Had a dream that my guy friend and I were in love. What does it mean?

[snowangle]

I've known this guy for nearly 3 years. I know he's liked me for at least a year and a half. We're pretty close, but I don't have feelings for him. He's shy and insecure and not the brightest bulb and a bit on the whiny and passive side. He irritates me sometimes, but he's a decent guy and a good friend.

Anyways, last night I had a dream that he confessed his love for me. And right when I was about to reject him, I found myself saying that I loved him too and we kissed. It was one of those dreams that felt real.

Now I don't even know. I don't know why that dream made me feel happy. I don't have feelings for him. Or do I? No I don't, he's irritating. But maybe... he is sweet and pretty cute, after all. Gosh!

What is happening? I'm thinking maybe I just miss the feeling of being in love. But I sort of feel like I see him differently now. Is it all in my head?

Sorry about the long post. I appreciate any help! My mind is so jumbled I can't think straight.

[annedechasse]

Love is found in many ways,

with someone known for many days,

You never know what you may miss,

if you don't take the chance to have a kiss.

My husband just said that when I read your question out!

I think you know all the bad points of your friend and if you still have him as a friend he can't be all that bad. Everybody has their bad points and I'm sure you have some too, at least you know his.

Just beware if you do start something that you risk losing him if it doesn't work and he may be heartbroken too. Perhaps say that to him first, tell him you don't want to lose him as a friend.

Good Luck, my heart goes out to you.

[Confucius16]

This is a really good answer. Perhaps the dream caused her to like her guy friend?

[kholland65]

Forget the dream, just reading this tells me you like him and can't get him out of your head. Your having the internal battle though because subconsciously you like him, but social stigma says you can't because he is your friend, so your conscious brain tries to convince the subconscious that its wrong.

[dipta]

I agree with this guy. Seems like you like him, but probably isn't social stigma what's keeping you from openly admit it, but the fact you think he's not that great. "I don't like him, he's shy and insecure...", you're denying it yet are having doubts yourself.

Knowing he likes you made you notice him, but you (your mind) don't want to fall for him. Perhaps if you try noticing and listing all his good qualities as well, you won't be having too many doubts...

[dipta]

What I mean is, just because he's not the "perfect" guy you imagined for yourself, doesn't mean he isn't great. Doesn't mean you yourself later actually decide he's perfect after all and it's not settling.

But that's for you to think about.

[kholland65]

Agree dipta, I was actually thinking after I wrote this, that part of it is that she simply sees flaws, which make her hesitate, however, the truth is, they are flaws that she can tolerate given his positive qualities.

[snowangle]

Does it sound like I like him? :O

Maybe I do, but he does these little things that bug me and I'm afraid that if he irritates me already, it might be even worse if we started dating. He acts so clingy as it is. :/ But he is a great guy, and I have no problem with dating friends (I actually prefer it). Gah I dunno. Thanks for answering. :)

[kholland65]

I just feel he most likely wouldn't be on your mind like this if you didn't have at least some sort of feelings for him.

You have to understand that everyone has flaws. That doesn't make him unfit for dating. It only makes him unfit if those flaws happen to be ones you cannot tolerate or don't mesh well with you. I'm not saying date people who are full of flaws, but don't write people off just because they aren't perfect. As far as being clingy, would you rather your Boyfriend act like he doesn't

[kholland65]

care about you? Be careful what you wish for. I think you rather have a guy who cares a bit too much about you than the other way around. See he's not clingy, he just cares for you and likes being around you.

[Anonymous]

It's all in your head.

It's just a dream.

It's not part of the world in reality.

If you don't like him, then you really don't like him.

Your dream just surpasses your imaginations sometimes.

[CaptainJackH]

I don't think "missing the feeling of being in love" is a smart way to start another interaction

[snowangle]

I wasn't planning on starting anything :) Just want to figure out my feelings is all.

[CaptainJackH]

Hrm...yeah. I suppose you do have the feelings there. It's a tough one. I myself don't believe in having "multiple loves" though I do feel it is possible to fool ourselves into thinking we loved someone when in all reality it was infatuation.

[Levin]

The dream means you are going to get married. You can't get out of it. It is fated. ;)

[snowangle]

Nooooo

[Anonymous]

If he is sweet and pretty cute, then why is he irritating?

[snowangle]

He's very clingy and also has a pessimistic/negative attitude most of the time. I get tired of the pity parties haha.