I'm wondering this because with all the dating sites and books available, why do people have a hard time finding someone to be in a relationship with, let alone date? Even people who are in their 40's or 50's don't find someone who they can truly click with. I've only dated 2 guys, but the relationships were very short lived, so I don't know what a serious relationship is like. Whenver I like a guy, its either he doesn't feel the same or when he does, things fall apart before they even get serious. I have this stupid tendancy of dooming things before they start, because it usually goes 2 hell. I don't know, I've pretty much given up. Am I, as well as other people out there, not cut out for dating? Having a man is no big deal to me. However, I just wonder if I'm doing something wrong?
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I won't say that there is anyone who isn't cut out for dating. I think many people just find it difficult, especially the older you get without experience in dating. Guys in particular who are about my age (23) and have never dated, don't know how to ask a girl out, or what to do on a first date... and how to do the dreaded "first kiss." Many people aren't very social so they don't know how to approach people they may be interested. Simple conversation starters can be daunting to some, while holding the conversation more than to just, "hi" can be intimidating or awkward to others. Online services help out in that you can talk via messages and have time to think about what you want to say and how to interpret a message before replying. The non witty don't care because they have all day to figure out what to say. Other's want to skip the bs of finding someone they are "compatible" with so they resort to those services as well. The big issue is that these sites have become overrun with guys and girls desiring just simple flings... so that people who are interested in the more serious relationships end up getting lost in the numbers online like flowers surrounded by weeds.
But again... I don't think its so much that people aren't cut out for dating. Even the sadistic criminals need a partner in crime, no? Its just a matter of finding the right person. For you, why do things go to hell so early or fall apart? Analyze your situation and see what the root of the problem is. Are you taking things so fast that it scares off the other guy before you get to meet them? Are you asking questions about marriage and family life before knowing what he wants to do for a career? You may be doing something wrong, or maybe you are just fortunate that the guys that are leaving, just might not be the right guy for you... it's saving you the heartache of getting serious and then breaking up and leaving you in shambles. Either way, I'd say don't give up, and give yourself a self-analysis of what's going on with you and your life. You might find some unanswered questions there.1