Guys, Would you ever date a woman who is nearly 10 years older than you?

Question

I am 33 years old (female) and I look younger than I am. I don't mean that in an arrogant way, if anything it's problematic for lots of reasons. I always gets asked out by guys much younger than me, even as young as 18-20 year olds. Anyway I kind of like this guy, but I was surprised find out that he is 24 years old. He looks older, like 28 or 29. He seems to like me too, but I'm worried about the age gap. If it would put him off or if it would pose a problem? He is very mature, I've been told by friends.

RationalMale · Accepted Answer

Before you date some guy a lot younger, please consider a few things.

When guys get to around 28, 30--if they have actually worked on themselves--career wise, personality, physically--they have the widest range of possible dates ever. Tons of 21 year old girls will date 28, 30 year old guys.

So if you date some guy ten years younger, and things last four years--when he's 28 and you're 38, you're in a worse position and he's hitting his stride.

If you want something stable that could lead to family, date in your own age bracket. You're not in a great dating bracket for women, at 33. It's okay, but not the best, at all. At 38? You'll find pickings much worse.

Tdieseler · Accepted Answer

coincidentally... my ex is currently your age... dated her when i was 24. so she was what...30-31 at the time... i'd dated older when i was younger too.
its just the uncertainty that kills it. i mean, either one person worries that they are too old or the other worries that they are to young and both start thinking about dating closer to their age. thats the reason my ex broke with me. she was uncertain that i was actually taking it seriously and there was no future... i would have argued... it the sex was not so horrendous. i took the win.

ncannon18 · Answer

Oh yeah. Going out with a woman that's 10 years older than me sounds really fun & sexy. I've never done this before but I would be willing to go for it soon enough. I've always had a thing for hot older women in their 30s.

singlebee · Answer

Unmm nope..
I would ever mostly date someone if I am attracted towards her and like her and want something long term from her...
So I don't think dating someone 10 years older would be good.. Maybe she doesn't want commitment or is only interested in sex... Maybe she wasn't children someday? Lol

So that all matters and it depths

dogbert444 · Answer

If she has a compatible personality, then yes, of course I would. Age doesn't matter that much, neither does looks. In the hunt for a life partner, it's a girl's character that matters most.

Lynx122 · Answer

No I would consider like 1 year older maybe 2 but 10 is a lot, maybe a short term thing if she's really attractive ;).

lonelyoldboy · Answer

It really depends on how well I know her. I definitely don't seek out women who are older than me, and if I had the power to choose a woman I would exclude women above a certain age. But if I was dating a woman and then found out she was 33, I would continue dating her. I probly wouldn't wanna marry her tho

ThisDudeHere · Answer

No. While I'm still in my 20's, I would not. Perhaps later in life when I stop giving a shit.

akanetuk · Answer

Give it a try, if it does not work out, it is not the end of life, keep searching.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I have considered and I still will. Granted, those women don't tend to want to as I've had bad luck with those women.

GingerGuy · Answer

Everyone views age gaps differently. If you and him are ok with it that's all that matters.

jjmarvin · Answer

I don't know if we'd be able to relate on anything. I couldn't imagine being romantic with someone i couldn't understand

bluenose1872 · Answer

I slept with a 26 yo when I was 15. I dated older women ever since. Boys always fancy older women growing up. Hardly ever the girls their own age. It's always teachers or something we talk about as teens. So plenty of guys are into older women

Anonymous · Answer

I Would far so to date somebody double my age if was real feelings were there. I have been asked by a woman that was 55 found that to large at the time a was 19 I'm considering going to date going a woman 10s year older with a nine-year old Child

Anonymous · Answer

personally not really , cause at my age that mean she'd likely have kids or been married and have a lot more experience than I have and be used to things I don't have like lots of money and house etc. I'd prefer to date girls younger than me

VerNauPap · Answer

hell yes, best sex i have had was with a woman that was 14 years older than me

dudeman · Answer

i did when i was in my early twenties but now that i want to start a family i prefer then ten years younger.

multilevel · Answer

Yes I would happily do that, much prefer that over a 10 yers younger.

dudeHR · Answer

i didn't do it before but want to do if i get a woman.

Righttobeararms83 · Answer

No. Ten years younger maybe if I was single. Hell I wouldn't consider dating a woman my own age.

ILikeToParty · Answer

Would def have sex with an older woman. Would date an older woman. Would not marry or have kids with an older woman tho.

Dred1614 · Answer

Nope. I prefer women that are close to my age. 5 years younger if the furthest I'd go.

Anonymous · Answer

if I am 28 then bc she would be legal then only lol

Other_Tommy_Wiseau · Answer

no. i got a -3.5 contingency.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I definitely would. And if I assume right the chance a older women searches something more than an adventure is higher wich I prefer

Words_and_Wisdom · Answer

Sure if she's cool enough.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and i have been actively seeking out older women because women my age aren't interested

johnnywoods · Answer

yes i'm dating a woman 16 years older than me

ihatethiswebsite · Answer

I would not date somebody that much older than me.

Kuraj · Answer

Date? No.

blondfrog · Answer

Yeah I love cougars.

PizzaGuy22 · Answer

Gtfo

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