better. Go see a dermatologist for your skin problem.

You said you were ugly, fat and greasy so all I can suggest is try to make it better by doing exercise and shower every day.

Sherile · Answer

is there any hope for ugly girls? seriously.  I think guys do care more about how does a girl look   because they love them with teir...eyes. and girls are more likely to care about emotional psychological side of guys. so yeah...i am ugly. men never look at me the way they look at pretty girls. and I already know that I will be alone for the rest of my life. no one seems to care about my inside qualities...all they see is..small chest, poor hair.. ugly face..ugly body. ugly invisible me. so yeah. I have no hopes left.  because I am supposed to be pretty to get attention. now guys on the other hand are supposed to be self confident, funny, fun to be around, carrying and stuff... so chin up.

Anonymous · Answer

fat: exercise(I see now †hat you did. feels great yeah? c:)

acne: find a product that works. also. acne isn't always forever. you're just growing

gross looking: clean yourself up and don't think about that. you're gross if you think you're gross

greasy: shower.

long haired: its really difficult for guys to pull off long hair. cut it. especially if it's dirty or gets greasy easily. guys hair is sometimes different from girls and they just can't do long hair.

good luck c:

one day. don't worry.

hopfully if you do these things to focus on improving yourself, you will learn to be happy on your own and that will draw women to you!

Anonymous · Answer

Hey I used to be considered ugly and I think I still am to some people. I'm sorry you feel that way and I know how you feel. It's no wonder if you have issues when people dog you out like that for how you look all you can.

If you're fat lose weight

If you have acne, do stuff to improve your skin

You have the power to change your appearance for the better and improve yourself.

You can't sit around feeling sorry for yourself when you have all the power in the world to change. Would you want to date a fat, acne infested, gross looking, greasy girl? When you imagine snuggling with a girl do you picture snuggling up with that? Probably not right? Well change. I changed out of my ugliness but while you can change the outside all you want you still have to deal with the inner you.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm sure you are a good guy and I apologize for what I am about to say, but I refuse to help you.

Hell no! You bastards always get he hot chicks while us regular looking guys wonder what we did wrong. I've seen more ugly guys with hot chicks than any other type. You ruin my self esteem.

Now that you are working out we're screwed if you get ajob that pays good we're all sh*t outta luck.

I would definitely kick your ass and take your lunch money for what you are about to do.

You're single now, but when it ends you will see your ugly magic has brought you a princess. I hope everything works out for you, but later today I'm going to beat up an ugly person because of you.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes excercise more and it really does make you feel good. And if you do it regulary you will see results and it will boost your confidence and it will make your bod look good for the ladies. Cut your hair cause long greasy hair can cause acne on your face and back. As for the acne go to the dermatologist for it and see what they say. I don't think anyone can be undateable unless you have a serious mental issue such as retardation. Being 19 and having not experienced those things is really not that bad.There's a lot of people that don't go doing that stuff till there 40 or 50. I think you'll be just fine. Some people out there have it a lot worse than you do.

cyclekarl · Answer

You're only 19,I am 42,lets face it,women are picky really picky,if you're not a good looking bloke you need something to offer,like property or money and fame even,then it doesn't matter how ugly you are there will always been a lot of women all over you,just look at Peter Stringfellow,he's ugly and old,but dates teenagers and gorgeous ones at that,but if you've nothing to offer and are ugly like me,the best you'll ever get from a women is friendship,so if like me you;'re destined to be lonely and unwanted,you'll be consigned to a life of wanking,and believe me,it isn't enough,you'll soon get fed up with that,but eventually like me,you'll accept your life and forget about women,besides most use men for what they can get,and as many married men have told me,you're better off single.

virgorhs1 · Answer

Hey,

I don't want to sound harsh but this will help. If you don't like the way you look then change it. If you are not happy with your weight, go exercise. If your not happy with your acne..Buy cream or if you have enough money go to a doctor and get it fixed. Go get a haircut and wash your hair sweety(please do that) it will take the greasiness away. Let me tell you this you need to feel good about yourself. This will make you feel a little bit better.,Changing the way you look will not completely help your situation. In this world there is always gonna be something wrong with you. That's how the world is. It happens to everybody. So I hope this helps.

divaninja · Answer

I used to be like you. I had a phase when I wasn't very attractive and very shy. Then I started to come out of my shell because I had to realize I had to be like f*** what people say, I'm still a person! but before I knew it I grew out of it and I was considered very attractive. the same people that ridiculed me now ask me for my number (which I turn down viciously). but the point is..ppl are just fickle. I'm just glad that I learned to love myself b4 I looked the way I do now. haha keeps me from being a snob. Just know that there is someone here for everybody and that appearances mean nothing..you can always change your hair,loose weight, get plastic surgery, and get some acne products. but deep down what matters is how you act and treat people. Cause anything on the outside can change.

blahh88 · Answer

well.. the way to get all your worries away is to go to therapy explain all your problems to a doctor. every teen gets pimples, all you have to do is every morning clean your face every day to get the oil and dirt off your skin. or you can use proactive the most safest and eisiest way to help your skin against acne. also go up to people say hi make friends that way.

hahalover · Answer

AWWWWWW! I'm sure you are an amazing guy and you'll find that girl.  Wow beauty is in the yes of the beholder, I think I'm hot, but some might disagree. My point is under all the hurt and anger I see a smart, caring person, you'll find her. Hang in there sweetheart.  Those bastards don't deserve you anyways, so keep it moving and you'll be suprised by what you'll find once you stop looking.

20Katerina · Answer

Hey I do understand your up set and I can't say lose the attitude. Its hard when people judge you I know the feeling but don't let it stop you from doing what you want to. Who cares about the people in school. I never understood people.  I know they probably picked on you until you had no more confidence left know you will find a girl who loves you and thinks your handsome trust me. I'm sure you look just fine :)

HumansSuck · Answer

STOP! STOP! STOP! RIGHT NOW! Don't say such hurtful things about yourself. I know that the society we live in is very judgmental and unforgiving, but don't ever think that you can't find a girl who absolutely loves you for who you are. It's all about what's on the inside, not the outside. Some of the most handsome men I have met were so ugly on the inside that it just made them disgusting to me. And vice versa, some of the most unattractive men I have met were so beautiful on the inside that I just wanted to be around them all the time. What a girl REALLY wants is a man who truly loves her and sets her heart free!

P.S. - Watch Hitch with Will Smith!

cassowary · Answer

everyone has flaws. But there are a milllion guys out there just like you who are in a loving relationship. Obviously you won't be able to get a girl who looks like megan fox, but it wouldn't be too hard to find someone with similar interests as you. I am a very attractive girl and I have dated guys below thar would consider me "out of their league" but I date them because of personality and how they treat me. I am in a loving relationship now and I'm glad I found the right guy. There is a girl out there who feels the same way as you and who wants to be in love just as you do. And there is nothing wrong with using big word and sounding intellectual. I find that attractive.

hohomk · Answer

first of all, a lot of your negative things can be changed. hit the gym (looks like you already have, congrats!) and eat better. take more showers. use face wash to quell your acne. get a hair cut. buy some nice clothes. I know it sounds pretty superficial of me but some of these things are necessary. it makes you more attractive to society (stupid, I know), and it also gives you self confidence.

develop some discipline in lifestyle, gain more confidence, go forward. do SOMETHING for yourself. feeling sorry for yourself = nothing happens, maybe you feel a bit better because the whole world is against you etc. doing something for yourself = even if you fail, you're still a hell of a lot better than most people in the world.

i admire your desire to change for the better. good luck champ. keep your chin up.

shalalala · Answer

you have your personality that is the most unique thing! everybody is different.. there is no such thing as ugly everything is cute in some wayss ;) if you think you can't get girls cause of your looks then your looking for a wrong type of girls.. looks are gonna fade as you grow older.. find someone that will love you for who you are inside not by how you look because who you are inside will never changee!

Azure15 · Answer

All you have to do is be yourself the will always be that on star searching for you and you really sound like a nice guy. If you don't like how you look then try to change and I know it's hard but try! =] I believe you are capable of doing it.

1. Get a haircut

2. Change your diet

3. Always remind yourself that there is always someone out there looking for you

4. Stand up to those d*** sons of b*******

5. Prove those people wrong

I also agree with you on the fact that people judge on appearance. Its so stupid. What matters is your heart and you personality and your attitude towards things. Just remember that there is always a star searching for ya! =]

Swampwater · Answer

dude I'm guessing all the sh*t you ever took from people was in high school. people aren't that bad once you get out of that hell hole. it's like some strange microchasm where people can get away with that sh*t. I'm sure you'll meet nicer people in the REAL world.

SweetestSinxxx · Answer

If you don't like yourself, why do you think others should like you? Also, why don't you go for chicks on your level?

I've seen plenty of ugly people get laid, like art freaks and emos, and all of them. So there's no reason why you can't. But before anyone else likes you, youhave to like yourself!

MrsTiaJeNay · Answer

Well, to be honest I haven't thought of an emotion for this yet, understand I don't mean to say this in a oh idc attitude cause if I didn't care I wouldn't be bothering with ansering this question, everyone has faults some greater or more noticable than others, our age group can't poissbly see past our images to get to know or understand someone to the point of falling in love most guys onnly want to f*** and most girls are either sluts,too conceited, or too good for guys ..people fall in different catorgories I think if you change you're way of thinking and really look past what they call you or act towards you you will see what they have insecurities about and understand a lot about our generation   xoxox Tia'jenay p.s. I hope I was helpful

mz4568 · Answer

If you're rich, problem solved. Lots of gold diggers out there just salivating to pounce on any guy with money.

If you don't have much money, and just need companionship, I would say alcohol and hookers.

If you're looking for love, throw all your standards out the window. Don't look at someone for their looks. Get to know them and love them for who they are... there are lots of lonely women out there wanting to be loved.

nourreale · Answer

SHUT THE FK UP GET OFF YOUR FAT AZZ AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT FFS. YOU BEACHED WHALE HIT THE FKING GYM BUT PRODUCT GROOM YOURSELF. IT WILL TAKES MONTHS YOU MIGHT BE IN DEEP SELF PITTY THAT YOUR TOO LAZY OR JUST THINK ITS IMPOSSIBLE FOR YOU TO DO SO BUT YOU CAN DO IT.

GET SOME SELF CONFIDANCE THEN:

1ST: GO TO THE GYM SOUGHT OUT YOUR FIGURE

2ND : EAT WELL

3RD: GET A HAIRCUT

4TH: BUY A SHED LOAD OF COSMETICS TO SAUGHT OUT THAT SKIN OF YOUR

5TH: SOUGHT OUT ANYTHING OUT YOU HAVENT TOLD US ABOUT.

HOPE MY HARSHNESS GAVE You A WELL NEEDED KICK UP THE AZZ SO YOU CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT YOURSELF.

twofortea · Answer

you're being too stubborn. just because you don't look the part doesn't mean you're not attractive. people are attracted to personalities naturally. if a girl hooks up with a hot guy whose personality is terrible, that relationship will go nowhere.

if you have a negative attitude, people will avoid you. that is true for everybody.

what you don't have in the looks department you can make up for with your personality.

if you're ugly AND have a horrid personality, you're screwed.

Jeanw · Answer

There's lots of good advice that sensible, caring people have given on here. The people who are only looking at your outside and putting you down are pretty shallow. Are you shallow? If you are not, don't join in with them. Have a high personal opinion of yourself. What really counts is who you are, because all the things you've talked about-the weight, the greasy hair, can all be changed in a short time.

Respect all the things you have to offer another person.

Sexystud · Answer

Hi Dude,

Women are like bets. It's all a matter of NUMBERS, the more women (hot women) you approach, the more chances you have to score, or find your soul mate, depending on your goal. Get used to be rejected TONS OF TIMES, that will make you tougher, but look at it as a video game, in which you get stronger when more women reject you.

Thing is, you have to build balls dude, be naughty flirty when around women, be yourself more touchy with them (PUA's call this kino escalation), that means, get used to be A MAN, not a needy wuss!, you hug them not as a pervert, but as a confident man who knows he can satisfy any woman!, get the idea?

Read some stuff from John Alanis, Derek Rake and other authors about creating attraction in the Internet and try to find a look that fits you and you're comfortable with, I'd suggest a Bad Boy Biker one, maybe. Think about it.

Your Friend.

Sexystud

ger9a2 · Answer

I felt pretty much the same way a few years ago. But I did something about it. I got a nice haircut and learned how to style it, I got on antibiotics and stronger meds for my acne, and I lost weight doing the South Beach lifestyle, and went out more.

Outcome? My first boyfriend.

erinmylungs · Answer

i don't think so. I mean, there are people who don't care about looks but you've got to show your personality out there before they are going to consider you. if you can't make them give you a second look then FORCE them to see you. gotta just be a strong person and not give a sh*t if people call you names. look for the other outcasts and make friendships. just put yourself out there more and see what happens.

moomin90 · Answer

There is someone out there for everyone...

And I had acne for 7 years... the way I looked at it... a lot of hot famous people (orlando bloom, justin timberlake & others) had acne as well & now they are some of the guys, some girls like too swoon over. plus going to the gym will buff you out.

LaceIncision88 · Answer

why are you undermining yourself so much.

realise that all the hostilities is not only becuase of your acne, or being a fat ass but because yu lack the asseriveness to stand for what you think is right. I bet you are introvert.,. No worries. Introverts are people with high mental activity compared to those of your peers who only well party, get stoned and f***.

Cherish the blessing that you have. Speak up when you need to.. Be quiet and a mystery when you don't need to. Develeop the attitude of a quiet,thoughtful, brainiac,intellect.

Ask me,

Im hot.Believe me. But never had any guy asked me out. reason. Utter aloofness.Im 21 and I havnt kissed ever too.

Like I blame myself. If***ing dont. LIke they even deserve. Get thje brains dude. girls will come later. and in abundance.

your pimple is not permanent. Do something. Join th egym. Dress in attires you thinkyou can carry yourself well in. and look sexy in. Confidence will just creep in

The-Dude-Next-Door · Answer

If you have a skin condition, do something about it. Visit a dermatologist and find that magic ointment to reduce its affects. And start playing a sport or hit the gym. When you have muscles, you are not as ugly as you used to be.

Simply brushing your teeth and having perfect oral hygiene can also have a big affect on your attractiveness.

tex151 · Answer

Wallowing is self pity will do nothing for your cause, what you need to do is  get over it and be a man about it.  If your fat join a gym, eat healthy, ache problem dermatologist or products, there's a whole damn section on acne solutions at the store. Don't like your long greasy hair, cut it.  You can solve all of these problems on your own your problem is you don't want to and if you never want to then why even bother asking this question?

stu003 · Answer

hey every girl I have ever dated has said that personality is way more important than looks.  So you having a negative attitude hurts you just as much as your looks, if not more. You have to be more possitive about your approach or you WILL end up never being with a girl so cheer up buddy. Always remember, there's someone out their that will see you and think you are perfect so don't give up yet on yourself

Menomacal · Answer

Wow that was really well written! Probebly one of the best self-pity rants I've ever read. You sounds exactly like me. I'm also 19 and have never experianced being with a woman. I loved "I yearn to feel the warmth of a girl's figure against mine". That's exactly what I'm looking for.

Hey maybe we should hook up. We can get naked, hug each other under the duvets, and possibly watch 2001: Space Oddysey? :P

Anonymous · Answer

Okay, the first step of being loved, is learning to love yourself. And I understand that you don't want to hear that, but it's true. I think it's terribly unattractive when boys have a low self esteem. I consider myself to be a good looking woman, and yet I have fallen for the average looking boy just because he has a great personality and is proud of who he is. So when you walk into a room, show some confidence in yourself because it's a big turn on. The hooker idea is stupid. I'm not waiting for marriage to have sex, but loosing your virginity is still a precious thing you want to share with someone you truly love. Find people that are like you, and like the things you like to do, so they won't think you're weird. Hope I helped! :D

Jpalms56 · Answer

I had the same problem with self esteem and loving myself. You have to love yourself before someone else can love you. You have a nice personality so I bet that if you change your diet a little and take a little better care of yourself your start to get mad girls

Ceesa · Answer

I didn't read the hole thing, people consider me beautiful though I rather a guy with a bit of ugliness :-p

DON'T KNOW WHY ! it's charming when he has the right attitude and personality.

Of course he need to dress up correctly and everything it's just I don't need a cute face!

girlseekingadvice · Answer

you don't seem so bad to me (im a hopeless romantic as well) looks don't really matter to me... just find a girl like that you seem sweet enough and all guys end up old and ugly anyway so I like to go for the sweet ones. there's hope.

Anonymous · Answer

Learn to play guitar. If you have the right personality type, it will work well for you. The Hooker thing is a waste of money, so don't do that unless your LOOOOAAADED.

I got a job as a dishwasher, and that's really toned my arms out, so if you need a job, do that it will be a more economically-friendly way to lose weight/ get the muscles.

nate18 · Answer

f*** changing your attitide. get a hair cut, wash your hair, and hit the gym regularly. once I started going to the gym I felt way better about my self. I hated going like a mutherfocker but I pushed myself. now, I like it, I've only been going for a year and a month now and I havnt shown any signs of improvement. mostly because I like eating food lol. but at least I feel better about myself. maybe go see a skin specialist or something.

jjf481993 · Answer

Here's the thing. There are people who can be ugly, and still attractive. You need more self-confidence, ans self-esteem. People who are ugly, but still have swagger, are looked at differently. As for improving your appearance? Get some acne medicine, eat better, and excercise.

Anonymous · Answer

Remember the saying "there is no such thing as an ugly short or fat RICH guy". So focus on your school work, get rich, and all those shallow bimbos who wouldn't ever look or give you the time of day now will be waiting to get in line later=T. I've seen it happen so much... The cheerleaders at my old Hs go on to become bartenders and meet the ugly guy who got rich lol just go watch the movie "just friends". It explains perfectly

BOOPiiE · Answer

just by reading this I'd almost cried because I don't like people calling other people ugly,fat,awkward etc. don't worry about what people say about you because you're beautiful no matter what. you just gotta know that looks aren't everything,and you got to have self confidence in yourself first

Anonymous · Answer

To tell the truth, I was in your exact situation when I was 19, but then I went to college, and I've dated some pretty 'funny looking' guys with great personalities, but low self esteem, just like me.

I had my first date, my first kiss, my first everything, years and years after my peers.

I'm not a fairytale princess or anything, my life is still just that little bit harder because of how I look.

The only answer I have for you is to hang in there. If you stay focused and honestly go for it, it will happen.

I know you've heard the advice above before, but here is a hint, the important part is the 'go for it', if you don't try, then failure is more than eminent, it is certain.

Kandyfreak823 · Answer

sure definetly, sometimes a girl looks deep inside for the perfect guy, with the best personality that makes her laugh and smile. And note that you may think that your ugly, and others may think that you are ugly, but a girl out there will view it a difrent way.

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