It's part of what we as women have allowed to become what we find attractive. It's really a mindset, I too think that I have the same problem as you. It's really what as a society we've been taught to expect and to like. Why do you think that bad boy books and movies are so popular? It's what we've been influenced to believe by so many people. It's also a problem that we as women have, we want it all. A bad boy with a great body, a heart of gold who's secretly a genius. When we think we found that we'll try our best to keep it. We'll blame ourselves, blame our family, blame our friends, anyone that's not him, because it can't possibly be his fault. Since we find so many apparently good things about him we try to find excuses for the not-so-good ones. It's really a self-destructive behavior, but we just can't help ourselves. Because we want the fairytale, and we want to be the one who changes the bad boy. We want the perfect love story, but there isn't such a thing. As long as we're looking for the perfect Prince Charming, we're going to keep up with this self-destructive behavior. Hope you can break out of the cycle, best of luck!
Maybe because you have low self-esteem, lack self-belief and have little self- respect. Anyone who knows their own worth, and has self-respect would never tolerate being mistreated by anyone. Hopefully as your personal growth develops , you'll become mentally and emotionally mature enough to stop falling for assholes
He is a hustler, he's no good at all
He is a loser, he's a bum, bum, bum, bum
He lies, he bluffs, he's unreliable
He is a sucker with a gun, gun, gun, gun
I know you told me I should stay away
I know you said he's just a dog astray
He is a bad boy with a tainted heart
And even I know this ain't smart
But mama I'm in love with a criminal
And this type of love isn't rational, it's physical
Mama please don't cry, I will be alright
All reason aside I just can't deny, love the guy
abusive famlily background would be my bet, but i would still recommend you to look for therapy, if thats bothering you. sometimes this can be a symptom of neglect issues during the person's upbring, but that's all bollocks until a professional has been checked with.
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There's a saying: "We accept the love we think we deserve". Maybe that's why some immediately become disinterested and a little creeped when someone "treats us right". They begin having doubts if the person is sincere or even real because we don't see ourselves worthy enough (or you're simply not interested kek). Maybe you haven't come to terms with yourself that you're someone that's worth being treated like an equal. But maybe you're just a big M haha. I don't know your life story but keep that saying in mind :)
Some guys seem to be shaming you for your preferences in the comments.
But honestly, I feel the same about women. Some women can do a lot for me, but I am still not attracted to them. And some women can barely notice me, but I want them so badly.
Humans are attracted to WHAT WORKED for their ancestors. Kindness is great, but being nice to everyone (regardless of how they treat you) was and is probably not a very effective way to live.
You probably find yourself attracted to so-called "bad boys", because they are good-looking, dare to break the rules of society, are assertive, etc. On some gut level, you know they might go further in life than the nice guy who always follows the rules.
To me it sounds like you don’t love yourself enough or as much as you love others, so maybe you try to find validation and self worth in guys who you will have to break your back for just so they’ll feel the same even tho they won’t. But what the hell do I know 😂😂😂
People tend to want the apple thats almost impossible to catch. On the top. The best ones for them. Some settle for an ordinary one who is easier to catch but others obsess over stuff like this.
To be clear the problem is your lack of self love. The moment the bad distant guy fall for you and treat you right you will lose interest. Maybe you dont see why a man could want you so it must be something wrong with him. If he ignores you then he has got to be worthy it.
Maybe Im wrong. But my opinion comes from personal experience. Sorry if I said something bad.
You like being a victim so you can get sympathy from your friends about how the guys you meet are arseholes. You enjoy the attention it gives you as then your friends will care more about you. And you like chasing those guys because you know they have options so aren't weak guys who'll bore you to death with constant compliments that you get for free rather than earning through merit.
Then guys wonder why some woman are feminist. Sweetie you are super woman and you are worth more then that. Man are fucking jerks and think they can step on woman. Times have change we are no longer in the 1900's. We are super woman and we got power! Cheer up you don't need trashy man because you rule and you are a 👑 queen.
Its all about the drive they give you, sometimes those guys who treat girls poorly, gives us motivation to be challenged. They are guys who make you think and do crazy
While the other way around, even we like to be treated great, i think its just that we are exerting effort, and its defleating our energy. I mean in that side, we are the one thinking, of ruling out. Its not healthy to take the lead always
Been there, done that. Maybe your home life isn't all that nice either. Maybe you don't have much self-esteem and when someone tells you how wonderful you are, you think they must be lying or they just aren't all that smart.
Believe the people who tell you good things and treat you well. You are a lovely person and deserve to be loved.
Lack of self love. from experience I have in college. I don't date any guys in college since it pointless. most of guys in college only want to hock a woman to there selfless need and they only do it for attention. players are broken. Younger woman want to tame that bad guy but that not how real life work. treat it like a game you have to win to move on.
You have low self esteem like me.
Take a break from relationships and try to build your self esteem.
Take my word for it sis. Or you'll end up like me.
don't worry. you will change when you learn your lesson
Since you're under 18 I'll give u the benefit of doubt that you're just finding yourself still and you think that certain guys are so coool, it night change as u get older but that's pretty typical of most women to feel this way lol
It's because you want to feel like you have to work to be a part of someone's life. You're a dog chasing a car. You get bored once you have the car.
well , you might be falling into a trap called "striving hard for excellence". Sometimes, it may improve if you work harder on problems like fixing the toliet. love will be very different than the mecahnical structure of a toliet.
As for why, love is a bilateral or passive operation, while you will always be proactive in the front of a toliet
cause it makes you feel like you need to fix something... which gives you satisfaction if you make it better and if you don't... it keeps you busy working on it...
a perfect relationship means you have nothing to work on... you just exist together
You're a typical teenage girl.
You prefer the BAD BOYS for some random reason.
It's just a phase that will take a LONG time to pass. Give it a couple of years, or possibly decades, and you will be just fine.
perhaps you have amazingly low self esteem and are unwilling to admit it. or maybe you are equally as bad of a person and know you do not deserve to be happy. did you try talking to a professional
Probably you lack some excitement because you consider your life boring.
Nice guys, even though they are nice, are often too quiet and friendly, it makes them uninteresting
I have always fallen for women that steal, lie and cheat. I don't know why. But I've been single now for five years and intend on staying that way unless someone remarkable comes along
Nothing is wrong with you you're a girl and that is called attraction , congratulations you actually noticed but you can't really do anything about it , its just the way it is.
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