Should I tell my boyfriend I cheated? (Page 5)

[Jaded214]

He's going to start your wonder so you should probably just tell him. And for future reference, don't enter a relationship until you're ready.

[Benk111]

If it would really hurt him that much than you should break up with him for some other reason and stop speaking to each other. If you tell him he will break up with you and hate you forever.

[Anonymous]

I'd just give him the opportunity to cheat. And then tell him.

[Titanic1912]

No. The past is the past! Leave it alone. Just don't do it again.

[ModernDayCrusader]

You should go to church and confess
Maybe God will forgive you, but your boyfriend never will

[NerdInDenial]

Nope, bury the secret.

[NerdInDenial]

If you value the relationship, don't tell him. Odds are you will probably break up; thus, your punishment is to live with the guilt. More importantly, don't do it again

[schnipdip]

If she does this, then on the grounds of if he cheats, she has no right to break up with him for that reason... You must give him a free pass if/when that time comes.

[I_am_impulsive]

#Downvoted

[DearLife]

This is bullshit.

[funny_strange_man]

If she cared and loved her boyfriend in the first place she would have never cheated on him

[xbutterflykissesx]

@funny_strange_man Yes I have to agree with you...

[JuicyBrain]

@funny_strange_man
That's just wishful thinking. Real life is more complicated than that. The reality is that you can cheat on someone and still love them very much. If someone who cheated didn't love the person he/she is with, why would they bother trying to save their relationship in the first place.

[schnipdip]

@JuicyBrain the fear of loss...

[JuicyBrain]

@schnipdip I only fear losing what I care for in the first place.

[schnipdip]

@JuicyBrain or the fear of being alone. How can you care about someone you love and betray them at the same time?

[JuicyBrain]

@schnipdip Nobody gets into an affair thinking they are betraying anyone. People act on instinct and lust and later try to fix the damage. Nobody goes "Hmmmm... Who should I betray my husband with tonight?"

[schnipdip]

@JuicyBrain and? Is that a free pass? It's called being self aware...

[JuicyBrain]

@schnipdip
"If she cared and loved her boyfriend in the first place she would have never cheated on him"
"The reality is that you can cheat on someone and still love them very much"
THAT is the point I made. The rest you imagined. If you want to break up with someone because they cheated, it's your prerogative. Thinking that she can't possibly love you because she cheated is false logic. It's a fallacy.

[schnipdip]

@JuicyBrain in what way is that a fallacy? There is a correlation between feelings (love) and commitment.

[schnipdip]

@JuicyBrain if you are committed to someone that would imply you are solely dedicated to that individual.
If you're romantically in love, why would you want to hurt that person?
If you are friends with your partner, why would you want to betray them?

Now I can love ice cream, but my feelings for ice cream are completely different compared to how I love my mom and dad or my partner. It's a paradox of the word "love", just like the paradox of the word "is".

If you are committed to someone, you obviously feel connected to that person on a deeper level.
If you love someone, you're connected to that person on the same, if not deeper level.
... In terms of mind, body, and soul.

[JuicyBrain]

@schnipdip If this was true then open relationships would be illogical. The fact that it sounds true to you doesn't make it so. It might be true in your little world but it's not a universal truth and therefore, not a truth at all. You just happen to think that way.

[schnipdip]

@JuicyBrain open relationships work for one reason alone... It's an agreement upon both parties involved. And I would have to say most open relationships fail.

[JuicyBrain]

@schnipdip
Most relationships fail.
Listen, I am fine with you living in your world. I don't care about convincing you of anything. Keep believing someone can't possibly love you if they cheated. I am fine with it.

[schnipdip]

@JuicyBrain convince me otherwise. You claimed it's a fallacy. Show me evidence it is. Support your claims that betrayal and deceit is unrelated to love. As in, you love someone and you betray their trust and deceive them...

[JuicyBrain]

@schnipdip No I won't. Do it yourself if you are interested. I don't work for you. As I said, I am perfectly fine with you being wrong and staying that way.

[schnipdip]

@JuicyBrain what makes you think I'm wrong? Who said you're right? Where does it say you're right?
You know nothing, quit acting like you're some genius. Your opinion doesn't make you right.

[funny_strange_man]

@JuicyBrain the reason they are trying to make it work is because they cheated

[JuicyBrain]

@funny_strange_man
Thanks captain obvious. My question is why try to salvage something you don't care for. If cheating means you don't love someone, then why salvage a relationship you obviously didn't want in the first place? Because people do stupid mistakes and sexual desire and love aren't the same thing. You can love the girl you are with and yet succumb to the temptation of another one. That doesn't mean you feel nothing for the first one.

[NerdInDenial]

I didn't mean to cause so much controversy. I will say cheating is wrong but nothing good comes out of revealing this truth especially if she wants to be with him

[Anonymous]

I hope you tell the guy. I hope he dumps your dirty ass you whore! He deserves a girl who would not cheat on him.
Go rot in hell you cheater! 2 hours, you thought that was acceptable.

#WHORE

[Asker]

hahahhah wow okay. Not defending myself, but wow. You're bitter af
there are less obnoxious and rude ways of getting insults across

[Opinion Owner]

sorry, looking back on it it was very harsh. And i dont know you enough to call you a whore.
I was just imagining my girl doing that to me.
How could you let him down like that? I give my girl freedom. I think i would commit suicide if my girlfriend did that to me.

[Anonymous]

If you had the 'balls' to cheat then you should have the balls to tell him.

[Anonymous]

Yes you slut. Can't go 2 months without cheating? Tell him so he can leave and find a faithful woman.

[Jxpxtxr]

Tbh he has a right to know..

[pewdiepie_]

If u cheated it's ok but don't do it over and over again. :)

[Anonymous]

Tell him, he deserved to get out and find a girl who isn't gonna whore around the second his back is turned.

[Anonymous]

Do you even have to ask this question? of course you do. Would you want him to tell you if you fucked 10 girls while you dated?

[PrettyInScarlet]

Yes you should tell him. Some day he will find out anyway

[SovereignessofVamps]

Yep. tell him while it's still early.

[SovereignessofVamps]

Ignore all the hate you get, OK? You made a bad mistake and should break up with him, but you don't deserve the insults. You sound honest to me anyway.

[Asker]

You're sweet <3 but i do deserve the insults. I've been cheated on and i swore i'd never do that to anyone. I'm honestly a terribly person.

[SovereignessofVamps]

All the people judging you have probably nvr cheated either! For now. Like I haven't, but I could one day. We all nvr know what we might do, so I don't see how you could deserve the insults.

[Asker]

True, but not everyone at this age is as mature and level-headed as you. I know that i would've slightly judged someone for cheating last week. so their comments make sense

[SovereignessofVamps]

thanks, but I've judged people too! I don't feel even sorry for people who cheat usually... it's just that I could do the same thing too. So I don't feel bad but I don't insult.

[ManWithoutAMoustache]

It's better to just be up front and honest and hope he likes you enough to see past this

[Anonymous]

Uh yeah, the only thing more despicable than cheating, is being a coward and lying about it

[Anonymous]

If My girlfriend cheated on me I'd rather not know about it

[Anonymous]

If he really thinks you're worth it he will try to stay with you even though it may be scary id tell him...

[SilentShadow]

Tell him so he can dump your a**.