Is it a deal breaker if a guy doesn't have a car?

[Anonymous]

[aicarg]

It depends how old he is, his life status, the circumstances of our relationship and where it's headed...

If he was in his late 20s and was looking to settle down, I'd care for both of us to work out way towards a car before having a family.

If the guy was someone who had recently moved to the country and still had to obtain his license or was unsure of his status in staying in the country which made him not concerned in wanting a car, it's understandable to me.

[aicarg]

Sorry, typo - Work our* way towards a car before having a family.

Haha love how I'm thumbs drowned. Hated by guys who can't think far in the hardship of not having a car. When you're in a committed relationship and if down the road life happens to give you a family, having to call a taxi/uber/bus when a child has a high fever and you can't drive your child to the hospital is rather a scary thought. Or even having to carry groceries home and commute isn't fun when one lives in a rural or suburban area. A car becomes a necessity at a certain point.

[Asker]

true that

[jennifer_bloom]

It depends on his age and how much I like him. If I like him a lot and he has a good personality then him not having a car is no big deal. If his personality isn't superb - I will expect him to be either very good looking or very rich.

[Maxim245]

Very good looking *OR* very rich?
What are you going to do with a poor dude, who lives in a crappy apartment, has no car, is a complete asshole, but looks like Brad Pitt? :D

[Maxim245]

At least if he was rich, you could be... like... a gold-digging bitch or smth

[Kenni]

Lol could she sound anymore like one 😂

[Tron5678]

Whatever floats your boat. Let's say his personality is shit but good looking or rich but are you on the same financial level or at at least good looking?

If not then I think you take your self a little too seriously and important ( I smell narcissism and a slacker) but if yes fair enough because I would not date a woman who is not at same level as me both financially and looks as well as a likeable personality cuz a better way to put would be conflicts between two lifestyle and values.

[xxchanges]

If you guys are getting offended by her comment; you didn't read correctly. She's saying if he treats her well, and has a great personality.. It's fine. On the other hand if he's a stuck up a-hole, then yeah... He needs to have a reason to be stuck up.

[kaskas19]

I love how many people are offended.

[ENTP_EMO]

nice downvotes.
(i upvoted)

[cavmanier]

@xxchanges

It's because she implied money makes up for not having a good personality.

[ok285]

I wouldn't say im ugly and im not poor at all but this isn't love at all ur disgusting

[OmgItsJoe123]

I wasn't offended, but this... this is pure cancer here.

[MimiHashima]

Wow.. this got jus about most to everyone triggered.. o-o;;

[ok285]

@MimiHashima cuz her text is pure cancer

[RetroAlpha]

Wow. Golden shovel award.

If a guy doesn't have a car, it could mean that he doesn't want one. Maybe he likes walking or biking to work. Maybe his job doesn't pay him enough to afford a car - does that make him a bad person? Will he always have that crappy job?

Get your eyes off our wallets, ladies, we're up here.

[Asker]

thank you

[Kenni]

Yeah i really think some girls are missing a part of their brain

[Unit1]

I loved your analogy with the wallet whereas we look at women's breasts. 😂😂😂 🤣 awesome. I'll remember that 😊

[RetroAlpha]

@Unit1 Glad you got a chuckle off of that :)

[Unit1]

This must be MHO 😂😀

[Massageman]

Depends on the reason he doesn't have a car. Maybe he lives a block from campus/job and he can easily walk there. Maybe he's under a pile of debt from going to law school. I'd do more to find out the situation before I'd "break a deal" because of car ownership or lack of it.

[OlderAndWiser]

Depends on his age, the reason for not having a car, and how long he has been without transportation.

[scott04sa22]

I don’t drive but I have disabilities and medical reasons on why I don’t drive and most women finds it more attractive for man behind a wheel

[HARDendMeat]

I know for a fact it is a deal breaker with most women. Especially when a man my age doesn't drive but elects to take the bus. I agree, the bus is a lousy way to impress a woman. It would not impress me at all. However, I have not driven legally since 1995. I got a DUI from drugs, not alcohol. i was high and wasn't paying attention, was driving 20 mph over the speed limit and caused a really bad accident. I ran from the scene and when I was caught, an hour later, I found out I had seriously injured 8 people and killed one. I totaled 6 cars. When I got out of prison, my license was revoked but I didn't care. I swore I would never hurt another person or destroy families again. I drove once since because my friend had od and I had to take her away from the drug house to a hospital. I got her to er, threw up and checked myself into rehab. I still won't drive and even though I have good reason not to, it is a status thing for women. So all you women saying you dont mind, are sparing our feelings. Thank you

[1truekhaleesi]

Depends. If you live in a city where you can walk to a lot of places and public transportation is very prevelant, no car is not a big deal at all. If I lived in a big city with plenty of public transport, I probably wouldn't have a car either.

My last boyfriend didn't have a car and I at first thought it wasn't a big deal. It really was though because before we started dating, he had a car but completely wrecked it and left the scene. When we started dating, he lied to me and said it was his brother that crashed his car. He made no effort to get a job do he could get a car and used me as a taxi service. I think this has more to do with his immature and shitty character than anything though.

In general, having no car isn't a huge deal. I got my first car for my 18th birthday and I later paid my parents back. My parents are pretty well off but not everyone's parents are.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Since I live in a city and do not have one and would assume he lives within accessible public transportation than it is not. However, if he lives in suburbia and I'm in the city, he better have a car otherwise it's feasible and fiscally not worth the time and money spent on just "seeing if our personalities are compatible." If I lived in suburbia I would probably have a car myself and would expect him to have a car (just has to work not be fancy) as a basic means of not being completely dependent on third parties to get you places. Basic places like the grocery store to feed yourself.

[milantb1]

What if he uses a bike to get places to save the enviroment and his health

[cutiebytheshore123]

@Milantb broke broke broke 😂🤣

[wolfcat87]

It is DEFINITELY a deal breaker for me. I value my freedom and ability to go where I want when I want. I love to travel and go on random road trips. I value my time, and I will not waste a moment of my precious time waiting for a bus. I value a man who is responsible, hard working, family ready, and is as interested in getting out and going places as I am. Those types of men have cars. They don't have to have the most expensive car, it just has to be a good car, reliable, and well cared for.

Teenagers are an exception. Teens do not have to have a car. Any hard working, responsible man past the age of 20 can have a car. They may choose not to. I respect that. The fact is that there's no reason why they cannot unless they have made some really bad decisions in life. If a man is in his mid 20's with no car, then I hear alarm bells.

[milantb1]

Do you have a car?

[wolfcat87]

@milantb1 Definitely

[milantb1]

So who is stopping your freedom?

[milantb1]

Couldnt you just use your car

[wolfcat87]

@milantb1 I could, but am I a free taxi for this person? I can be free all by myself or free with someone just as free. lol

[milantb1]

But you want him to be a free taxi for you?

[wolfcat87]

@milantb1 Ha ha ha, how personally invested in this are you to keep attempting to jump to the worst instead of taking it at face value? We both drive depending on the day and place. It's the same for friends and romantic relationships. I just don't have room in my life for a friend who is chronically carless.

[milantb1]

And women say men are pigs when they only chase men with money

[wolfcat87]

@milantb1 Ha ha ha, please read what I actually wrote. It does not have to be a great car. It just has to work. You can get a cheap car that works for $2,500-$5,000. That's a drop in the bucket. Definitely doesn't mean a man has any money worth chasing. But, by your comment, some men really are pigs if they expect the relationship to be so one sided that they think a girl should want to be with them when they don't meet her standards of being able to get around on his own and take turns driving. So entitled.

[milantb1]

you're calling me entitled yet you're the one who demands a car in the relationship. Ill date a girl if she has no money and no car

[wolfcat87]

@milantb1 I don't demand a car. lol. I simply don't want a man without one the same way you don't want a girl with one. Talk about hypocrisy.

[milantb1]

What? you're retarded you can't even read

[wolfcat87]

@milantb1 Perhaps it is you who does not understand basic English or logic? My reading comprehension skills have always been in the top 2% of the population for my entire country.

[milantb1]

Well i just said ill date a girl who doesn't have a car to which you replied that i won't date a girl with no car. Which means you can't read

[wolfcat87]

@milantb1 Ha ha ha, this is priceless! I wrote "the same way you don't want a girl WITH one". I never said you won't date a girl with no car. Go ahead and compare this to what I wrote. It is you who have read my post incorrectly and then proceeded to rant about me being the one who cannot read... oh the irony!

[milantb1]

Its always you ethnic women that are angry af. No wonder black and brown men only date white women your attitude is terrible

[wolfcat87]

@milantb1 You must be an ethnic woman then. You've been the angry one since you started ranting on my post. Ha ha ha. Such a child, and you are certainly not the brightest person. At least I know it's just a defect with you. So unintelligent to generalize.

[milantb1]

I dont how you think you are smart when you dont own a single medal not even from a spelling bee. So how do you know if you're smart if youve never been tested?

[wolfcat87]

@milantb1 Ha ha ha, now you are attempting to guess whether I've been tested or what medals or qualifications I have? I have to tell you a secret. Writing random illogical assumptions about strangers online does not in any way make your delusional ramblings true.

[Veiled]

(21M) no car, can drive... i can't afford to buy a car cos im paying for mortgage... is it weird?

[wolfcat87]

@Veiled Weird but also interesting. Good priorities, nothing wrong with it if you're happy. Just not my cup of tea. A girl without a house might be into it.

[MimiHashima]

I don’t find that a deal breaker. It’s nice being able to walk around together and or maybe even take a bus or something somewhere. It maybe convenient for the time, but not a critical deal breaker for me.

[MimiHashima]

This is my own personal preferences so I don’t care much about the down votes.

[Asker]

I don't know either but thumbs up for you

[Anonymous]

I dated a guy and I think he only used me for my car. I don’t mind a guy not having one but if he asks me for rides left and right when we don’t even have plans then I break it off. For instance the guy I dated would call me to pick up him or his brother etc.

[wadeabeee]

Yes, but they'll say no because it depends if you got more to give. Like if you got money, a big dick, popularity/fame or clout they can feed off of, and or seemingly some cool talent. But there's a small 2% that care about getting to know you, but most of them are fat.

[massb]

What does weight have to do with it?

[wadeabeee]

I don't know. If I had to speculate maybe the fat women have less respect about themselves so therefore they give lower standards for people they date because they don't think they deserve better. Most attractive people feel they deserve either equal or better than they are.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

Not for me. I have a car myself , so we can go places in my car and I can pick him up in mine .

[looneymalooney]

soo, when can you come pick me up?

[Fitness-Fanatic]

@looneymalooney

😂 Monday at 12pm?😜

[SarahVanRensburg]

It’s just a car so no it’s not a deal breaker. Obviously you need to get places but if you’re in walking distance then that’s great since walking is good for you. If it’s too far to walk then public transport is your next best bet. I have a car but I personally prefer to walk. You get to see more, exercise, have fresh air, think and walk past some people you get to brighten up their day with a smile.

[Anonymous]

I have a lexus IS350 but I live in Hong Kong and there is no need for it and one of my earliest mistake moving here. Parking space cost HKD$6400 that is $819 USD. It's good for any sudden emergency and super late night and that's it.( Gf's comfort zone is a bit huge:p)
Owning a car in HK is itself a deal breaker for women here and I still get get mocked for it lol and a private parking space is more expensive than buying a single bedroom apartment here (usd$600k+ min)

I think owning a car is more of necessity in suburban areas and not in world class metropolitan cities cuz transport services are generally pretty good in most of these cities and cabs are super cheap in HK at least

[AlienParasite]

No. My boyfriend doesn't have a car. Would it be cooler if he had a car? Maybe, but not necessary. I'm with him cause I like his personality. I want a boyfriend not a chouffeur.

[Lance1965]

From my experience it usually is for women. They take it as a sign you are poor. I have been rejected a few times for not having a car including one time when the woman didn't have a car herself. Double standards and different rules for women.

[Kenni]

Women suck

[Veiled]

😬damn

[Stanix11]

AM I a date his car? No. IDc if he’s poor or ugly. I care about the way he treats me and how he treats his parents

[Nerdyc]

I wish I could get your number :)

[MissRee]

So I’ve just started seeing this guy not officially or anything yet just getting to know each other and I mean we got a long really well he has all of the qualities I’m looking for. But... he doesn’t drive! As soon as he told me my heart sank because he lives in the city and I live in the suburbs and I drive but I also have 2 children I’m at that stage where I want to be able to settle down with the right man but I’m thinking for the future and how hard it’s going to be I don’t really have the time to put my kids in the car and go back and forth all the time to pick him up I also work and do before and after school care plus daycare travels so I do a lot of driving as it is. I’m incredibly independent and I just don’t like the idea of running around for someone all the time... so for me it’s a deal breaker.

[AZC90]

Everybody has to start somewhere. And not everyone's family is privileged enough to be able to supply someone's first car. As long as it's a goal that somebody is actually working towards, I don't think it can be held against them

[Drener]

No it is not a deal breaker..
Just gotta.. make some time and earn enough money so u can get a car

[Asker]

thats not the thing tho, i dont want car, fear of driving

[Drener]

I understand
But how can u go places for example
Doctors , dentist , grocery shopping ,
What if u had a child or what if ur wife or girlfriend got sick.. what about ur animals?
How would u take care of them
U can't just relay on people everyday to take u everywhere
U need to get a vechile of some sort..
And over come that fear of yours

[Asker]

damn you hit me with the truth

[Drener]

I know it is the truth

[Shoenron]

Public transport and if I'm ever in hurry I'll just take a cab, if I ever want to go on a road trip I'd rent a car. I'm not buying a car any time soon.

[Drener]

I'm sorry but that is just plain stupid
That will just waste your money
Why not buy a car what u can afford less then ur price range and afford it per month then wasting ur money on transportation..

[sarahhcmarie]

for my age, or even at 18, nah. not a big deal unlike some girls think. but i would say by 18 you should plan soon on getting a car for your job and moving out and all that. it also depends where you live. some places you don't need cars to get around

[milantb1]

People in college dont drive cars

[sarahhcmarie]

@milantb1 yeah, some do

[Ellie-V]

No. But it mainly depends on why they don’t have a car. As long as it’s reasonable, then I’m not gonna complain

[milantb1]

Whats a non reasonable reason for not having a car?

[Ellie-V]

Not having a car because you would rather be driven around by family/friends with their own car. That is a dumb reason to not have a car in my opinion and yes I’ve actually heard dudes say this 😂

[milantb1]

I dont have a car because insurance costs 3000 euro a year and i rather save those 3000 euro

[Ellie-V]

Okay... what’s your point?

[Anonymous]

Well honestly it shouldn’t be. I mean if we’re talking about equality and gender roles why do you as the man need to be the one who hasn’t to have a car? Shouldn’t!!!

[White_Widow]

Equality you say? So why can't we both have one?