Would you date someone with depression?

Question

What it sounds like. I know that depression isn't a light topic that you touch when first meeting someone like "hi I have depression" but if you got to know that your significant other had depression. Would you stay or would you leave?

lumos · Accepted Answer

I'd stay for as long as I could. Meaning, if it starts affecting my own mental health to the point where I'm getting dragged down with them, I would leave. Considering that I've had depression myself and I've had friends suffering from it, I know what it's like. But I also know how it can affect the people around you depending on the severity of it.
I just wouldn't be able to put myself in a situation where someone else is causing me constant pain through their own mental health issues. I'm willing to support my partner, but I'm not willing to let them use me as a trash can for all their painful and harmful feelings.

NatyDLM · Accepted Answer

Well, I have suffered depression myself in the past and I never told anyone, I kept it to myself, depression it's really hard, so, I wouldn't leave, I would do my best to help that person to feel good and remind him how amazing they are.

PrincessPie · Accepted Answer

Yes, as long as they didn't try bring me down because of it. I have suffered from depression before so i can relate to it, and its pretty common.

KnismoShade · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't leave or even turn away someone with depression. I would help them any way that I could because I have a heart and I love helping those less fortunate. It's part of who and what I am. Depression can do truly terrible things to people and even make them feel less than human. I don't want to tell them, sorry but, I have too much on my plate right now. You'll just have to go see a doctor. "No! Not me." I want to help. If I can, I want to make it better or at least a little easier to deal with.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Depression, anhedonia, dysthymia are all common among high IQ people and the girls I date are all high IQ, so it is a common experience for me. Every partner has weaknesses; in a relationship, you simply try to help each other with those weaknesses.

ChronicThinker · Answer

Not if it was severe. I have my own problems and I’m not a psychiatrist.

sunworker408 · Answer

Meeting someone who made it a point to mention, may want to let that one go!! If its someone you have been with, and its developed... I think staying is the prudent thing to do. If you have been monogamous with them, and were heading to the big day sometime in the future, my opinion is that you stay with them... you know that whole better or worse thing. The piece of paper will not change, or at least should not change your mind. Practice without the piece of paper, it may just provide the incentive for them to get over their depressuon.

Pyrofox · Answer

It really depends on if just being yourself is enough to drag them out of the depression hole they are in. As thats where I am with my relationship. We had a 2 year time break and now were back together and passion is higher than ever and both our cases of depression have all but dissolved.

So I can emphasize enough it really depends how mutal the two are.

cookie292 · Answer

I am very submissive, and all my girlfriend had depression. But, I feel the need to fix it. Because, beneath the depression us usually a nice person. So I would try to cheer them up, and try to fix it, even tho it may be impossible. And it is not like a depressed person can't love. Give love, receive love, I believe

vincjh · Answer

It's a big deal to ask of someone because of everything she is going through. As a guy, it depends on what her depression is. There are different levels and kinds of depression. If I do genuinely like the girl and can tell that she sees me as an exit from her depression, then sure I would date her or at least help her.

SlavicAmericanGuy · Answer

Hm... It depends. I know the society are a but cruel to people with depression. I could date a depressive girl as long as she is willing to fix targets in her life and work up to overcome her condition. I think people who suffer from anxiety issues are more hard to cope than the depressive ones.

mjs92 · Answer

Depression is only a state. It's not a disease. I mean, if you are cool and have a good personality and someone starts to attract feelings. Why not date them. Especially if that person pulls out of it.

SinghSong · Answer

Since I've also been struggling with serious depression for most of my life, of course I would. That mutual support can make all the difference, and be the key to breaking out of that cycle of depression.

Nivinxus · Answer

No, wouldn't date them, would help them, but not date them. I want them to be able to stand up for themselves, not rely on me. Only when I'm confident that they can break out of that depression is when I might consider dating them.

BV1111 · Answer

Everyone struggles with some degree of depression or anxiety. The issue for me would be severity, such as suicidal attempts vs thoughts of hopelessness. I used to date someone that had gone through trauma as a child and had depression. It was a very tough because I wanted to be the Savior but was not able to be of much help.

beansiie · Answer

it's a really difficult question. depression is a mental illness and i've found it is difficult. if you cannot emotionally support someone at their worst then it's really not worth it.

coolbreeze · Answer

I don't judge girls. I knew girl's personally who was battling depression. I would date a girl who has depression.

Prima_Dana · Answer

I tried and it didn't work out... so most likely not. He just had so many issues and I couldn't deal with all that. However, not all people with depression are the same and severity varies.

ouroborosidiot · Answer

Depends on if she's actually using that as an excuse for crappy behaviour or learning from mistakes and is at least trying to not make those mistakes.

Streamhopper · Answer

I am dating someone with depression. It's very difficult. She's a great girl, and it's why I'll stay with her.

Carley99 · Answer

Since I had it I would but it depends on how bad it his depression is.

amel23 · Answer

I m already fucked if I date someone with depression its gonna get really bad

jawadazg · Answer

I'll definitely stay because in my head she need help but if I see that me being her doesn't matter then I'll leave

Anonymus2017 · Answer

Yes, then I could compare my depression with their depression. There's just something about sharing mutual hatred over mutual interests that is more bonding.

warsevf · Answer

Hell no not when they are in depression. If they are always in that mood fine ill give it a try. As a depressed guy i know how desperate it can be

Nerdking · Answer

Ofc, i love making other people happy. I mean come on if i have to turn ssj3 in the middle of the super market so be it lol

Decentguy · Answer

as a person who is suffering from depression since more than 13 years. i would

El_Prez · Answer

I'll stay. Why? I'm a happy go lucky type person so I'm sure I'll make the person feel better.

Naughty_Poppins · Answer

Not into dating but I won't mind having sex with someone in depression.

Stamps · Answer

Aren't you in a relationship to feel happier? Being around someone with depression doesn't really make you happy, does it?

Flatlinz · Answer

Yes i would it feels good to put some shine in peoples life

LegateLanius · Answer

I would stay and help her get better but if she refused help, then i would leave

welshStu35 · Answer

Yes of course I would date someone with depression. That's really the only answer I can give

tinku2911 · Answer

Yes of course. Wil be happy if i could take her out of depression

elijah_zane · Answer

Yes I've been through it and sometimes having someone there is the best way to pull them out

Anonymous · Answer

Strong, interesting characters are the result of tough times in life

crazy_one01 · Answer

My SO is battling depression. And I've stayed.

JosyJosy · Answer

You tell me. My head would scream NO

gobsmacked3 · Answer

if i liked them, sure

JCT666 · Answer

No..

Iamaguy4real · Answer

I would.

cupidkisses · Answer

Yeah l would

Aguamarina · Answer

Yeah.

Tohru · Answer

Yeah

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