What makes you want to date a girl?

Question

As opposed to just wanting to fuck her? What qualities does she possess that make her stand out from other women? Physical attraction is obvious, but what would make you genuinely want to get to know a girl?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

First, there has to be mutual attraction - not only do I have to find her attractive, but she has to find me attractive too (and I am far from great looking). She has to want ME - not just my house or my wallet or my future prospects.

She needs to be reasonable and realistic about life - I've met a lot of women over the years who have little or nothing themselves, often are deep in debt, and they think that dating should mean traveling and fancy vacations, or her quitting her job to hang out with her friends and shop while a maid, nanny, and gardener take care of everything else at home.

Then, we have to be "long-term relationship compatible" - similar morals, values, life goals, etc.

That's hard to find in another person, but amazing when you do.

dr1fter · Accepted Answer

First, I absolutely can't have meaningless sex. It just doesn't appeal to me if there's no emotional bond🤷‍♂️

As for what would make me genuinely want to get to know a girl? I'd say a compatible personality and shared interests. I find women to be attractive if they share my sense of humor, are down-to-earth, kind, generous, open minded, determined, feminine, independent, adventurous, and whatever other traits I value in a person.

In other words, I'm attracted to women who are subjectively physically appealing and possess a compatible personality. Personality is the most important part of a woman's character in a meaningful relationship.

wini1234 · Accepted Answer

Okay some of these opinions are so hilarious i mean the fact that a guy literally wrote the fact that he wants to date a woman because a guy can't impregnate a child on his own is the true indication how we are running out of boys who genuinely respect woman and live them for their beautiful soul. Let me tell u what boys these days want... They want a insecure woman who is dependent on them.. They like the fact that their girl is dependent on them, they dont like it when girls are independent and mature... its a fact guys... Its not that m a anti - man girl or i genuinely hate boys... I dont hate boys... But this is a fact thqt boys like insecure girls

LuvAsh · Accepted Answer

Most people on here say what they want but don't go after that type of girl OR don't appreciate her when they get her. Not tryna make anyone mad, just stating what I see🤷

Anonymous · Answer

I’m not a casual sex type of guy, and I’ve never “just fucked” anyone. There must be more.

A woman who is smart is probably number one. An education is one thing, but almost anyone can get through school if they try hard enough. I’m talking about a thirst for knowledge, the willingness and ability to challenge me when she disagrees with me, quick humor, an avoidance of the occult and pseudoscience (tarot and astrology, for example), someone who is entertained by much more than celebrity gossip and reality television, who doesn’t treat me like an outcast if I use vocabulary above the 5th grade level, who knows the difference between fact and opinion, and who can be stimulating from conversation alone.

It’s crucial that a woman has a passion of some sort. If she’s totally into something and is so excited by it and rewarded by doing it, it shows me she has an inner life and doesn’t define herself by her friends or by her man. She is her own person and can find sufficient company in herself.

A thirst for adventure. Travel. Being outdoors. Trying new cuisine. Trying a new sport. Going to see live music and art. She knows that experiences are worth much more than possessions.

Those would definitely set her apart.

zombiejagër · Answer

Gona be honest here and go on a limb right. I COULD NOT CARE for physical attraction i also have no urge for sex (kinda got me in the situation where i got a kid and im not aloud to see him)

What makes me want to daye a girl? Im lonely as FUUCCKK. <-- see that, thats all. Well to explain i have no family, i left them when i was 19 and moved across the world away so i have legit noone. Friends are great but u can't hold them close when ur down, or just tickle them or hug them and watch movies, u can't take them on cute as fuck dates just to see them smile, u can't walk around the house in their underwear judt to make them laugh and u sure as hell can't wait to finish work just to go see them and spend time with them. (I ride a motorbike so 80% of my mates are bikers... and that type of stuff just doesmt swing well ya no?)

And why would i want to get to know her? Well first off why does she like me? Whats her back story? Why the hell would she even possibly be interested in a failed guy with a fucked up history, no memory of 2017, slightly insane (i got to therapy tho so im fine...) and who struggles with sarcasum (im far to honest so yea i dont get it)

Yes i know its a long reply but thats my reason, i just hope i find a girl someday, everything else is a bonus. Good looks? Bonus, rides a bike? Omg bonus, likes video games, fuckin yea bonus, likes drinking? 100% bonus but i honestly couldnt care aslomg as i had a girl to call mine

Knighted2170 · Answer

I did a MyTake on some of traits I look for. You can look them over with this link.
14 Traits Men Find Attractive In Women ↗
If I were to really sum everything up into some simple words. She is just a cool person who brings some value into my life. There is something about her that she can bring to make me a better person.
That's really what I'm looking for.

As for the mindless sex. I just did a MyTake on that today.
How does sex feel for the opposite sex? How can we raise the sexual bar for our partner? ↗
If there isn't any real connection, it's nothing more than satisfying an animalistic urge. That's not appealing, I'm still left feeling unsatisfied. I need to have that connection.

rjroy3 · Answer

As far as non physical traits: in no particular order

1. She loves men and appreciates them
2. Genuine individual
3. Caring
4. Kind
5. Playful
6. A loyal friend
7. Adventurous
8. Can take criticism without getting overly defensive. Like if I do my absolute best to provide constructive criticism, while keeping her feelings in mind she is capable of taking that.
9. Is accepting of the things I like to do. It's fine if she lightly teases me, but it needs to be in good heart.
10. Has real friendships that are longstanding. Having a real life long best friend is a huge bonus, because that's rare to see for girls. Granted this isn't a requirement, just a huge bonus that I personally respect.

But the core list for me is:

1. Kind
2. Caring
3. Genuine
4. Playful/Adventurous
5. Kinky - when I say that I mean more enthusiastic and open to experimentation. Not like she needs to be into bondage or anything lol.

FinalVow · Answer

actually I wanted to date a girl before even realizing what she looked like. I have a weird problem in that I can't actually look at someone that way so I could stare at them all damn day and not even realize if they were attractive or not. For me when I get to know there personality I either want to date them or I want to drop them off a building. after that I can see them physically and I will actually feel an emotion based on there looks. I also have no interest in making love to the woman I am romantically interested in I am happy just being with her. If that comes in the future then so be it. I am just letting things go as they are what happens, happens. I know myself well enough to know that I will stop before making love even if my body wants it so long as it feels wrong. when it feels right then I will

WildNekoWolf · Answer

Honestly, her personality is a great factor. I prefer smart girls and girls that don't have a big ego. I love nice girls and girls that are strong enough to deal with bullies and other dickwads if I'm not there. But a question I ask myself is, how trustworthy will they be? I like girls that I can trust a lot. I also like girls that prefer to stay inside and drink cocoa[just a random choice] while we watch a movie on the couch. Someone that doesn't dress to impress me, but instead does the opposite; a girl that dresses in clothes she finds comfortable.

Anonymous · Answer

If a girl is interested and dedicated to making making the world better, I wanna date her. You know, like helping our civilization, sending out a message to the world that is both positive and logical.

I've always dreamed of making the world better in ways only a mad scientist would waste his time on. I dream of a world without divisions in society. Which also makes me feel like an idiot because what would a 22 year old sitting at home with no idea HOW to make his dream come true in this day and age do? If I could just find one girl who shares this crazy mission of mine, I'd be ready to spend eternity with her in a heartbeat.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

This. And everything as close to it as possible. "Physical attraction is obvious." Yeah... it's the first, most important thing. Personality in all its various complexities and nuances, while important, are secondary. If someone of the opposite sex doesn't pass the attraction litmus test, you won't stay interested in them.

ravenengr · Answer

Can hold an intelligent conversation and isn't affraid to challenge my opinions or thoughts. Is independent, comfortable in her own skin and knows who she is and what she wants. Good sense of humor, knows when and how to be proper and formal, and knows when/how to be naughty

MecheD · Answer

The thing that sets a woman up to be “wifey material “ is the way she carries herself for one... also the reputations she has if she only gives her self to a few rather than many. Also if her concern is truly about your well being rather than what she stands to lose if you weren’t there to provide.

rpgeek · Answer

Since your talking about the difference between just wanting sex to wanting to date. For me it seems like some women think that the long legged, blonde haired, busty women is the ideal which if i just wanted a one night stand would be ok but for me cute and nice is so much better. A good person who i can get along with, joke with, talk to, and care for is the person who i want to be with.

iskg679 · Answer

My list is too long to describe. My mytake sums it all up.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Well i just want someone close to me who i can always depend on been there for me and also her been like me and that's what every other guy looks for someone who is most like them so you can both understand and like/love each other. Tbh i never understand realtionships when there both diffrent from each other i think that would just be a mess been with someone nothing like yourself.

OnitheWanderer · Answer

If a girl intrigues me.. Surely i will want to know basically everything about her (creepy vibe) hahaha... but seriously, to make me be intrigued, the girl must have something unique that appeals to me (it doesn't matter her looks) but mostly her character or personality or humor.

winterfox10 · Answer

For me it's elegance, intellect, and charm. I'm an aesthete, so I essentially demand that my partners have taste and refinement, even if it's not taste I would necessarily agree with, she needs to have purpose in doing things the way she does. Intellect, because who doesn't love a good conversation? Charm, because I like having fun. If you have those 3 qualities, I'll consider you potential dating material.

Loozeroo · Answer

A girl who is at a similar wavelength to me in terms of ambition, intelligence, understands my sense of humour and confident with herself... Basically someone I can easily speak to and be myself around :)

BHooper · Answer

Girls that are family orientated but also have a great sense of humour. Kindness. Doing little things like saying please and thank you can go along way and is extremely attractive. As well as just helping other's out of kindness and being a loving person.

H4mz4wy · Answer

There isn't one specific answer to this question because every man wants to date for different reasons. Yes, there are some reasons that all men have, like we want a woman who would simply make us stop wanting to look or want any other one. The one who would make all the shit goes away when we are having a bad day and most importantly one who is loyal.
Try answering the question " what makes you want to date a man?" And you will find many similar answers to those you will get from your answer.

Anonymous · Answer

Their mind, personality and similarity of interests. The only time I've come close to love was where something in the way they wrote/spoke touched something fundamental in me. Not entirely sure why that happened but it did. Of course, physical features do play a part in it as well.

BraveHeart97 · Answer

That she actually cares. The women I’ve dated never seemed to care about my dreams or ambitions. They usually treat me as I’m just another possible gateway for them to have a luxurious life like they see on Instagram. Definitely was a degrading experience.

chrisbigman · Answer

I would want to date a woman because a guy cannot get pregnant on his own and a man and a woman are needed to have a family, and I'm a man that would be open to having a family. Of course, it shouldn't be forgotten that there must be a mutual attraction. I'd rather not be with her if I'm not attracted to her, and I'd rather not be with her if she's not attracted to me. Women tend to have a kinder personality, and I like that a lot.

Pejtu · Answer

first impression ( looks yes i really mean it ) she has to be attractive for me
second it comes to personality compatibility ( same life values , attitude for life) and other stuff when everything is ok im good to go
but there are some hard NO NO's when i met a woman
but its another story :)

Abogado-no-mas · Answer

Well... in my case is kinda weird. I just follow my gut. I know im into a girl for a real relationship when i feel curious about his way of acting and thinking.

If she got his own opinions and can express them without worry about hurt the feeling of others. Thats a big plus on my list.

hopefully_helpful · Answer

For me it's the story she has of her past and all the adventures she experienced to get to where she is, other times its her smile or laugh that makes me want to see and hear it more often

James_R · Answer

List not all inclusive or in order of importance but: Attractive, funny, complimentary personality (we get on well), intelligent, fun, kind, generous.

djmzes · Answer

Simple

Anonymous · Answer

1. Attractive
2. Trait Preferences

Like I like a modest girl, not dressed like a slut, seems like normal/good

Some might like a party girl wearing barely anything...

3. Traits
Does she seem nice? Helping others? Doesn't complain? Hard worker/not lazy?

ATuairiscean · Answer

Obviously personality you click and when you click it can go a friendship way or a romantic attractio way sometimes a mixture of both. Genuinely can't explain go on instinct through the click and the building of a connection.

Chaz269 · Answer

If she's filthy, stinking rich, supermodel beautiful, a nymphomaniac and dumb enough to sign all of her assets over to me once I've decided she's not the best girl ever anymore. Y'know, pretty much what makes women choose men.

HuckleberryHound723 · Answer

Beyond the initial physical attraction, it's how fun she is to be around, and how interesting she is. The ability to distract from the day to day monotony of life and it's troubles is a plus.

JacksonH · Answer

Someone who's trustworthy, loyal, friendly, sense of humor, likes to smile... I guess a lot of similar qualities that girls would like from guys.

passinby · Answer

She exhibits enough class and femininity to invoke my buried and suppressed gentleman qualities.

TrixiePooch · Answer

Guys want to date a wholesome girl, they just want to screw a Ho.

Anonymous · Answer

I actually find myself taking to slower with girls I really like. But that has backfired on me on the past. They see chivalry as beta behavior if you are not careful. I got friendzoned four different excruciating times for waiting too long make a move (I was waiting for her to ask me)

Anyway she has to be honest, flexible and giving. Feminists are rarely the last two. Hoes are never the first and third. Domineering women are obviously never the middle.

BoshoM · Answer

Her personality is the most important thing, her real self not the image of her, it might be a beauty queen in the physical aspect but hollow in the most important side

MusicMayhem · Answer

Attractive AND funny. Many girls don't have this as they are conditioned to give nothing back to guys early in interactions so most guys walk off and they don't learn how to banter.

Oasha · Answer

Would she have a positive impact on my life? Is she interested in me or am I just wasting my time with her?

Kenni · Answer

Isn't it annoying when GaG decides to change the picture without even asking you. They do it all the time.

Anonymous · Answer

There have been a few times that I thought she would be a good compliment to me. We are both very similar in many ways, but we have several traits that the other doesn't. I'm more of an introvert and she is more of an extrovert. It just works well in my opinion

curiouswhitegrrrl · Answer

Most men don’t want to date a woman who had been with more than 10 men. They’ll sleep with them, but not date.

BigRob420 · Answer

For men it's hit or miss so being interested in them is a good start. If you're looking for a wife material list then you need to find someone looking for a wife.

MedicalAdventure · Answer

When I like her as a person in a sense that I feel she is a caring person.  I love girls that show affection and are not just trying to get attention from guys. I hate those bitches

Lovvyyy · Answer

If the question is "starting dating" is just that they are physically attracted to one and she didn't show yet a significant having a personality they don't like.

MM442 · Answer

She had a nice kind personality. Wants to be with me spend time with me instead of just fucking me and then run. She don't smoke cigarettes. She don't want money from me is a must I have been scammed for just money.

genericname85 · Answer

it's not opposed to just wanting to fuck her. if i want to date a girl, i always want to fuck her. and when i wanna fuck a girl, might as well date her.

azzntittiz · Answer

If you obsess over these thoughts you'll be miserable for the rest of your life.

clampfan101 · Answer

Mostly just a kind and healthy Christian lady. It’s been too long since I fell in love to give more details...

Browneye57 · Answer

Why not tell us what YOU bring to a relationship that would be considered HIGH VALUE? Or do you just not know?

Northern_star · Answer

if she looks different in a way i belueve her having innocence. i mean morally respectabpe, cause thats rare nowadays. unfortunately most of the times it turns out to be a lie.

dylanrhodes · Answer

Spending time together and getting to know each other makes us friends. The point of settling down is to raise a family. If I don't want to settle down I don't have to.

Sociopathvictim · Answer

She has to be fun around and unpredictable in a cute way.

IlyaTheImpaler · Answer

Kindness, maternal instinct, excel at cooking and cleaning 😍😍😍

Techie_Guru · Answer

I may be different on this one, but I don't like to consider physical attraction first. I'd much rather learn how you think first, act second, and look third. However, I'm not in it to hit it, so... yeah...

Anonymous · Answer

Think it's more when the guy is mature enough, to know sex is over rated and so much better when your in love...

neonred · Answer

she is beautiful, kind and silent like me. And I felt she likes me too. Still trying to get her attention tho I confessed to her that I like her... still no reply from her

zagor · Answer

Attractive, smart, interesting, active. And not bitchy.

Turhan · Answer

Only when animals, men and people come side by side, there is only one purpose of mating. But we people should not think about things like that because we use our minds and our feelings. Girl + Male = love respect Loyalty

jarvlopes · Answer

Other than attraction... I look for someone who is there for me someone who makes me do crazy stuff... Etc etc

TheFlak38 · Answer

When I start to see common interests I can go as far as leaving sex aside as a means of spice. I'd rather do everything else with her first.

luv4rice · Answer

She's cool, confident, different, not on facebook, not shy to touch my dick. I hope she has many guys b4 me so she knows what she's doing. Not jealous, love is there to share

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