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Honestly the way people talk about equality these days, one way or another I definitely think both people in a relationship should help foot the bill regardless of the activity. Whether it's the first date or the 100th date in a relationship and whether you take turns paying, or you split the bill. Both people should put a part of their finances into it.
That's the way I think it should be, at least.
I work and make my own money. I don’t believe in having him pay for it. If he wants to then he can convince me that he wants to when I tell the waitress it’s a separate bill. If he doesn’t, idc. I’ll order whatever I want without feeling bad for spending his money...
I would’ve said whoever asks the other on the date should pay but we all know men are usually the askers. I think it’s best to split the bill.
Finally someone gets it
If he's inviting me.. He needs to pay. Its not because im cheap, but to me if he has not much money yet really wants pay for me on a date, i really appreciate it..
Because i feel like he needs to appreciate me for that.. And he wins points when he does
Appreciate you for what? What does he gain on a date, that you don't gain? Why are your time and company worth more?
@Journeyman11 appreciate me as a person?
LOL
and if he can't find a reason to appreciate me then i think its a GOOD sign that he shouldn't take me on a date. We can go somewhere free instead where we can get to know each others as friends and nothing more.. Again, that wouldn't be a date.. So no kiss, no romamce etc...
Ok, if he has to show his appretiation for you as a person by paying your bill, why don't you have to do the same for him? Is he not worth of being appreciated as a person?
Why don't you have to show your appreciation? Why is the only way for you to appreciate him, for him to pay for your time and company? Why is all you care about in this interaction directed at YOU and your needs, but HE should only think about the other person?
@Journeyman11 i will show appreciation too.. To take me on a date he should pay...
How? Sex is something you SHARE, not something you GIVE to him. And if ALL you "give" to him is sex, because you fucking know he'll do everything to get it, like a user, you don't need to wonder why this is all he will see you as. Someoe who's needs he has to fulfill in order to get sex. And if there's better or cheaper sex to be had elsewhere, he will get it.
@Journeyman11 i just read your first line and had to stop.
I knew you would answer that.. I read your other comments...
No, i dont "give" my body/sex as a reward for him to pay a 10$ cinema ticket.
If im wanted to "give" sex i would do it on the street and for at least 300$$.
I would do it with him because we both appreciate each others.. It must go both ways duh.. You dont use me for sex, and i dont use you for your money.
I appreciate you and you appreciate me..
And if i go on a date with him, its that im sexually attracted to him.. But if i see that he has the only intention to use me then it will end there..
I didn't say you'd give it as a reward. Again: What do you do to show your appreciation? Everything seems equal to me, except HE has to pay for some reason. What do YOU do?
@Journeyman11 i have to pay him back?
This sounds really bad to me.
But lets pretend he's not expecting me to pay him back that 10 bucks.. I will "pay" him back with my care, appreciation, attention etc...
But usually thats not what guys want after...
@Deydey12345 so your a freeloader then? Why can’t he take you out sometimes and then you return the favour. Your acting like your appreciation is all that matters what about his. It’s not all about you. It’s a two way street he spoils you and you spoil him. Don’t expect to just take and not give anything in return
I went over that already.. Yeah eventually we will have sex.
Like normal humans? Could you read the 15 previous comments before commenting?
Lol I never said anything about sex 😐. I’m sure that something you both would enjoy anyways. But I’m saying it should go both ways he treats you sometimes and you treat him. Stop being selfish
I thought your question was about the first date
If you're going out to eat, you shouldn't have an issue with paying for your own meal. Besides I hate when others pay for me, makes me feel in debt to them, so I say split the bill.
First I believe it depends on what you're going to do for the first date. But 9 1/2 times out of 10 I'm definitely paying. This one girl I'm talking to we're not even approaching dating we're just having like meetings or interactions and I've paid all three times so far. Her money is no good to me. We're about to meet up again to go get pumpkins and I'm paying for that also.
Has she at least offered?
Most definitely. The first time we went to Starbucks and she wanted to pay for her own drink. The second time we went out to eat she wanted to pay for at least or dessert. And the third time we played GlowGolf and then had lunch and I paid for both she attempted. Most of the women that I have been with go 50-50 with me. Eventually she'll want to do something and she'll pay for it but if I'm offering then I believe it's on my dime.
Well at least you know she kind and not using you , I hope it works out for you.
Appreciate it and f you haven't ran into 1 then I hope you do so you can see the other side of the coin.
No no , I have a girl and I’ve been with her for 12 years but a lot of my friends go through this and I just seen this video on my recommended so I just wanted to see what people thought. And thanks bro.
But usually I pay for dinner and stuff but she pays for the transportation. And sometimes she pays
Perfect. Im sure there is some girls get over on guys but if it works dont change it. Wish you well
I perfer to pay my own way on the first date if possible (most guys I have been with wouldn't let me).
But at least you made the effort that’s all that counts. Men actually appreciate that. I hate how everything is always catered to women and men always have to behind over backwards
Some women take things for granted. I however don't growing up in an abusive household taught me a lot about just what humans are like. They don't have to be kind. Now everytime someone does something nice I have a tendency to thank them 😅
Lol same here
Splitting it should always be the first option unless they really like each other, then I think it sets a really good start to their relationship if he pays - I only say this because guys who are genuinely interested and turn out to have the most admirable characters tend to always insist on paying, this is just what I’ve learned from experience as a woman.
I believe if the date goes well the guy should pick up the bill, tell the girl she can get the next one. That way there is a next one. If you are splitting the bill then you are splitting up.
I'm not going on experience because I've never dated. I found my boyfriend when I was young and he makes the money so he pays for everything.
Honestly it depends on the circimstance. I am not going to pay for someone on a first date if they end up acting rude or uninterested with the evening out. I am probably not going to pay for someone who expects me to pay as well.
But if I want to see this person again, if I had an evening out that's worth more then a bigger bill then i'm paying for that shit.
In my upbringing I was taught to respect a women , and by doing so you open the door she is about to walk though , cause your trying to show your care. you pay for the food you two just ate cause your trying to impress her that your not a bum date. Now when you to are dating then things change you and her are going though life together , in turn you share the reasonability of that life. SIMPLY <3
I think going dutch is always a great choice until you decide otherwise.
For me, I would like for a man to pay for the first date. which DOES NOT mean I am relying on him to pay fully. Just a preference. I'll have my own just in case that preference is not fulfilled. Like someone else said, its bonus points for me if the man pays.
Neither the man nor the woman should expect anything on a first date. I don't expect sex and she shouldn't expect access to my money
Fair is fair
I'm old school. If the guy invites the gal, the guy pays. If the gal invites the guy, the gal pays. If it's an ongoing relationship, they might want to take turns. If it's agreed beforehand or some other arrangement, splitting is fine, (just hated by your servers).
I would gauge it by how causal the date is to begin with. There are different types of dates, sometimes you are already friends, maybe you just met the girl. I think how formal you want to be can be different.
If she was a real sweet girl and it was the FIRST date, I'd probably pay just to be nice and formal, and also since I am generally stingy with money and not likely to splurge on her very often.
Whoever asked out whichever person pays. If it was a decision made by both people equally it's split. The man only pays then out of being generous at most. Otherwise, he isn't required. That's basic dating rules lol
Splitting is probably he best option, especially if both don't know each other well, but one or both offering to pay for everything is polite.
MAN pay? What the fuck is that?
Should I man pee when I go to the bathroom?
Should I man drive after the date?
Should I man fuck her when I get her back to my man place and into my man bed?
I think it is another "mansplaining" thing...
It is getting extremely annoying now. Still have no idea what "mansplaining" is or any of the other "man" things are...
@mordredwinter You'd have to have a woman explain it to you and then SHE'D be WOMANsplaining!! Go ahead and nail a few of them on it!! If they accuse you of mansplaining, ask them what that means and then, when they give you the answer, accuse THEM of womansplaining!! See how THEY like it!!
All u poeple out there that think it's ok for guys to be paying the bill need to wake the hell up 2018 pay for what you eat females get paid out here just like man do