Afraid of asking out a woman in front of others?

It might be just be me but I can go from 100% confident to extremely terrified of asking a woman out if there are other people around. If I know I'm in a crowded environment, I'll chicken out and not ask them out. Is this common or uncommon for a guy? Advice would be greatly appreciated. Also need advice from girls that have an opinon on if it's sexier to be asked out in front of people vs without other people around.


Most Helpful Girl

  • since the issue is about two people potentially dating, the matter should be between those two people only because it's really not anyone else's business. when i was single and looking for a relationship, I would ask the guy out when it's just me and him or I pull him aside to someplace mire private. If the guy were to ask me out, i would prefer if he didn't do it in public.

    Another reason to ask in a more private setting is that maybe the girl doesn't want to date you or isn't interested and they would be more willing to let you down in private. When you ask a girl out public, sometimes the girl doesn't want to hurt your feelings front of others and may actually say yes and then ditch you later (i know ladies that do this).


Most Helpful Guy

  • You think to much about it. Make your mind blank and say to yourself: I CAN DO IT. Then just go for it!

    Whats the worst that can happen? They laugh at you? You won't see them again anyway ;)

    GL, stop being in your head all the time!


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What Girls Said 1

  • I rather if anything, he pulls me aside to talk to me privately.


What Guys Said 1

  • I have the same problem.
    I usually feel more comfortable when she is alone than in a crowd.
    I could use some advice to.


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