Should I be concerned if my boyfriend is hanging out with a girl alone? (Page 2)
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Hmm maybe if he’s 100% honest and open then you have nothing to fear, but if you’re getting a weird feeling, that means something is off. It could be that you don’t think he’s being open or I don't know maybe you could ask to hang out with both of them so you can feel better about the thing. He should be able to respect that.
Maybe get to know this girl. Hang out with them if he ever invites you or has he? To kind of get an idea what those two are like. Especially that girl. ! Honestly I wouldn’t feel comfortable about it at all. I know my boyfriend would feel the same way if I was hanging out alone with a guy.
How would he feel if you were hanging out with another guy alone? If you are in a relationship and committed to each other, hanging out shouldn't be done "alone" just out of respect. If both of you were hanging out with the female "friend" that's okay.
Why does he need to have any female friends? Most guys aren't going to be friends with a female unless he wants to sleep with her. Guaranteed one of them wants to have sex with the other. I'd be alarmed if I were you. They've probably already done stuff honestly, especially if he's hanging out with her more often. You have every right to be "that girl that doesn't allow her boyfriend to have female friends" because guys aren't ever "just friends" with a girl.
well i dont know if they would have done stuff... that is assuming too much, especially since he was the one that told her about the friend. was honest. that is always a good sign.
just be careful and watch out for how much time he may spend with her. if he starts talking to her more than to you, then that is bad.
by the way you may want to ask him a bit more about her and their friendship. just to ease your worries.
well, i dunno, I've never been n that situation but if he has invited you then maybe she is just a good friend but all i can say is that, i wudnt be happy if my girl met a fella alone, id get jealous and ask and cause truble, lol.
You shud meet up together, see how it goes.
Relationships are built on trust, and the trust should go both ways. You can't get the most out. if this unless you can truly say that your boyfriend would never betray you like that, it reflects poorly on the way you think of him in the end.
Maybe, more details. How long have you and he been together?
How/why are they hanging out alone? What are they doing together? Do they work together or are they making specific plans just to hang out with each other. How often are they getting together?
Depends on the circumtance, if I was to give some advice... ask him about it (calmly) and talk through your concerns.
It is rare to find a guy and a girl hanging out without at least some level of attraction. You gotta ask yourself is this gonna drive you mental and if so try and hang out with then both. He's honest enough to tell you so I don't see why you can't become friends with her. Maybe meeting her might put your mind at rest.
It's how i lost my first girlfriend. I was terribly jealous. If you really trust him, tell him you trust him. And trust requires space, so he can do whatever he wants. But if he knows you trust him, and at any moment breaks that trust: forgive him, and then leave him for good. No second chance
I have mostly male friends, and those that aren't in relationships themselves mostly treat and view me as a motherly figure to them. Those that are in relationships treat me like a sister, or exactly as a platonic friend should.
If anyone ever expresses any interest in me, and I don't feel the same way, I end the friendship.
Men and women CAN be just friends, as long as neither of them has romantic feelings, or if they're gay (obviously).
It isn't okay for a man in a relationship to be alone with another woman. I'm a guy, and this throws out all kinds of red flags.
Guys can obviously have female friends, but this is super shady.
Honestly the best thing is to keep an open dialog with him so he doesn't ever have to hide anything. You can't stop someone from cheating if they want to cheat.
Honestly I think its just a friendship don't worry he's loyal
Fact: All men are attracted to their cute platonic female friends to some degree given enough time. Whether they act on it or not is another thing. I wouldn't be alarmed... yet.
If you trust your boyfriend then there shouldn’t be an issue?
My boyfriend had a female roommate for about a month and I didn’t give a shit.
... My boyfriend...
I don't see Why this Guy should be Hanging with another Here, dear, so Yes... Fear.
... Hanging with her more often. Too close for my own Comfort and Could lead to him Giving you the Boot. xx
That’s tough because typically men and women are not “just friends” although platonic relationships do exist. It’s understandable why you would worry. Ultimately though, you have to trust your partner unless they give you reason not to and he’s not hiding anything here. You also will seem overbearing and sabotage your relationship if you try to keep him from an established friendship. Keep your eyes open for red flags but don’t make an issue of the situation unless it’s warranted.
My best friend's boyfriend came to a party at my house with his girlfriend and slept with me while she was in the other room, while we were mega drunk. tbh he's a great guy, but sometimes guys don't have the best judgement. Keep an eye on him, but don't freak out.
Not all guys are like that tho. A guy knows how to stay out of trouble if he really wants to.
I have to say he should be introducing you to her as his girlfriend in a casual social setting where you can all meet so everyone knows what the deal is. I'd push for that and I definitely don't think there's anything wrong with it either. It's nice that you're so supportive of him but your instincts are kicking in for a reason. Trust yourself. You seem sensible enough.
It depends who she is and the kind of relationship they have. Depends if they've been friends or known each other since before you. If that's the case, yeah I dunno. I mean he's allowed to do what he wants, but I can understand where you're coming from too. Is she hot at all?
Only you can answer that question for yourself. Since you started by saying you trust him, and continued with he still spends most of his time with you, I'd say you have nothing to worry about.