Being a gentleman or not interested?

[teawrecks]

- went to guys house first time meeting
- he let me sit in the comfy chair and he laid on the floor
- we watched 1.5 movies
- bought us beer and kept getting me new ones when I was empty
- hugged me when I came and left
- told me to text when i got home

basically he made NO moves, and his texting style is kind of dry so I can't judge based on that. I'm not used to a guy not making moves when I first meet him.

Being a gent

Not interested, sorry.

Stop overthinking things bitch

Updates

+1 y

I haven't heard from him all day, even after texting him once. So I'm chalking it up to lack of interest.

[MrMysteryMan]

So he took care of all your needs and didn't try to push himself on you. Also, asked for you to text him back when you got home to make sure you got home safely. Am I missing something confusing here? This is what people who care for one another do, as far as I can tell. Or am I way off base or something? Like did the planets shift and an alternate reality open up to where guys that show respect are the ones that girls don't want anymore? Or are guys that show respect are the ones that girls feel that they aren't interested? Because that's what you're inferring really. Don't overthink. Is this how you want to be treated? If so, you better not fuck this up.

[teawrecks]

I'm just not used to it. I'm used to guys wanting / expecting sex when they say "hey come over and drink and watch movies".

[MrMysteryMan]

Yeah, well, surprise. Some of us guys have decency and aren't all about ourselves. But what you should do is maybe compare his actions and how he first talked to you or how you guys first interacted, to the ones that were assholes or always about getting in your pants right away, and note the difference, if you like what you're getting now.

[MrMysteryMan]

Give him some more time. I mean you don't have to be waiting by the phone or whatever, but it might be that he got busy with something else or he can't text from work or something. Patience. If he doesn't text back after another day or so, then forget about him. But just put him as a maybe, and on the back burner.

[Rafeek]

I also feel I'm kind of the guy you mentioned. The reason i think is he was not so expressive. also a thought what if the other person might judge me if i make a move is also a reason. It's just being afraid i believe which is not good.

You want to make a move then make a move. Be expressive.

And also you should be expressive when other person is not making move and expect something from other person.

[SammyGurl]

Sounds like he was trying to be a gentleman, waiting for a sign from you before he tries and gets shut down because he couldn't figure you out... Or something like that. Think if the roles were reversed, what would you have done? His texting style might be a little dry because he's still not quite sure you are interested or how interested you are?

[SammyGurl]

Thank You!!

[StanleighK]

1.5 movies 🎥... Wtf is 1.5?
Sounds like a proper gent, take it he called you "Mi Laydi" and kissed the back of your hand? And you were both drinking, still no moves? WOW, this guy is a phenomenon in the world of chivalry, keep his ass!

Or he could be gay! ;)

[teawrecks]

He fell asleep halfway through the second movie cause he was doing a lot earlier that day lol

[StanleighK]

Can't be a gent if he's dossing and falling asleep when he has guests :) You should have slapped him, woke him the fuck up

[TripleAce]

Movie date 😂😂 1.5 movies lol
So he about 3 hours to make a move to fiddle with you but didn't lol

I think he was just shy. If you randomly went on top of him and starting kissing, he'd kiss you back lol

[BoostedST]

Sounds like either he didn't want to be pushy or wasn't sure what to do.

If it were me and you gave me absolutely zero signals I probably wouldn't try to escalate much, especially early on.

[Prof_Don]

in my opinion he is being a gentleman, he really likes u and doesn't want to give u the idea he is just looking for a fuck

[Mitch6192]

I do this on first dates. Turn into a creep on the second ;p haha

[ZeonWolf]

i would say option a and c. he's a gentlemen and do you expect every man to make moves first time meeting you? men have morals as well.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would say being a gentleman but if he doesn't respond than it could be something else.
You're attractive young woman so i wouldn't worry.

[HikerDude]

He's not being a gentleman, he's being a pussy. If he had you alone in his living room and made no moves, he's too weak to fuck you.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

that sounds like a cool dude. Seriously, umm. Keep talking to that one.

[JohnDoe3000]

Impossible to say. You'll have to flirt harder or he'll show his hand next time you meet him.

[BoobMan]

Seems pretty strange. How did you meet the guy and what was your previous interaction. I take it this was a date in? What did you wear?

[iamrobot0101]

to be fair id he was being a good gent he wouldn't be trying to get you drunk

[teawrecks]

He wasn't trying to get me drunk. We drank two beers each.

[iamrobot0101]

touche. but thats not something id do unless I had been friends with them for a while because just at first glance it looks sketchy. but yeah it seems like maybe he was a gent then

[jason_waterfall]

That guy has game...
Not making a move is actually a 'move' because now you're thinking about him an it puts him in the drivers seat.

[jason_waterfall]

guess I was wrong... my bad

[Anonymous]

he's probably shy and is uncomfortable with his sexual essence. I guess he was repressing his sexual desire because he is uncomfortable with it.

[maturedlibra]

I dont this guy suits you for dating or sexual moves he seems to be shy little bit and I think ubr looking for some erotic types who initiates first

[maturedlibra]

noted your updating of question and I already write you previously that this guy doesn't suits your personality

[nbbn5]

Vote c but I will not say the bi**h word to you lol

[nbbn5]

And yeah he is a gentleman

[the50wattbulb]

All of the points to him being a gent, but not to whether he likes you. Best bet is to simply ask.

[blondfrog]

That or maybe you're just not used to guys who treat you nicely and with respect.

[Decentguy]

Being a gentleman. or either playing it slow to earn your trust

[cancan73]

he's only got one chair?
are you sure it wasn't a game show?
lmao 😂😂

[Chrizly73]

I think he would like to take it slow, it is something I would do when I'm interested in a girl

[jviriato]

Being a gent and interested but doesn't want to be a creep.
Ask him.

[vicenterr]

I think he was most likely gettimy to know you

[None11am]

Either being a gentleman or being way too slow.

[datgirl]

Maybe he's trying to take it slow...

[StickStickity13]

Shy, with little experience.

[Anonymous]

Was it a date or a friendly meeting?

[Nahid1234]

Eh, idc

[CT_CD]

What's his name?

[Anonymous]

Gentlemen