What makes a man bitter?

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I know not all men are. A majority aren't. But, the ones that are seem full of hatred towards women. I can only speak for myself when I say I don't ask about a mans bank account, what type of a car he drives, etc. If I've asked what line of work he's in, or type of vehicle he drives I'm only making conversation. So guys what happened?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure if this all would be considered bitterness but here it is. Bad experiences can make a man bitter maybe not necessarily towards women in general but towards dating and marriage (though for some guys it is women). Things like divorce, alimoney, a cheating girlfriend/wife, and abusive SO (manipulative, lying, etc), can cause on a man to be bitter. On the flip side these things can cause a man to be extremely cautious and not necessarily bitter.

These guys may tend to avoid marrying just in case and instead of dating just sign up for a string of one night stands. Some of these guys may avoid dating in general and go through life finding companionship and love in other forms.

Rejection is another thing that could cause a guys to be bitter. A guy can work on himself, realize that no woman owes him the time of day and time after time end up rejection after rejection with no dating experience. Thing is this guy could be a perfectly normal and decent guy just with bad luck or maybe he just doesn't interest women. On top of this society is also telling this guy that there's something deeply wrong about him (which he may be wondering what it is while improving himself) but won't say what it is (heck some people will just call this guy and asshole).

This could cause a guy to be bitter towards dating. He doesn't enjoy the rejection and being seen as random things so he just pulls out of dating. He instead finds enjoyment and happiness in other areas of life (while society shames him for not maning up and approaching women). Some of these guys end up in the mgtow group and other don't identify with the group and are just going through life doing their own thing. If a girl happens to show up it might change his mind on dating.

Either way, I support the choice of any man (or woman) to stay single and not date if they aren't finding much enjoyment out of it. This is because if they're bitter and open about their bitterness they're just spreading their toxicity around and nobody should have to put up with it or on the flip side if they aren't bitter and just don't enjoy it they can spend time doing things that they enjoy,

SnapTsch · Accepted Answer

rough past
being taken advantage of, cheated on, dumped for someone else , etc. by women from the past which broke them. emotionally down and the only thing from that point that made them stand on the or own two feet is the animosity towards those who fucked up his life

BrittBratt2416 · Accepted Answer

They assume every woman is low key feminist
They think we want their money so we can leave them broke
Angry that women aren't flinging their vagina's at them
Heartbroken about their ex or girl not liking them back so every woman is to blame
Lack of purpose in life
Lack of God/Jesus in their life

Makeuphoarder · Accepted Answer

not having control of his life. Being an insecure, immature person with low self esteem. Being hurt or betrayed and deserving it but not willing to accept and correct his actions. Not willing to take responsibility for his wrong doings.

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

Usually a lack of success with women. It's easier to claim that it's women's fault for superficial and shitty reasons than it is to accept that maybe they are the problem.

Goodwifie · Accepted Answer

You can't choose how your life pans out but you choose how you handle it.  Don't swallow that little bitter pill.  I chose not to.

EpicDweeb · Answer

Some people are just bitter, both men and women (my mom's cousin and friend from high school both seem to be those sorts of people). Often I think entitlement and jealousy are the biggest factor in bitterness. Often we wish we had the jobs, possessions, or just general lives that others have and we feel bitter that it wasn't our lot in life (often this is the case BECAUSE we are bitter).

If we feel entitled to something, we feel cheated or hurt when we don't get it. We feel lied to when someone tells us the truth... that we aren't entitled to that thing. It makes us angry and we lash out. If we don't choose to move on we become bitter with the world and people stop liking us, so we become more bitter with the world, and the cycle goes on from there.

I try never to let myself feel entitled to things and I make an effort to be content with where I am in life. I've seen the effects those two things have on people. There was a man my mom knew in highschool who was very bitter for a long time. He liked my mom at one point, and to this day he'll call each year on her birthday... he also has a habit of calling after any serious storms to see if my dad is okay... I think he's waiting for my dad to die off so he can make a move on my mom (maybe not any more but that was the impression most people got for many years). More recently he's become a far less bitter man and is actually somewhat pleasant to be around. But the point is, that it tears people apart a little at a time, and if it is allowed to sit and fester it just becomes a cycle in which things get worse and worse.

sineater8 · Answer

A man can become bitter from many different things. In the case of women most men become bitter because of relationships that failed because their partner abandoned them, used them or manipulated them. Their trust in other human beings, especially women is poor because of these experiences, and any behavior that reminds them of that partner or relationship generally bring out a mans bitterness. If you ask him about his material life, job and car, he may have interpreted it as you are materialistic or remind him of his ex whose only interest in him was his money. don’t take it personally guys like this have a hard time forgiving and forgetting

cth96190 · Answer

Being fucked over by women will do it.
Most bitter men do not hate women. Rather, they recognise female nature for what it is and are honest about what they see.
Look at the divorce stastics and how the law and courts have been loaded against men to a degree that is grotesque.
Look at how men are discriminated against in education and employment.
It should not surprise anyone that a significant and increasing number of men refuse to participate in a gender interaction that is gamed against them.
Every day more men go their own way, but that does not equal a hatred of women.

Anon85 · Answer

Generally the reasons are similar to the women that are embittered towards men. Bad experience is a big one, and so is the obsession with the opposite sex supposedly having it better than you.

Feminists today often fall into this trap, and in response to the nonsense of modern-day feminism, certain groups of men have also fallen into it. They both think they have it so hard and the other has it so good, and it deludes them into thinking that every member of the opposite sex is the devil himself.

Unit1 · Answer

Bitter men got screwed over by assholes, who happen to be the female gender. And then based on the gender of the offender they then turn bitter and believe, that everyone from this gender (women) are like the offender. Those men can be typically found in MGTOW.

Others got used for their money and got basically screwed over too by gold diggers and entitled (sometimes hypergamous) females.

Others turn bitter because some assholes, who happen to be females belittled them, called them bad names and have basically hurt them. Bad experiences.

And the lack of sex and lack of success with women also contributes to it.

But mainly it's the gold diggers and the crazy bitches, who turned them bitter.

TadCurious · Answer

Some guys have had bad experiences with women. Maybe they were cheated on, or rejected for dates, etc. Instead of compartmentalizing those experiences in their minds as relating to specific, individual women, they extrapolate their feelings about those specific women to the entire female gender. Which of course is ridiculous, and their bitterness leads in some cases to misogyny and stupid movements like MGTOW.

PoliceLivesMatter · Answer

Insecurity combined with what they see on the media. A good example is other lonely and inexperienced men propagating false information like women riding the carousel while in college, women wanting you only for you money, women being cold and superficial, etc. MGTOW and porn are just a few examples of groups that could be perpetuating false information of WOMEN to MEN. When men these myths, they're led to believe women are not worth it and in turn, become bitter towards them.

Catskills · Answer

It is deep rooted.

Not knowing how to handle certain circumstance that happen that are out of his control. Same can be said for a woman.

But usually what makes him/her bitter is how they were brought up to navigate through problems.

Speaking from experience I was surrounded by negativity growing up even when simple issues occurred. So I grew up being too picky, I had to adjust.

Underduress · Answer

Bitterness training boot camp. Once you have been through it and human nature is exposed in raw form it is difficult if not impossible to put that genie back in the bottle. With age goes naivety, optimism, and life’s bliss…. So there you have it. Bitterness is an acquired taste like the coffee comment herein.

yoitsmebro · Answer

Men want women to like them for their physical form, like men like women for strictly their physical form. When a woman likes a man for superficial stuff like cars or money, the man takes this as she doesn't truly like the guy, she just likes his stuff or money. In turn this makes a man very bitter and angry. Gold diggers man.

Skullcap · Answer

For me it's from having a rough past and lack of communication and social life and from being alone all the time and having barely any friends and being betrayed and alone most of the my life and having gone through a tough time But I can't say for everyone but I personally can only say for myself

Vyxzuw · Answer

Coffee. As guys get older they drink more and more and get more bitter...

PrimevalDead · Answer

Isn't it obvious? They've been burned. Just like the women who bitch about men all the time. People hurt people and make them bitter. It happens every day.

bondobilly · Answer

same thing that happens to women. lying, cheating, stealing, games.

haxx1 · Answer

Bitter men are usually ones who have had every chance for success in life and still failed so they turn to hating and blaming the system and society instead of taking a deep look at themselves

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Crap mother who raised him, crap dead end job that pay pennies, low self esteem, low confidence, drug addict or alcoholic, being divorce, being all alone and being broke.

KaseyRouqe · Answer

Could be the pressure of society for them not to express certain feelings. That may cause them to express bitterness instead.

Orioner · Answer

Countless cases of women destroying men's lives through divorce, unwanted children, false rape accusations, etc

The_Listener · Answer

The root of bitterness is lack of communication between both genders, it's not a one or the other type thing.

Decentguy · Answer

some reasons could be : Been cheated on by a woman before 2. Been lied and betrayed by a gold digger woman before. etc.

macaipeace · Answer

Simple question, simple answer: it's because they feel the world is not as they think it should be.

TMB11 · Answer

Usually bad history, the same thing that makes women bitter toward men

ats934 · Answer

The same reasons some women are bitter against all men.

Kinkyguy82 · Answer

I think some guys get burned by bad dating experiences, I felt that way for a long time, but I learned to not let those things eat away @ me, you can't or it'll tear you apart.

bekkesmash · Answer

That sex and dating is far easier for women yet they still complain.

Aleksandra2330 · Answer

if he has a lot of bas past experiences he would be like that some of them at least

Savager · Answer

The only thing that made me bitter was a controlling woman. Rest all is fine.

daddysir77 · Answer

woman's attitude towards them.  "Behind every great man, is a great wife." woman can make or break a guy.

Anonymous · Answer

Shitty personal experiences, often starting in childhood and a generally pessimistic and angry attitude.

Nahid1234 · Answer

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lacinovav · Answer

broken heart.

smkr2992 · Answer

guys are dumb in general and afraid of rejection.

Blitzkrieger · Answer

Women making you horny and leaving you.

scooogy · Answer

I sometimes drink bitter lemon

peace123 · Answer

everyone is different I'd say

FxckBoy · Answer

Women make men bitter.

Pizzalover101 · Answer

Bad choices you learn from hopefully

Sabretooth · Answer

An unending amount of pain

Razal · Answer

Lack of success make them like this !!

omgjassy · Answer

Loneliness

Eddieniceboy · Answer

maybe a small penis?

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Past!

TonyRyanAgain · Answer

Little wangs.

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