My first love of 7 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago. He said he was not happy in our relationship and that we argued too much. He says he loves me but that he does not want a relationship with me anymore. Since then I have been in absolute pieces. Even contemplated suicide. I keep calling him like 10 times a day and crying and pleading with him to not give up on us. He does not budge yet I can't concentrate on anything but him. Its been 3 hours now and I have not called him yet I feel I'm about to at any minute. Every time I do he just tells me I'm out of order and I shouldn't be calling him. He does not want to be friends and he said he is happy without me. He has been hanging out with his mates alt and drinking and I'm very jealous. I feel so needy but the thing is I am. I love him, he is my best friend and I can't make it an hour without speaking to him never mind try and get over him. It does not help that I have no friends and my mum and dad have never felt heart ache. I feel so alone and I keep turning to him! HELP!
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I know exactly what you are going through, and I can understand what you are feeling right now must be very painful. I did the same thing, called him over and over and just couldn't stop. He was my second real boyfriend, and hadn't been given very much advice on what not to do after a breakup. Calling him constantly is just going to remind him of the negative aspects of being in a relationship. Not contacting, might make him really start to realize that he does miss you. He can't think about missing you when he is frustrated about you continuing to call him. In order to salvage things for now, I would send him a text and say: hey I see now that you don't want to talk, so I will give you some space. sorry about all the phone calls. if you want to ever talk you know where to find me. Or say something similar to that. I know this isn't something that you want to do, but you have to come out looking more calm about it. Chances are he is also telling his friends you won't stop calling either, so they are probably further cheering him on and creating notions about you. My boyfriend was my best friend to and it was such an awful pain that I felt. You have to keep yourself busy! Be around people! Be alone as little as possible. I went out with my friends and eventually it got better. I think if I would of been more calm and collected we would of gotten back together, but I ruined one of the best relationships I have had to this date. It has almost been five years, and I still can't get over him 100%.2
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