Would you date an overweight girl/guy if you liked her/his personality?

Would you still date an overweight or fat girl/guy if you like her/his personality? Why or why not? Or looks matter too or looks more important?

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  • I’ve dated some overweight girls because they carry themselves well or know how to highlight their looks effectively which makes the difference.

    I don’t mind it but it really depends if she’s amazing on the personality and makes herself look elegant then I’m sticking with her

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Depends on how overweight. Obese - no. Slightly above normal weight - yes. A little more meat on the belly is pretty comfortable for cuddling :3

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What Guys Said 108

  • I'm amazed at all the people who voted "yes." Attraction is what leads to a relationship. Without it, you ain't going anywhere. It may seem appealing at first if you're lonely and desperate, but years from now? You will regret your decision.

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  • I wouldn't.

    1. I find it physically unnattractive. I don't expect or even want a girl who is runway model thin, but fat is gross to me.

    2. Most women gain weight when they get into a relationship so even if she is somewhat attractive despite being fat, she will probably get a lot fatter within a year or two.

    3. Fat women are hypocrites. They expect thin guys to overlook their weight and give them a chance when they wouldn't do the same for a fat guy.

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  • Depends on how much overweight. A little overweight is not a problem but too much is not healthy.
    Looks and personality both are important. Being too fat and not trying to lose it indicates that she doesn't take care of herself. And it's kinda hard to care for someone who doesn't care about herself.

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  • A woman's age weight or body size doesn't define who she is, its her personality that defines her
    As long as she is of legal age of consent and healthy there is no reason to not take a chance and get to know about her just because she is either younger or older, skinny or BBW

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  • Yes. Depends on how overweight though. Chuby is fine. Thick is fine. Very obese is not.

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    • The reason is 2 fold. 1. Personality matters more. And 2. Im a big dude myself so I feel like that would make me a dick if I said no

  • As long as it’s not hugely overweight sure... like at 5’6 anything under 160lbs is fine.

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  • Depends on how overweight, but then again, right now I am overweight, so I have no room to be a hypocrite. That is why I am on a fitness journey. If I expect my lady to take care of her body, well then it only makes sense to take care of my own.

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  • Yes, we'll be friends but, it depends we might date or not. I'll just tell her that she is my friend, I can get a lot of girls but, I like her. So, if she likes me, she'd have work hard and get back in shape.
    Because, she probably won't accept me as a fat guy if she was fit.

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  • I actually prefer fat women as long as they carry themselves well and seem like they take good care of themselves. I would still date a skinny woman, or a seriously obese woman, if she was really nice and likeable and was into the same stuff I am. Yes looks matter, but I'm not picky about what size of women can look good.

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  • I honestly prefer overweight women. Visually, I find them more attractive and they feel nicer in bed. I know, weird coming from a bodybuilder. I'm 7% bodyfat. Someone needs some cushion somewhere. Skinny girls don't feel as good.

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    • Lowww standards.

    • @Anon-ymous1 ain't that bro. What looks good on a magazine cover and what feels good in bed are 2 different things to me. My standards are high. I won't date a promiscuous woman or a woman with bad credit. Thats where my standards lie.

    • Guess you turned all the lights off then.

  • No, because, at least in my family, obesity can be an indication of a short temper and a lack of self-control. I've seen this trend on "my 600 pound Life" too, so obesity can often come with a bad personality.

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  • I don't mind a little weight. I would actually much rather, because they won't be so high maintenance.

    Knowing that I have imperfections, I am MUCH more likely to approach someone else with other imperfections. :)

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  • I don't mind if she's a little overweight. But if she's morbidly obese than no

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  • I already have once. She was self centered, bad tempered, aggressive with deep down obvious hatred for men, used the crap out of me said I was temporary until something better came along, she found my faults but never saw hers. She kept gaining weight, (which had nothing to do with our breakup) trying to make me jealous all the time for no reason. Been there done that no.

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  • LOL love how women lie about this shit... no women would date such a guy only if he's got the cash... at least i'm glad to seem most men say what they feel

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  • I would but unless I work near her and am forced to interact or she does something interesting it's not likely I would find out enough about her personality to date her regardless of weight I'm Far more likely to approach the more attractive skinny or average girls just by looks.

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  • Yes and I did a few times. Because a person was cool. But I really love skinny or fit girls and those kind of relationship always came in a (sub) conscious scorn for my situation and myself and also some extent of envy and dissatisfaction for this matter, even though a person could be awesome. it's hard. I've found a very broad solution for this dilemma though. it's not ALWAYS a solution but it works often for me.

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  • Attraction has to be there to begin with for anyone. If someone is attractive to someone else, there is a chance of course. Some people are attracted to larger people, aka chubby chasers.

    Long story short, yes, if i find them to still be attractive. I prefer thinner women (my girlfriend is 5ft2 and 100 pounds) and i think she is gorgeous, but i still tell her she needs to gain weight because it is healthier for her.

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  • it depends on whether there is a personality that makes me forget she is overweight. i can still find woman, despite being fat, cute but if they look too overweight its hard to look over.

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  • honestly , no. I don't need a swimsuit model, but at least be a healthy weight.

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  • Fat girls have the highest standards out of any other women. So even if most of us wanted to they would reject us.

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  • Depends how overweight. Overweight can be an indicator of not looking after oneself (and before any haters jump in, I know it's not the only cause of overweight) which is an issue for me.

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  • Absolutely!!! But I hope she maintains/improves her health, so that she's not dying so young. What's the point of being with someone if you aren't going to last?

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  • Nope. I would have no strings attached with her if she was attractive. But not date. Mainly for the simple fact is i have a image to protect. She would need to be stunning looking, for me to want to date.

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  • I've done that before, sometimes its easier than other times to forgive excessive body fat when given someone whose nice to you with similar interests & a significant degree of intelligence.

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  • I feel like you found my question and decided to make a derivative post.

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    • Mate I've never came across your page.
      Get over yourself niggz

    • I was just making an observation. You do not need to be so hostile

  • Depends, there's overweight and there's obese. Overweight maybe, obese unlikely.

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  • "Overweight" does not mean "ugly", so your question is a bit moot. A person can be chubby and attractive at the same time.

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    • Which features we finds attractive is also depending on the person. I've a preference for slim and fit people.

  • Overweight, yes. Obese, no. I don't want a life partner who will have terrible repercussions with her health later in life or even die sooner rather than later.

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  • Yes I would date a girl/ women if they was bigger than whats classed as average.
    But everybody puts pressure into looking good rather than being a good decent person instead.
    As long as I love them for them.
    None of their insecurities matter to me personally.
    But can a girl/ women do the same for guys?
    Doubt it.
    Cause if a guy is considered fat/ ugly happens to stay single without even trying. Like me for example...
    I ain't good enough for no girl/ women cause I don't have the looks/ attributes they go for.
    I have feelings to, I am f**king human after all.
    I ain't even fat or skinny, I'm f**king normal I'd like to think.
    Girls/ women have all the power when it comes to dating guys.
    Guys like me don't even get the time of day.

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    • I have to disagree. I would date a guy for his personality. Looks don't matter. I think it just depends on the girl.

    • Can those who dis-liked my comment, can you at least say why?
      Because this was my genral opinion from my point of view when it comes to dating in genral.
      Would girls/ women date guys who are overweight them selves?
      Cause I constantly get rejected based on 'looks', yet I have probably the best personality compared to some guys.
      But it don't seem fair girls/ women want to be accepted the way they are but can't do the same for guys like me.

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What Girls Said 55

  • Personally, no. If it's a bit of pudge, fine, but full-blown overweight just isn't what I'm into. I need to be physically attracted to the person I'm with.

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  • If i liked his face and still found him attractive sure i would.
    Long as i can see attractiveness in a person it doesn't bother me.

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  • Why are people so dishonest though? Like what do you get out of telling people their weight is just a number and that it doesn't matter, when you in reality would never give an overweight person the time of the day?

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    • I always ask this question lol The world we live in now we have to be extra careful not to offend anyone lest you get a target on your back "just like they do"

  • I naturally am attracted more to skinny guys so for me, I dont see myself being attracted to a overweight person. Also fitness is quite a important part of my life. I value being healthy and fit so I feel like we may not have that common if he is overweight.

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    • Whatever! Yet you expect men to find you attractive no matter what shape you end up in the future.

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    • I have the right to be mad and I'll act as I please!

    • You are 41 and act like a child who cannot get his way. Not everyone will find everyone else attractive. At your age I thought you would know this.

  • If I was attracted to him then sure. But I'm not going to date someone I'm not attracted to just because he's a nice guy.

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  • Yes honestly now i am and at first i wasn't attracted to his looks bc he's a bit chubby and that's not normally what i go for but he wasn't really over weight or fat just his face is chubby but as i started to love him.. I don't how it happen but i suddenly got attracted to everything about him and never want to let him go. ❤

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  • I don't think I could honestly, no matter how great his personality if I was not sexually attracted to him it would not work in the long run. I might try it, but I don't think it would last as I simply do not find that attractive.

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  • being friends & going out, sure.
    date? no. why would i give him hope when it wouldn't work out simple cos my lifestyle?

    but first, define overweight. a little extra is no problem. having a lot extra weight, is.
    like the girl on your pic here, is normal with a bit of extra by me

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  • Dating a guy that's overweight is fine, just not my preference? Nothing to do with the extra weight, I just don't want to experience a sick partner due to any number of illnesses. A dad-bod is fine with me

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  • For me political views come first and foremost. Find someone that is mature, logical and open to debate if you do not share political views. I am a newlywed and the most important deciding factor for husband material for me was politics. After that personality (encompasses his interactions with others including family), looks (encompasses what our future children would look like with our combined visible genetics).

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  • I would date a chubby guy but overweight? Depends. I wouldn't date an obese guy. But if he is slightly overweight, then sure.

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  • I like chubby guys/dad bods. Means my man likes to eat! And I'd love to cook for him and hang out and eat with him.

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  • I did.
    N I didn't care about how fat he is.
    Never even discussed it with him.
    However he shed weight so that he could look good with me cz I was on the slimmer side.
    Adore him <3

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  • im personally not attracted to overweight men or women b/c im bisexual , but you can have a little fat on you & i wouldn't mind.. a little teddy bear is so cute lol

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  • I think it comes down to if you find them physically attractive as well cause you cannot have a relationship if there isn't that kind of attraction

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  • But that girl isn't ugly. Nor does she look that big. Yes a bit overweight but not obese.

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    • Chill out mate. I didn't put that pic up. GAG did.

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    • Overweight girl
      And vice versa

    • Well yeah if the person was attractive had nice style and was a good person and i was single then yes I would.

  • Slightly overweight/ chubby is okay. But it isn't something I typically go for. I find myself more attracted to tall skinny guys for some unknown reason. Just something I noticed over the years.

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  • weight doesn't always have to do with everything. People always think that because your chubby or someone is fat they can't get a man or a lul lady. Weight does not define a person for heaven sake.

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  • Maybe overweight, but I don't think I could date a fat guy. I tried since he was a nice guy and had a good personality, but I couldn't get physically attracted to him.

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  • No, i'm personally fit and I do look out for someone who is also fit.
    When I meet someone who is overweight, I see the person either as a friend or nothing. Depending on their personality

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    • but... exercise can change the body structure... unless he isn't suffering from any disease!!! @melanieeeB

    • Yeah sure, the person could start exercise, but he will probably never keep up with me

  • I want someone that puts the same interest into their health as i do. If you dont care to lose weight when you know you need to then i can't like you. Health is important.

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  • i feel like im overweight so i shouldn't complain about overweight guys

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  • Absolutely. Personality carries more weight than a perfect body might.

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  • If I am attracted to someone, the connection overides physical attributes

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  • I have already done so plenty of times. And they were the sweetest and most protective people I ever knew.

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  • Well... come on, the girl in your pic isn't overweight. She has tits and untrained arms at best.

    Show a middle body pic if you want a true answer. My answer is yes, though only to a certain degree. I've dated a bigger guy around 200 something with submuscular fat and some above muscle fat. We was able to run and be active enough so it worked.

    He did carry a hanky for sweat on hikes. Overweight yes but obese would be harder because of life constraints. You can't have a normal life and be obese.

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    • Mate.. i didn't put this picture!
      GAG administrators did.
      I shouldve uploaded pictures on my own. Ughhhh

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    • @Anon-ymous1 she has overly drawn pout lips, bobs and an arm that at this angle I can't tell if it is muscle or what.

      Hip to waist ratio decides attractiveness and healthiness. Fat ratio decides who's overweight. This pic doesn't say much other than she isn't a stick. Her face isn't fat.

      I really can't say without seeing her middle body.

    • @sjoes006
      Good point, we would need to see all of her to get a better idea of the whole picture, but what I see here is definitely on the verge of overweight.

  • Mmm... yes. But I have to like love his personality.

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  • looks doesn't matter specially their weight. some over weight people have beautiful eyes, hair , etc. and the personality is the most important.

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  • maybe im a horrible person but no... i really wouldn't

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  • Sure. I've been attracted to overweight guys before.

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