I kissed with one guy, and I really liked him a lot. I found him interested and hot. But the problem is that when he kissed me(real-french kiss)) I didn't feel anything. I mean he was so excited about this, and he also was shaken, whereas I just was neutral. What does it mean?
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You didn't hold attraction with him.. Think about it - in the same situation if you both wanted to kiss each other but yet "something" kept you from doing so, you'd probably want to kiss him even more.. E.g. If he were to not have kissed you that night and instead waited, letting you dwell about what it would be like to kiss him..
The thing that, I believe, happened is that you had all these wonderful expectations for how great you'd feel when you kissed him.. But in turn, those feelings weren't satisfied because there was no tension in the situation.
Every time I think about lust/love/etc, I get butterflies, but when I don't feel those butterflies - it explains exactly what you are talking about.. That "feeling" of neutrality.
So when would you feel the same? For me, I'd feel TONS of butterflies for someone that I was strongly attracted to, but those butterflies would be non-existent with a friend.. So here you are, you like this guy a lot, you're wanting to kiss him, then BOOM!.. The kiss happens? It's almost like you get what you want right then and there, as if he's your personal butler.. There's no fun in that for me.
I want TENSION! I want EXCITEMENT!.. I want to doubt that she wants to kiss me.. Get my drift? I want to feel as if she COULD be interested, not that she is.. Because then it's absolute.. But when she "could" it leaves a SMALL hint of doubt in my mind.. That doubt is like the perfect seasoning to go with my meal, without it my meal would be bland and boring.. I want that SPICE.. that kick in the pants that I made a damn good meal.
Hope it helps,