- try to draw a distinction between your style and a specific look, which is a combination of both a style and a sort of given level of formality/specific context. Being in to, as a counterexample, bright colors and classic looks is a 'style'. But that style can be translated to different outfits for the beach, for school, for a dinner out, for winter, for a formal party. The general style can be expressed in all of them. A lot of people, especially teens, have a 'style' they have settled in to in only one context. School/hanging out. You yourself need to figure out how to express your style in different scenarios. To use a really dumb but simple example, you wouldn't wear a hoodie and jeans to go swimming. You'd wear a swimming suit. Probably black, not bright polka dots. Because simple and dark is your 'style'...
I don't think changing your entirely underlying 'style' makes sense. It's an expression of you and your tastes. You might occasionally indulge in what he likes, but your core style has to be what you feel good in.
On the flip side, I think you might want to encourage yourself from just having one 'look' (i. e. jeans and hoodies) and explore a variety of things that fall within styles that you like, that your boyfriend may find especially attractive.
In particular, avoid falling into the 'I only wear X because I feel uncomfortable in other things' trap. Wear stuff you like that he thinks you look good in, even if it's a change for you. Don't wear stuff you don't like.
What made you start that style, in the first place? You can rethink you style yes, but for logical personal reasons, like if you wanted to feel alright inside a group and now you would discover that's not an important thing, but not because he demands or thtreatens to end things.
He shouldn't get mad. He should accept who you are. Since you claimed that you guys can't "survive" without each other, I suggest you may try to change to the style he likes once in a while to impress him. You still can stick to your own style as well, I'm not asking you to change your comfortable dressing style.
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He sounds like a control freak, just keep wearing what you like to wear
he is a bit controlling I have to say...
That's bad and not in a good way
try to find the joy in being feminine. it's a wonderful thing.
I will try it then
Why did u lose in the firat time
U can't change urself for anyone he is an asshole
because I wasn't focusing on my studies... he is not an asshole...
He wants to change how you dress every day or how you dress when you go out somewhere?
when I am with him
What do you wear?
What does he like?
I love jeans or black shirts with black band t shirts leather jacket or hoodies
he likes dresses and colours
I'm gonna sort of suggest compromise stuff, hopefully that's helpful ;)
- try to draw a distinction between your style and a specific look, which is a combination of both a style and a sort of given level of formality/specific context. Being in to, as a counterexample, bright colors and classic looks is a 'style'. But that style can be translated to different outfits for the beach, for school, for a dinner out, for winter, for a formal party. The general style can be expressed in all of them. A lot of people, especially teens, have a 'style' they have settled in to in only one context. School/hanging out. You yourself need to figure out how to express your style in different scenarios. To use a really dumb but simple example, you wouldn't wear a hoodie and jeans to go swimming. You'd wear a swimming suit. Probably black, not bright polka dots. Because simple and dark is your 'style'...
I don't think changing your entirely underlying 'style' makes sense. It's an expression of you and your tastes. You might occasionally indulge in what he likes, but your core style has to be what you feel good in.
On the flip side, I think you might want to encourage yourself from just having one 'look' (i. e. jeans and hoodies) and explore a variety of things that fall within styles that you like, that your boyfriend may find especially attractive.
In particular, avoid falling into the 'I only wear X because I feel uncomfortable in other things' trap. Wear stuff you like that he thinks you look good in, even if it's a change for you. Don't wear stuff you don't like.
Did that make any sense?
it does make sense and its really helpful and I will try to do that (have a variety of styles) thank you so much
Dress up the way you want to dress up. He won't like it but that's okay.
thank you for your help :)
No problem. Take care now.
I will thank you :)
You're such a nice girl :)
thank you :) you are a wonderful person as well
Is there any sort of way you could meet him like, half way?
what do you mean half way?
Like, compromise, ya know... like, if you do it, then he can do something you want, or whatever. Relationships are about give and take
true and I will do that
Let me know what happens next time
I will :)
Promise?
yes :)
I will see him today
cool?
I will tell you when I come back how it was...
okkk
we went out and we said that some times if he wants to go out i will dress up fancy and that he loves me so he will accept how i dress
okkkk
So just do it so he will get hot and do u good.
hahaha nice idea
Go with what works for u
thank you :)
Guys can be so controlling. ..!
I know right?
Be a shadow of him, by his side, then
do you really think I am a shadow?
Being like what he want you to be will make you aa shadow
wowwwww
true...
No no no, keep your individuality girl.
Do you think that he will get mad?
What made you start that style, in the first place?
You can rethink you style yes, but for logical personal reasons, like if you wanted to feel alright inside a group and now you would discover that's not an important thing, but not because he demands or thtreatens to end things.
But maybe you can play a game with him...
You accept to change... if he also change something you don't like about him. Try that.
I love this idea and I will try it :) thank you so much :)
Good luck.
thank you :)
He shouldn't get mad. He should accept who you are. Since you claimed that you guys can't "survive" without each other, I suggest you may try to change to the style he likes once in a while to impress him. You still can stick to your own style as well, I'm not asking you to change your comfortable dressing style.
thank you so much that is a great idea
Who the fuck cares if he gets mad. I'm sorry but guys like him piss me off. He's a controlling creep.
@UhNoThnx he is controlling but not that much...
you will change on your own slowly
thank youu
Dress however you want.
thank you
why not. you can do it :P get enjoy...
thank youuu :) I will
Dark can be classy?
I don't know...
I think GAG ate my ellipsis. I meant dark CAN be classy.
So your boyfriend is being a dweeb, or your sense of style is extremely questionable.
it isn't that weird just jeans and dark makeup with band tshirts
It's the dark makeup he doesn't like
yes and that I always wear black
That's nowhere near as much a problem as bad taste I makeup
I see
You should dump his ass.
but it hurts..
Just do it for once for him.
I did it once, yesterday should I change and dress up like that all the time?
No. A mixture. Once a week you suffer... For love!
thank you its a nice suggestion :)
Its up you you
I know I just need some opinions
Just DOO IT