It depends how old he is, his life status, the circumstances of our relationship and where it's headed...
If he was in his late 20s and was looking to settle down, I'd care for both of us to work out way towards a car before having a family.
If the guy was someone who had recently moved to the country and still had to obtain his license or was unsure of his status in staying in the country which made him not concerned in wanting a car, it's understandable to me.
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It depends on his age and how much I like him. If I like him a lot and he has a good personality then him not having a car is no big deal. If his personality isn't superb - I will expect him to be either very good looking or very rich.
Wow. Golden shovel award.
If a guy doesn't have a car, it could mean that he doesn't want one. Maybe he likes walking or biking to work. Maybe his job doesn't pay him enough to afford a car - does that make him a bad person? Will he always have that crappy job?
Get your eyes off our wallets, ladies, we're up here.
Depends on the reason he doesn't have a car. Maybe he lives a block from campus/job and he can easily walk there. Maybe he's under a pile of debt from going to law school. I'd do more to find out the situation before I'd "break a deal" because of car ownership or lack of it.
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Depends on his age, the reason for not having a car, and how long he has been without transportation.
I know for a fact it is a deal breaker with most women. Especially when a man my age doesn't drive but elects to take the bus. I agree, the bus is a lousy way to impress a woman. It would not impress me at all. However, I have not driven legally since 1995. I got a DUI from drugs, not alcohol. i was high and wasn't paying attention, was driving 20 mph over the speed limit and caused a really bad accident. I ran from the scene and when I was caught, an hour later, I found out I had seriously injured 8 people and killed one. I totaled 6 cars. When I got out of prison, my license was revoked but I didn't care. I swore I would never hurt another person or destroy families again. I drove once since because my friend had od and I had to take her away from the drug house to a hospital. I got her to er, threw up and checked myself into rehab. I still won't drive and even though I have good reason not to, it is a status thing for women. So all you women saying you dont mind, are sparing our feelings. Thank you
Depends. If you live in a city where you can walk to a lot of places and public transportation is very prevelant, no car is not a big deal at all. If I lived in a big city with plenty of public transport, I probably wouldn't have a car either.
My last boyfriend didn't have a car and I at first thought it wasn't a big deal. It really was though because before we started dating, he had a car but completely wrecked it and left the scene. When we started dating, he lied to me and said it was his brother that crashed his car. He made no effort to get a job do he could get a car and used me as a taxi service. I think this has more to do with his immature and shitty character than anything though.
In general, having no car isn't a huge deal. I got my first car for my 18th birthday and I later paid my parents back. My parents are pretty well off but not everyone's parents are.Since I live in a city and do not have one and would assume he lives within accessible public transportation than it is not. However, if he lives in suburbia and I'm in the city, he better have a car otherwise it's feasible and fiscally not worth the time and money spent on just "seeing if our personalities are compatible." If I lived in suburbia I would probably have a car myself and would expect him to have a car (just has to work not be fancy) as a basic means of not being completely dependent on third parties to get you places. Basic places like the grocery store to feed yourself.
It is DEFINITELY a deal breaker for me. I value my freedom and ability to go where I want when I want. I love to travel and go on random road trips. I value my time, and I will not waste a moment of my precious time waiting for a bus. I value a man who is responsible, hard working, family ready, and is as interested in getting out and going places as I am. Those types of men have cars. They don't have to have the most expensive car, it just has to be a good car, reliable, and well cared for.
Teenagers are an exception. Teens do not have to have a car. Any hard working, responsible man past the age of 20 can have a car. They may choose not to. I respect that. The fact is that there's no reason why they cannot unless they have made some really bad decisions in life. If a man is in his mid 20's with no car, then I hear alarm bells.I don’t find that a deal breaker. It’s nice being able to walk around together and or maybe even take a bus or something somewhere. It maybe convenient for the time, but not a critical deal breaker for me.
I dated a guy and I think he only used me for my car. I don’t mind a guy not having one but if he asks me for rides left and right when we don’t even have plans then I break it off. For instance the guy I dated would call me to pick up him or his brother etc.
Yes, but they'll say no because it depends if you got more to give. Like if you got money, a big dick, popularity/fame or clout they can feed off of, and or seemingly some cool talent. But there's a small 2% that care about getting to know you, but most of them are fat.
Not for me. I have a car myself , so we can go places in my car and I can pick him up in mine .
It’s just a car so no it’s not a deal breaker. Obviously you need to get places but if you’re in walking distance then that’s great since walking is good for you. If it’s too far to walk then public transport is your next best bet. I have a car but I personally prefer to walk. You get to see more, exercise, have fresh air, think and walk past some people you get to brighten up their day with a smile.
I have a lexus IS350 but I live in Hong Kong and there is no need for it and one of my earliest mistake moving here. Parking space cost HKD$6400 that is $819 USD. It's good for any sudden emergency and super late night and that's it.( Gf's comfort zone is a bit huge:p)
Owning a car in HK is itself a deal breaker for women here and I still get get mocked for it lol and a private parking space is more expensive than buying a single bedroom apartment here (usd$600k+ min)
I think owning a car is more of necessity in suburban areas and not in world class metropolitan cities cuz transport services are generally pretty good in most of these cities and cabs are super cheap in HK at leastNo. My boyfriend doesn't have a car. Would it be cooler if he had a car? Maybe, but not necessary. I'm with him cause I like his personality. I want a boyfriend not a chouffeur.
From my experience it usually is for women. They take it as a sign you are poor. I have been rejected a few times for not having a car including one time when the woman didn't have a car herself. Double standards and different rules for women.
AM I a date his car? No. IDc if he’s poor or ugly. I care about the way he treats me and how he treats his parents
So I’ve just started seeing this guy not officially or anything yet just getting to know each other and I mean we got a long really well he has all of the qualities I’m looking for. But... he doesn’t drive! As soon as he told me my heart sank because he lives in the city and I live in the suburbs and I drive but I also have 2 children I’m at that stage where I want to be able to settle down with the right man but I’m thinking for the future and how hard it’s going to be I don’t really have the time to put my kids in the car and go back and forth all the time to pick him up I also work and do before and after school care plus daycare travels so I do a lot of driving as it is. I’m incredibly independent and I just don’t like the idea of running around for someone all the time... so for me it’s a deal breaker.
Everybody has to start somewhere. And not everyone's family is privileged enough to be able to supply someone's first car. As long as it's a goal that somebody is actually working towards, I don't think it can be held against them
No it is not a deal breaker..
Just gotta.. make some time and earn enough money so u can get a carfor my age, or even at 18, nah. not a big deal unlike some girls think. but i would say by 18 you should plan soon on getting a car for your job and moving out and all that. it also depends where you live. some places you don't need cars to get around
No. But it mainly depends on why they don’t have a car. As long as it’s reasonable, then I’m not gonna complain
Well honestly it shouldn’t be. I mean if we’re talking about equality and gender roles why do you as the man need to be the one who hasn’t to have a car? Shouldn’t!!!
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