How long is too long to wait for a third date?

I've been talking to this guy for about a month and a half. The first time we went out was about a month ago, and the second time was two weeks from this past Saturday. The first two dates went really well; held hands, massaged each others arms, and both ended with a kiss. There were no awkward moments, it felt really natural. After the second date he said "next time will be longer, I promise." because the first two times didn't last much longer than two hours. We've talked through text since then but just about little things (him asking me how I've been and what I've been up to, etc) but no mention of a third date yet. I'm glad we're taking things slow, I don't want to rush anything and I figure he doesn't want to either because his last relationship ended badly (his girlfriend cheated), but I just feel like the longer I don't hear from him about a date, he may be losing interest? Would that be safe to assume or am I just over analyzing? How long is too long to wait for him to initiate another date?

note: since the second date he's been looking for a job, and just got hired so I'm assuming he's been busy with training, etc. Were both 21, if that makes a difference.

Any advice would be great guys, thanks :)


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  • Why not ask him when you are going to see him again?

  • Sounds like he has a lot going on and he is in no rush to have anything regular with you. If you are okay waiting, then wait. If it doesn't work for you, then you may have to decide if he is the right guy for you to spend time on. Not that you couldn't ask him about it, but you have only been on two dates so letting him know you are disappointed that he isn't putting more energy into seeing you just seems premature.