Why is my boyfriend nicer to friends than me?

[Calixx]

When first meeting my friends (or after knowing them for a while) he is. A lot kinder to them. He is more considerate of them than me. He places their needs/wants above mine, and often does things at my expense for them. (He does this for both guys and girls). This frustrates me. The other day my friend was cold, and he offered her his jacket - he’s never offered me his. He also pays for their drinks when we go out (lets them have a few sips if they’re under age - but not me). If they’re waiting for us, he’ll leave me behind and run to them. He’ll be more likely to take photos with them, or being on their social media or just be more involved with them than me. This really hurts my feelings.

Yes i have mentioned I️t to him. He says he doesn’t know what i am talking about. That he is just being nice to them and he isn’t being mean to me.

[coolbreeze]

That is not cool. He needs to act more better and treat you more better then your friend's. Maybe he does it to fit in with them and not feel left out. His ignorant behavior makes you feel left out. I'm glad you told him and brought it to his attention. You told him it is not to many choices. You can either deal with it, keep getting on him about it and hopefully he changes. Last resort would be a break up which I wouldn't want to see. But if you can find a better guy could be a last option if his behavior really bugs you and never changes.

[Calixx]

I just feel really hurt. Like, the way he is with my friends is so different how he is with me. With me, he is more reserved (especially in front of friends). A lot of them have said to me “I’m surprised he’s your boyfriend. Seems you are more into him than he is you”. This is because he REFUSES to be affectionate towards me in public. And I️t embarrasses me. I️t makes me feel ugly and unwanted. I️ have even mentioned this to him. He’s told me “I️ just worry about making other people uncomfortable”. WELL, what about me? I️ hate how he tries to please everyone and puts on this different act around them. I️ don’t get I️t. I️ know we act differently around different people... but not like this? I️ just hate how he seems to really enjoy everyone else’s company, but for me, he doesn’t seem to enjoy me being there or something and I️t hurts.

[coolbreeze]

It sucks. If I was in your position I would feel hurt to. Some guy's get uncomfortable with public displays of affection. But even if he is he should be trying to hold your hand at least. True we do act differently around different groups of people and since he is doing that he needs to satisfy your needs more and make you happy. It's good you notice the difference he treats you and your friend's. I hope he changes and improves his behavior. It is not right that you have to go through that and put up with stuff.

[smrthomson]

What i think his he is influenced by people and others for eg. If majorty people say one thing and one or two says the other
He will stink with majority. He won't use his brain or listen to his feelings.. He will listen to people whar they say..
I thinkk, you r better of break up with him befprw your relation isn't gonna last long
Break up with him before you are.. Hurt more?😁😁
Capishh😁

[Kilapan]

After reading all your questions it is clear to me that he maintains his selfish attitude towards you, I think you should break with him, it is not a healthy relationship.