Guys, is a significant age gap a deal breaker for you?

Question

How old are you and how young or old would you be willing to date?

Hal2002 · Accepted Answer

Physical age is not really a problem for me, age is just a number. It is the emotional and mental maturity, of a person that is important. I know a few people in my age range that are not emotionally or mentally where they should be at this age, and I know a few people high school to college age that are emotionally and mentally more mature than their peers.

Having said that, I am 54 and would prefer to date someone between 45 and 60. I have found that this age range for myself, just works out better as we are within the same generational culture.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm 45, and no, a big age gap is not a dealbreaker. I would go as low as 20 and as high as 65, but no matter what her age she has to meet my usual criteria for dating, so that means not just any 20, 45, or 65 year old woman is a potential date.

I've never date a woman over 39, though, so maybe I'd revise that 65 if indeed did date a much older woman.

annjan · Accepted Answer

Used to have a rule not to date anyone older than my sister because I didn't want it to be weird. Well she dates younger people so we both are screwed.. but I don't think I would cross 15 years, but then again I crossed my 5 year rule, then my 8 year rule so yeah.. soo age doesn't matter that much ish, but it is more important that the people click together than age. But dating an older man/woman also brings up the question of marriage, children, work, moving in together etc...

fay23 · Accepted Answer

It depends on how significant, since I'm a lot younger I noticed that I get hit on by older men its usually because of a power thing ( they mad aggressive) not saying all older guys who date young women do that but it's something that I watch at for. Even tho I am legal I'm still immature and have less experience than someone far older.

DANGO88 · Accepted Answer

My husband used to be 17 years older than me. We ended up breaking up. It wasn't a big deal until I was 28-29. But it was later. He had gone though so many things I had not lived yet and I felt that was very selfish with myself. Huge age gaps become a deal sooner or later

ChronicThinker · Accepted Answer

For most guys, what matters if you're legal, and not dusty.

Pinay_ako · Answer

anyone older than 20 years old is fine by me

Bjorn526 · Answer

Ironically it was a much bigger deal when I was younger. For example, a Senior in High School, I wouldn’t date a Freshman for example, even when I was 24 I wouldn’t go into the teens anymore but now that I e gotten older, both older women have shown me how immature they can be and younger girls have shown me how mature they can be, so I’ve made a rule to never approach someone because of age, just worry about that later. My range has been 19-51

EpicDweeb · Answer

18 I'd probably be willing to date a woman 10 or more years older than me. That age would probably get larger as I grew older. At a certain point you're both just equal adults and age no longer matters. But until it's a matter of equal adults I think age can matter very much.

hahahmm · Answer

I’m 44. I would not go younger than early 30s.

It’s not necessarily the ‘gap’ but younger people tend to be less certain about what they want and I don’t want to be an experiment. Plus I find older women more attractive looking anyhow (when I was your age I found women my own age attractive too tho).

sonnypie · Answer

Age doesn't really matter, but I really want someone who can challenge me intellectualy and maturely, so I tend to be drawn towards older women unless a younger woman proves that she is mature and intellectual. I've realized its more about the person than the age, and I really should stop to "care". But just can't help it.

John_W · Answer

Im 32 and recently divorced from the woman I started dating at 17. I asked myself the question of "what age gap makes the most successful marriages" and the answer was shocking. The most successful marriage age gap is the man being 12-15 years older. So my answer is I would be willing to date anyone legally able to drink.

KuroUsagi · Answer

It really depends on the maturity of parties involved and taking into account the kind people they are. It’s easy to say an age gap is a bad thing if it’s plain to see one party is clearly taking advantage of the other. In most cases it will get you snide remarks or strange reactions from onlookers but so long as you’re okay with dealing with that it’s fine.

Vincemeister · Answer

I'm pursuing a girl 13.5 years younger than I am. It would be the largest age gap I've had; but, she's stable, responsible, good head on her shoulder. Much more together than my ex, who is about to turn 30... even that is an 8 year difference. I prefer younger women, but once I had a fling with a woman 10 years older.

Anpu23 · Answer

The biggest age gap I've deted was 13 years. I was 33 she was 20. We had a lot of fun and are still friends to this day. But the issue of children killed the relationship, I already had a 13 year old daughter and didn't want any more. Ahe wanted a baby. She now has a lovely child and a loving husband, and we go to coffee occasionally.

studDMuffF1n · Answer

Fuck no! I have no age limitation if that body looks right. I swear there's this 45 year maybe 50 years old at the gym and she is a fucking goddess the bitches body is amazing ( not muscly) putting most younger women to shame. I wouldn't even care at a family event for a women of that caliber. Shit my family would agree.

ryancg · Answer

I don't know that I have a clearly defined age gap that I'd consider a dealbreaker. Obviously, I wouldn't go lower than 18, but I probably wouldn't even go much lower than my own age. I actually typically prefer older women, and I've never given how much older any real thought.

mhmdjoudi · Answer

I wouldn't date a girl older than me, either younger or same age.. yet not too younger. For a simple reason than girls are more mature than men plus the a girl has a certain age to stop reproduction whereas generally a guy could ejaculate at an old age.

Handsome_cowboy · Answer

I prefer to be older. But if she's older by no more than a year.. eh. Ok. But i also prefer to be around 2 years older. But a lot of it just depends on their ages. For example. A 20 year old with a 16 year old isn't right. But a 24 year old with a 20 year old is doable. I knew a couple one time that the wife was 10 years older than he. Circumstances just depend. Dont wanna be a pedaphile. Or a cougar either.

Greengoddess · Answer

My husband is 8 years older than me. I'm almost 29. I think he's about max the age I would ever be with. But I see nothing wrong with a 10 year age difference. Any more than that is a little strange to me.

intothenight13 · Answer

As long as I won't go to jail I'm good. I personally am more attracted to younger women than my own age or older. I like to hang out and go to live music in bars etc. The older women get the less they are interested in doing the things I want to do.

lumos · Answer

My boyfriend is 29 and I’m 23, it bothered him a tiny bit before but now he has gotten over it. Don’t think he’d go for anyone younger than me, though. Some people are cool with age gaps, others aren’t.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not at all if I met a girl that was 20 years old and she had a great personality and we connected well her age wouldn't bother me. to much same of the girl was older then me , but if she wasn't legal age then yes that wouldn't even be a thought

Appless · Answer

Well considering that i’m 15, the oldest i’d date would be 17 and not any younger (I see myself as quite mature and most boys under the age of 15 are completely the opposite). If i was older- let’s say 18- i would probably date up to 5 years older.

10dsw · Answer

I'm almost 27 and prefer women around 18-22. When I reach 35 I'll probably raise that cap to about 25.

There's lots of women online who are 18-23 who put their age restriction at ~28-37 male for the record. So calm your tits :)

alaskafrog · Answer

People finish maturing by 25. I'd not want to be with a girl much younger. I'm not down for being the guinea pig that she works out her immaturities on.

Pink1996 · Answer

Not much of a deal breaker for most people. I would date 10 years older, and im not into younger guys but im open to 2-3 years younger. My boyfriend is 6 years older than me and we're fine.

Moonchild714 · Answer

I'm 46 and my last three relationships were 21-25, that's something that just started in my mid forties. I will date up to twenty years older. so 21-67

jamesmark1903 · Answer

Yep. I won’t be comfortable dating someone younger than 18 and older than 26. I’m 22 by the way. As long as some is 2-3 years older or younger than me, then it’s fine.

Wraithguy · Answer

I wouldn't date anyone younger than 25 and no older than 38. Too young and we dont have much to relate too. Too old and we might bash heads or be out of sync.

Fran1981 · Answer

I'm 36, around +/- 10 years would be fine for me, she just has to be mature, a mind that's too young is not for me, apart from it the age difference doesn't bother me.

ThePragmaticRomantic · Answer

+ or -5 years is the absolute most I'll go. But I figure the appropriate gap increases as you age. At the moment every relationship age gap I've had has been under 2 years.

Chaz269 · Answer

Age is almost meaningless to me as long as we have mutual attraction, respect, and interests. I dated an 18-year old girl when I was 40, and I spend the bulk of my free time with a 60-year old woman at present.

Fourth · Answer

I'm 21 and would prefer to date someone 19-23 with the closer to my age the better. I would definitely be willing to go outside of this range for the right girl though

theharlequin · Answer

No, not for me. I don't date women older than myself, but that's not an age gap thing. I'm 40, willing to date 18-38.

Bangeran · Answer

For a date, i would go with more than 5 years difference for the moment. But for sex, 18 to 65, i don't care. I just want them to be fuckable lol.

SarahsSummer · Answer

I think when you take 1/2 the older persons age and add 7 you get to the reasonable age gap. My guy is 41

Nico63 · Answer

I won’t go with anyone my own age or younger. I am into the older guy. Oldest I’ve been with has even 25 years older than me x

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 23 and I would sleep with a girl as young as 17 (legal age is 16 where I live, so relax), but I wouldn't date any lower than 19 or 20. Too immature for me. MAYBE 18 if the girl is out of high school and really mature for her age, but I doubt it.

WalterRadio · Answer

I am closer to 50 than to 40 and my girlfriend is 21.  The average age of women I have dated is 23, and that hasn't changed since I was 25 myself.

eagle124 · Answer

When I was 50 you I married a lady that was 17years younger than I... never had problems except from women of my age that treated her terrible.
We had a wonderful relationship very sensual and passionate too.
All until a tragedy happened...

Orangeblossom92 · Answer

I won't date someone younger than i am by more than two years , and 7 years is the maximum gap between me and a potential older boyfriend

BrianG423 · Answer

I think the half your age +7 ((age÷2)+7) is a pretty good idea for youngness, and reverse that for oldeness so ((age-7) x2)

askmegirlagain · Answer

Its more about how you gel on most of the situations and understanding like conflict, romance, sex, work pressure

idiotmanchild · Answer

Right now, yes. I probably wouldn't date someone right out of high school right now nor do I have the maturity to date someone in their late 30s to 40s...

Onlythisone · Answer

Guys want to go as young as they are allowed to, thank Goodness for legal age limits.

shortiemcblonde · Answer

For me it is. Not really looking for anything past 5 years

glossybabe · Answer

I’m 19 and wanna marry Jake Gyllenhaal who is 37 so nah I don’t give a fuck about no damn age gap lol

Anonymous · Answer

I dated at guy 13 years older than me. It didn’t end nicely. He was abusive and controlling.  Over 2 years ago it ended and he still occasionally tries to contact me. It freaks me out

Wollu · Answer

57, -20 to -10 Years. Else I’d rather stay single. Can’t imagine to fuck a woman that looks like a man.

JM1987 · Answer

I'm 30. For a serious relationship, 24-35. For casual, 21- maybe up to 50.

bente2 · Answer

I don’t mind it. Would date up to 40 if I’m 20+, currently only date up to 25.

Guardian412 · Answer

No, not at all. I'm 37. My previous crush was 25, my ex was 27 and my present date is also 25. Not a deal breaker at all.

Ripper_E · Answer

I'm 27, almost. The youngest would be 18 and the oldest would probably be 40's or so. Not really sure.

19magic · Answer

I don't want to date more than 8 years older than me tbh and a year or so younger

OrangeSodaPop · Answer

The love of my life is 23 years older than me. I'm very happy with it,

SirRexington · Answer

6 years difference is my max. 4 years apart is where it starts to get questionable for me but I can still be comfortable.

taleswapper · Answer

I'm 55. In terms of dating (as opposed to just FWBs), 40-65 is about my range. younger just strike me as kids, and older are too fragile...

Anonymous · Answer

yes. i'm semi involved with a girl I've had a crush on forever. i'm 27 she's 36. I didn't expect the age to get to me, but it is and i can't ignore it. I'm breaking it off soon.

soomin_kim · Answer

I would date a man only 5 years older than me , my SO is 4 years older than me

Markella88 · Answer

Not really nor is if there age if you click then it should work.

gavacho2014 · Answer

I would not date a woman that is more than 5 years older or 10 years younger.

neesa · Answer

I'm 21 and I'd date someone who's a year younger or a year older

HopelessPaul · Answer

The older you both are, the less it matters. I think age gap is a deal only when some of you is <20

Harsh_5299 · Answer

As long as the girl is above legal age in the country I'm in and is below 35 (Science tells that women above 35 create retarded kids)

adamski24 · Answer

No it isn't it's ours and their private life and has sod all to do with anyone else.   I have always dated and profered younger girls even when at school I always played with the younger girls.

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